Do you sleep less than before ?

Hi guys,

I am 47 and since approx. 1 year I sleep less than before : stop reading at 10pm, fall asleep around 10:15, usually wake up around 3:30 then fall asleep until 6:00... and that's done.

Before I could sleep at least 8 hours per night, but now it looks like 7 is my max. I am not tired, 7 seems to be ok but the problem is during the week-end : I find "boring" to get up at 6:00 while my wife will still sleep for 2 to 3 hours.

If I try to stay in bed it is worst : I can fall asleep for 30-45 minutes but I am totally exhausted for the rest of the day.

Am I the only one in this situation ?

I know a lot of us are in this boat. The layoffs are rough, and I'm also feeling like I've rotted right out of skills for my job anyway. I had a foot on the management ladder and loved it because I was coaching rather than doing the work, but lost it.

I'm constantly trying to figure out what other jobs I can do, and failing to think of anything.. so maybe I'll ask:

What job changes did your dad go through in old age?

My dad has VA disability, and was able to stay in skilled trade jobs til he took his pension and apparently they couldn't fire him. (IDK the details of that, but it's what he says)

I've got no pension, no disability, and it doesn't seem like theres much of a backout on tech work.

Anyway, curious to hear from you all.

I drank and party, grew up in the caribbean islands while young, not alcoholic but grew up in a drinking society, drank after work, weekends etc. Had fun with it until 40's now 46 and I just kinda got tired of it, same old, same old and stopped drinking maybe 5 years ago, not sure because I lost count of the days. Recently I feel like I could probably do with a drink a bit because maybe I'm missing out on sone fun and fake friends but scheduling drinking time seems so difficult, when do I drink? I have to take care of my family, spend time with my wife, walk doggies, practice playing instruments, exercise by walking or cycling. Seems like I don't have time for wasting time or hangovers. I'm going through a phase where I feel as if I'm missing out on something. Am I now lame?

I just turned 40. And I know some people aren't into social media

But most have linked in or some digital foot print.

My freshman amd sophomore year roommate was the son of a well known nationally business man. He was an English major. So, the only thing I can think of is he became a teacher somewhere and just never did social media. This one is tricky because his dad has been in company press releases for 30 years at a huge company and they share the same name. And his brother has a common variation of the name amd went to the same school. So this is a search result disaster

Then I have 3 high-school friends. All went to georgia tech. Two engineering majors and one business major. And two have no digital foot print at all. The third has a white page address pages (one of the free ones) that says he stays in apt in Washington DC valued at 2.2 to 2.5k a month. So he must be fairly successful , yet curiously no professional footprint. So I would deduce that he has a decent paying government job and likely has been a lifelong government servant

It's funny when I graduated high-school, I never would of guessed graduation day would of been the last time that id ever hear from them.

I guess with how digital everything is. And with wedding announcements, professional announcements/certifications, people could just be off the grid theor entire life. Im kind of jealous of their digital hygiene lol

I bet some of you will have some really interesting stuff. I can't wait to read the comments.

I’m in mid 30’s and because of my stupid mistakes and gambling with options, I’m in the process of filing bankruptcy. I was planning to buy a house for my family but now none of that is possible. My life and my family’s life is destroyed. I dont know how to get out of this hole.

Seriously looking to see if anybody recovered from a situation like me. Does life get better? If it does, how do you do it?

I am in a shitty situation and really need some advice . My employer ended remote and hybrid work so I have to make some hard choices. I am 48 have a wife (doesn’t work) and 13 & 14 year old kids. My options are stay where I am with my 2.5% mortgage and commute 4 hours a day round trip, move closer to work, a LCOL Midwest city and keep my current job (170k) or move to a place I really dislike, Los angles, for a salary of 350k. There are no jobs where I live now( I have been looking for a long with no luck).

Hey guys!

For those of you who are 40 or older, I have a few questions:

Are you still doing crazy shit? Still having fun? Still making stupid plans with your buddies?

I'm getting closer to 40, and honestly, my biggest fear is that life as I know it is about to end.

For some reason, deep down in my subconscious, I've convinced myself that turning 40 means it's all over.

My motorcycle will magically transform into a family car. No more beers with the boys. No more stupid ideas like, I don't know, having a full-on fireworks battle with your friends. And let's not even talk about partying.

It's like there's this invisible line at 40, and once you cross it, you're supposed to trade all the fun stuff for sensible shoes, early nights, and talking about mortgage rates.

I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but I genuinely have this fear that life is going to become boring, predictable, and all about responsibilities.

So please, tell me there's life after 40.

Tell me you're still having adventures, making questionable decisions (the harmless kind 😂), going out with your friends, and doing things that make you feel alive.

I need to hear that growing older doesn't mean growing boring.

Please tell me I'm wrong!

My son will be heading off to college, and I’m thinking about how I’d like to spend some of that extra time.

I’d love to hear about hobbies you picked up as an adult.

What did you try, and what made you stick with it?

And with 'someone who listens to you' I'm not only talking about therapists, but any kind of person that provides an empathetic service: could be a coach, an escort, maybe a hairdresser you frequently go to even if you don't need a new haircut that often, but you just enjoy the conversation.

I know this seems crude, but hear me out:

Sometimes, it can be so easy to get wrapped up in viewing our own life and situation as a 'failure' when we are constantly bombarded by glimpses of other people's lives that seemingly have some form of success. And especially if youre a loner type, you can end up stuck in your own self-examination spiral that just points downward when compared next to others.

But what can be so easy to forget (especially as a loner), can be that there is always some level of people failing just slightly worse than you are. I know it sounds weird, but just bumping into someone who is doing somewhat worse than you can immediately change your perspective and make you grateful and slightly more confident in your own abilities/situation. Its a weird thing to want to seek out, but I think it can be genuinely helpful to those who are stuck in their own minds about their life in a negative way to see and hear stories about those who are doing slightly worse.

So... does anyone feel up for offering a glimpse into anyone they know who might be doing not so great, particularly in the 30s/40s age range?

My husband’s uncle had a major surgery and has been in the hospital for 3 months, he still has so many months left. He can’t move his legs at all yet.
I cook him food often when hospital allows it. But I am going to leave the town he is in and want to give him a gift. My budget is 100 USD.
Any ideas?

If you're already earning enough to live comfortably at 30, is it worth sacrificing the next few years just to earn more? That's the dilemma I've been struggling with lately. I'm 30M, working in software, earning fairly well with no loans. Getting married soon and probably starting a family in a few years. I know that if I spend the next 2-3 years seriously up-skilling, studying after work and on weekends, I could significantly increase my salary. But that also means less time for hobbies, traveling, reading, trying new things and just enjoying life.

I've always heard that 30-35 are the most crucial years to build wealth, and that you can enjoy life later. I agree to an extent, but where do you draw the line? I'm not choosing between financial struggle and enjoying life. I'm choosing between an already comfortable income and potentially earning a lot more at the cost of my personal time. So for people over 40, looking back, was the extra money actually worth the personal time you gave up? Or do you wish you'd spent more time doing things you enjoyed?

Note: My health, sleep and fitness won't be compromised either way. The trade-off is purely between spending my free time on career growth or on things I enjoy outside of work.

I am M40 years 6'3 260lbs. Work a physical job. Drive long distances between jobs. In the middle of the night I wake up with leg cramps on my calves and hamstrings. The next day my muscles are tight and extremely sore. Ive taken prednisone which usually helps. And now methocarbomal. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated

I thought I was in decent shape. I'm fairly active, I'm outdoors a lot, and only sit at a desk about 20 hours a week. I have recently lost 35 pounds by eating sensibly for once in my life, and I have about 15 more to lose.
Three days ago, I vowed to help my fat Labrador lose the 7-8 pounds he really needs to lose (he's no spring chicken, and come to think of it, we will soon be the same age in human years vs. dog years) by walking him three miles a day. To take it easy on him, I'm splitting this into 2 - 1.5 mile walks.
Now it's the end of day three, my whole lower body is sore, and the poor dog is nearly comatose. He is snoring next to me as I write this.
So - as I stare down the barrel of the remaining second half of my fifth decade - I'm very concerned about my body going downhill, which I've seen happen hard and fast to some guys - anybody got any advice on how to tackle this? For extra hilarity, I hate going to the gym and I'm essentially a lazy person. Thanks in advance, gents.

Okay, both genders struggle but there's some things both us girls and the boys won't understand about each other. Like how girls are raised to be maids and how people can see when they hit puberty so they're no longer little girls if they have visible breasts. (if you hit puberty early as a girl, it's over for you) this is the case for 70% of girls around the world. While the sons of the house get to relax. Have you guys grown up like this? I'M LOOKING FOR SOME WISDOM

starting to hit that point where keeping things rigid throughout is getting hit or miss. doctor said vascular health is fine and suggested looking into lifestyle stuff or therapy but a buddy mentioned using a vacuum device before sex to get blood flow back up. im looking into water-based pumps like bathmate since the warm water aspect seems less aggressive on skin than dry air pumps but i honestly dont know what results can you expect from a penis pump in terms of actual erection quality? im not chasing size gains or anything crazy just want to know if routine use helps train blood vessels or if its strictly a temporary temporary expansion for an hour or two. if youve used hydro pumps for mild ED, how long did it take to notice a difference?

I’m 33, going through a rough patch in life. A bit depressed. Hoping for some inspiration and hope.

Hi.
I’m in my 30’s and I want to make the most of my 30’s.
I did not have a lot of fun in my 20’s. I’ve also lost almost all my friends when I turned 30.

I want to make my 30’s amazing.
For those who are 40 and over what do you recommend and not recommend to people in their 30’s?