My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, and honestly, everything has been great. Our parents know each other, we vibe really well, and things are getting serious.
Here’s the problem.
She had a breakup around 3 years ago, and when she was single, she hooked up with a guy 2-3 times. This guy and I have a really bad history. We live in the same society and don’t even acknowledge each other.
When we first started dating, she mentioned knowing him but said they only exchanged memes and reels on Instagram.
Yesterday, before taking a big step in our relationship, I wanted to be sure there was nothing between them. I asked her directly if anything physical had happened. She looked me in the eyes, hugged me, and confidently said absolutely nothing had happened.
I was honestly relieved.
But today, she called me and admitted she’d lied. They had hooked up 2-3 times. She says she didn’t know about my history with him and was scared I’d get angry and leave her, so she decided to tell me over the phone instead.
Now I’m confused.
I’m not someone who has a problem with my girlfriend having a past. She was single, and that’s her life. But the fact that it was THIS particular guy is a dealbreaker for me. On top of that, she looked me in the eyes and lied when I specifically asked her about it.
Apart from this, our relationship has been amazing. She’s crying and saying she doesn’t want to lose me, and part of me wants to give this relationship another chance. But I’m worried I’ll never be able to get this out of my head.
What would you do in my situation? Would you try to move past this or end the relationship?

TL;DR: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, and everything has been great. Before we got together, she hooked up 2-3 times with a guy I absolutely hate because of our own history. When I asked her about it directly, she repeatedly assured me nothing physical had happened, only to confess the next day that she had lied because she was scared I’d leave her. I’m not bothered by her having a past in general, but the fact that it was this particular guy is a huge issue for me. Now I’m torn between trying to move past it and ending an otherwise great relationship. What would you do?

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oh my heart man. how much i miss romance in my life. how much i miss listening to romantic songs, imagining a life with him and smiling akele mein.

how much i miss having someone to call to, someone to talk and listen to, being excited to share things with him.

how much i miss getting ready for someone. getting jewelery with their initials on them and wearing them so with love.

how much i miss travelling with someone, giggling and kissing them all through out it.

how much i miss having someone to come home to after a tired as fuck day and still having the biggest smile on my face because the man i loved then was so pretty. the prettiest.

i miss holding someone, caressing their skin, having them embedded in mine, being proud of the beautiful hickeys ive given them etc etc.

how much i miss having someone to take care of me, asking me not to die, asking me to study and eat, remembering what i said, praising my beauty, telling me im a strong woman. i miss all of love so much.

how much i miss having someone. i miss the love part of life. i miss being loved and having someone to love to. i miss.

Edit : M(21) and F(24)

I've been dating my girlfriend for around 6 months, and I'm struggling with something that has been bothering me for a while. I genuinely need outside perspectives because I'm confused about whether my feelings are reasonable or whether I'm looking at this the wrong way.

My girlfriend has mostly male friends. She's been friends with boys for most of her life and has always been a tomboy. She's also extremely talkative, outgoing, and comfortable around people. This isn't something new that started after we got together; it's how she's always been. She jokes around with everyone and is generally very comfortable with her male friends.

I have no problem with her having male friends. I don't want to control who she talks to, who she's friends with, or make her change her entire personality just because we're dating. I understand that she had a life before me, and I don't expect her to stop being herself because she has a boyfriend.

The issue is the sexual jokes and innuendos she makes with other guys.

She's made dirty jokes with her male friends and colleagues before, sometimes even when I'm physically present. I've told her that I don't really like it and that it makes me uncomfortable. For me, there's a difference between being friendly and joking around with friends versus making sexual jokes with other men while you're in a committed relationship.

I've brought this up before, but I've also let it go because I know this is part of her personality and the way she's interacted with people her entire life. I didn't want to keep arguing about it or come across as someone who's insecure about every guy she talks to.

However, something happened recently that's brought all those feelings back.

I was on leave from work that day. My girlfriend and I work in the same workplace, and one of my colleagues, whom she's also best friends with, was buying fruit salad. Another colleague jokingly told him to buy a banana as well. My girlfriend responded with something along the lines of, "He already has one."

It was clearly meant as a sexual innuendo, and apparently everyone laughed about it. I wasn't there when it happened. I heard about it afterward from someone else who was talking about the incident.

Now, I understand that this might sound like a pretty minor thing to some people. It was a joke, and I'm aware that people make dirty jokes without necessarily having any feelings for the person they're joking with.

But what bothers me is the context. This isn't an isolated incident that I've never seen before. It's part of a pattern that I've already expressed discomfort about.

I keep thinking about the fact that she made this joke with a male colleague who she's very close to, and other people were laughing about it. I don't know whether I'm making this bigger than it is, but I can't seem to shake the feeling.

The thing is, I don't necessarily suspect that she's cheating on me. I don't have evidence of that, and I don't want to accuse her of something just because she makes dirty jokes.

What I'm struggling with is that this behaviour is starting to affect how I perceive her character and how much respect I feel toward her.

I know that sounds harsh, and I'm trying to understand why I feel this way. In my mind, sexual humour is something that feels intimate, and I personally wouldn't make these kinds of jokes with other women while I'm in a relationship. Because I hold myself to that standard, I find myself expecting something similar from my partner.

At the same time, I realise that she might not attach the same meaning to these jokes that I do. To her, it might genuinely be nothing more than casual banter with friends. Just because I wouldn't behave a certain way doesn't automatically mean she's wrong for behaving differently.

Another thing that makes this difficult is that when I've raised my discomfort before, she has sometimes become defensive or hidden certain interactions from me. I don't know whether she does this because she thinks I'm overreacting or because she doesn't want another argument. I'm not claiming that she's hiding something romantic or cheating, but the defensiveness makes it harder for me to feel comfortable discussing the issue openly.

I also don't want to become the boyfriend who constantly monitors his girlfriend, questions every interaction she has with a man, or expects her to report every conversation. That's not the kind of relationship I want.

At the same time, I don't want to keep suppressing my feelings, pretending I'm okay with something I'm not, and gradually building resentment toward her.

Right now, I'm honestly quite disturbed by the situation. I'm finding it difficult to talk to her normally over text, and I'd rather have a proper face-to-face conversation with her once I've calmed down. I don't want to start an argument while I'm emotional or make a decision based on something I heard from someone else.

I want to explain how I feel, listen to her perspective, and understand whether we can agree on boundaries that work for both of us.

But I keep coming back to a few questions:

- Am I being insecure by expecting my girlfriend to avoid sexual jokes with other men, even if she sees them as harmless?

- Is it reasonable to consider this a relationship boundary, or am I trying to control a part of her personality?

- If I've already told her that this behaviour makes me uncomfortable and she continues doing it, does that mean she's disregarding my feelings, or does it simply mean she doesn't agree with my expectations?

- How should I approach the fact that she gets defensive or hides interactions when I raise this issue?

- Is this something couples can realistically compromise on, or could it be a fundamental incompatibility in our values?

- Most importantly, how do I distinguish between a legitimate loss of respect because of incompatible expectations and an unfair judgment of someone whose personality is different from mine?

I care about her, and I don't want to throw away a relationship over something that might be harmless. But I also don't want to convince myself that I'm okay with something when I'm clearly not.

I'm not looking for comments telling me that all women with male friends are unfaithful, or that I'm automatically controlling for feeling uncomfortable. I want honest perspectives, including criticism if I'm approaching this the wrong way.

TL;DR: I've been dating my girlfriend for six months. She's outgoing, has mostly male friends, and has always been comfortable making dirty jokes. I've told her that sexual banter with other men makes me uncomfortable, but I've let it go because it's part of her personality. Recently, I heard that she made a sexual innuendo to a male colleague while I was absent. I don't necessarily suspect cheating, but this behaviour is affecting how I see her and making me question whether our expectations of a relationship are compatible. She can get defensive or hide interactions when I bring up my concerns. Am I insecure, are my expectations reasonable, or are we simply incompatible?

I (26M) met my ex-girlfriend (28F) on Instagram. We started talking, became close, and eventually fell in love. She was incredibly beautiful to me 🌻 and when she proposed, I was genuinely happy to be with her 🥹

She was preparing for her CS exams and asked for some time to focus on her studies. I understood and respected her decision. She was older than me, and I genuinely believed she was mature and sensible.

Then she ghosted me for three months 🙃

And I waited🫠 When she finally returned, things had changed. Barely any conversations, no calls, hardly any meetings, and almost no emotional connection. But I was so in love that I kept making excuses for her and holding on.

Somehow, I dragged that relationship through almost two years. We met only 6 or 7 times a year, and I was practically the only one trying to keep things alive.

Eventually, we broke up because we had almost stopped communicating altogether.

But the real heartbreak came later 🙃

One day, I received a call from her boyfriend. Yes, her boyfriend. He told me everything, and eventually, she confessed that she had cheated on me.

During those three months when she had asked for space to prepare for her exams, she had started talking to another guy. For the next two years, she was dating both of us without either of us knowing about the other.

Looking back, there were so many red flags and suspicious things. But I ignored them because I loved her and wanted her in my life at any cost. Once I learned the truth, everything suddenly started making sense.

I cried that day.💔

I don't usually cry, but this broke me.

What hurts the most is that I respected her so much. I genuinely thought that, being older than me, she would be mature enough to understand honesty, commitment, and what it means to love someone.

I gave her my time, loyalty, and patience, waiting for things to get better, while she was living an entirely different reality behind my back.

I know I made mistakes by ignoring the red flags, but

I never imagined that someone I loved so sincerely could deceive me for two whole years.

This is just a very brief explanation of what happened. There's a lot more to this story, but I wanted to share the main events here.

How do you make peace with the fact that you were genuine with someone who was never honest with you? And how do you learn to trust your own judgment again after ignoring so many signs because you were in love?

I am 23F, he is 26 M
Few days back, I was going through my bf's phone for some work and got a notification from reddit. I opened it and it was pretty normal overall. Normal posts, comments, nothing much.
But I memorized his account id and later went through everything (it was not hidden).

I found out he commented on several NSFW posts. Very explicit comments. I was very upset seeing that. Initially I thought, is it normal? He is a guy and has needs, but he is in relationship with me.

After few days, I couldn't keep it in and finally told him about what I had found. He initially denied that it is not him but then he checked his account and saw that those comments are present there too he finally acknowledged. He said that someone might have used it when he was not around or it was hacked, but I don't believe it.

He was begging and swearing it was not him. He even pulled out the export of that account but it had several messages too. He said he has no idea about any of it and he showed his messages on his phones and there was no sign.

He said maybe someone logged in but it was not him and that the normal posts and comments were his rest none.

Later, we both decided to delete it. Not sure if it was the right move.

So everyone, what do you say?

I’m trying to understand whether this is considered normal in Indian families or whether most people would find it unusual, especially when both siblings are adults.

I’d appreciate honest opinions from Indians. Is this common in your families or social circles?

They do have extra rooms in their house.

As a F23 starting a new relationship with Type 1 diabetes, I wanted to know: Would T1D affect your decision to pursue a long-term relationship or marriage with someone if you like her otherwise? Would concerns about their long-term health or the possibility of your child developing T1D influence your decision? Currently in a relationship with a guy but we have never discussed this

I know everyone has different preferences, and I’m not generalising. I’d just like to understand your personal perspective as a guy.

Edit the guy is well aware about diabetes we just haven’t discussed how we feel about it in long term

I need some genuine advice because I honestly don't know what to do right now.

I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for the past 7 months. At the beginning of our relationship, she told me that she had a boyfriend before me and that they had broken up.

Recently, I casually checked her Instagram while we were spending time together, and I found out that before getting into a relationship with me, she had been talking to around 10 different guys on Instagram. The conversations weren't exactly normal or friendly. There was some soft flirting in almost every chat.

When I confronted her about it, she told me that she doesn't talk to any of those guys anymore. I believe her when she says that she isn't currently talking to them, although most of them are still unblocked.

She became very emotional while explaining everything to me. She kept trying to convince me that she never cheated on me, that she was never physically involved with any of those guys, and that all of this happened before we got into a relationship. She kept asking me not to leave her.

Honestly, I love her a lot. Leaving her isn't something I can easily imagine doing. But after seeing those conversations, something has changed inside me. I'm having doubts, and I feel irritated and uncomfortable whenever I think about it.

I understand that this all happened before our relationship, and technically, she didn't cheat on me. But I can't help wondering why she was talking to so many guys in that way.

I come from a village background, where these kinds of things aren't considered very normal. Maybe my upbringing and expectations are influencing how I feel about this. I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or if my feelings are justified.

I don't want to judge her solely based on her past. At the same time, I don't want to ignore my own feelings and pretend that everything is fine.

I genuinely love her, and I believe she loves me too. But I'm struggling to understand how to move forward from this.

Hey everyone!

I’m 28M, originally from Karnataka, currently living and working in Hyderabad. I’m not Telugu.

I have an engineering background and currently work in customer support and sales. I’m working on my career, learning new things, improving myself, and trying to build a stable future.

I’m a movie person who enjoys going out, exploring malls, swimming, watching series, and learning new things. I’d love to have someone with whom I can share these little experiences and make beautiful memories.

Honestly, I’m looking for that one person to build a life with. Someone who can be my best friend, partner, and eventually my wife. I want us to support each other’s dreams, grow together, enjoy the good times, and stand beside each other when life gets difficult.

I’m not perfect, and I don’t expect you to be. I just want something genuine, with loyalty, affection, mutual respect, and equal effort from both sides.

I’m Muslim, but if you’re not particularly religious or have different beliefs, you can still approach me. What matters is mutual respect and compatibility.

I’m serious about finding someone who wants a relationship that leads to marriage, not just a temporary connection.

If you’re also looking for your person to build a life with and grow old together, feel free to message me. Let’s start with a conversation and see where it takes us.

Hey ’26M’ in a relationship with my gf ’23F’, we have been together for almost 3yrs we have our ups and down like every relationship but from past few months i feel efforts affection love many more things are only one sided only from my side. Whenever i talk to her about these things about what i feel or which things i don’t like things turn into a argument where she stop talking to me not picking calls or texting even switch off her phone.

I’m more invested in this relationship than her she barely ask me about how was my day how m i how things are going in my life. We have been discuss about our future she always told me she is serious about us but i feel this is only her words i don’t feel or see it in her actions. Whenever i do something for her she always points out things like what are the problems or mistakes where i missed something rather than appreciating, for instance if i cook something for her she will point out what i missed or how its not good. I feel like everytime i talk to her about my feelings or what hurts me she thinks i’m arguing without any reasons or its just not important.

Efforts or love from her side not that much from
Every start of the relation. She once told me i’m not that guy which wants. Even in front of her friend she says because of my(me) efforts we are together. I also wanted to feel her where i feel desired more see her efforts for me more that affection that love

Yesterday when i asked her clearly about more efforts more investment in this relationship, priority
We discuss this thing for almost 1:30hr at the end she just told me ‘**do what you think is right or what you want to i(she) don’t know’** it just flipped my emotions fully

Why as a man it’s so hard to ask for love, for being loved by someone who we love so much and why people see this as a weakness.

Need some suggestions 😕

Hi I’m 21 and I’m in a relationship since a year, just like any other rs we had ups and downs but we also had major fights which were v toxic, beyond this, the communication is good we sort out and we get back to each other ..but the catch is he has a lot of dilemma w future of “us” i do too but I’m certain that i wanna build with him but recently I’m done, with that and i have started thinking only about me as I’ve realised I’m pretty young rn..and i myself don’t know how to and where i will be in future..same as him soo it’s pretty decent with that but it’s his behaviour at times

1. He only talks at a certain time for a really short period of time where we speak random and sometimes it leads to a fight, we just talks normally and that’s fine by me but when i call him randomly at times during the day or sometime else he doesn’t pick up but responds to texts (i get it he might be in office working but still)
2. He always brings in “other girls” how they are better and how they had and will do so much better than i do, get him gifts and all (I’m not even working so yes I’m not able to afford much!)
3. He has never paid for my travel when I go to meet him not even out of courtesy that ok imma book u a cab back home (and i did all this while staying in a different city which i had no idea about, on a mere internship stipend, where i had to ask for money from family) he knew this, so financially fucked up. And he used to tell me to come over every other day which is cool but yeah
4. During fights he used to literally just abuse me w slurs like v bad words to which i used to have a crazy reaction and then i used to cry and not eat. He ate in front of me and when I used to eat at his apartment he used to at times when the cook used to not cook more quantity told me “you’re eating someone else’s food” he had a flatmate, mind u he never gave me his share or something it was weird for me
5. He never even ordered food for me except once when I gave him a lecture.

Ok idc about tht but when i think about the time we spent in the city i think only about these bad moments where one time I bought biscuits and took one from his pack just for fun and he threw the pack in rage at me.

Online has been weird too he just talks weird and brings in my shared emotions about my things vulnerabilities in arguments about how he is so good and I’m struggling..we even say break up at times big never do cause we can’t leave each other maybe we attached ik something is wrong cause i can take everything my behaviour is also wrong at times but constantly telling me how he doesn’t want me rn but in the future when he wants to marry yes and telling me how other girls would treat him better when I’ve literally done sm and have never counted it until our arguments where he mentioned other girls so i keep thinking about it like oh red flags like I never asked u to pay for my travel or so until u bring other girls..and how your exes were so great

Best part is that he guides me cause he is older than me so career wise and all giving suggestions and saying he wants best for me after every argument..so idk

I’m unable to leave him even after so much and somehow just want him cause we talk every day some days it’s bad like we fight i cry cause he says why would I want a future w you and stuff he says pretty mean stuff.

I’m also a bit pushy and emotional with him at times like i like flowers and stuff the one time he did something nice was he even celebrated my birthday got me a plushie but that too after me telling him indirectly soo idk he does care for me i feel I’ve done worse things to pushed him and dig my nails in his arms when we faught cause he abused me verbally w bad words and i felt disrespected but he pushed me back too
And it was bad but since 4 months it’s LDR soo yeah the fights were bad 2 months back online too where i used to cry so hard my parents used to get worried

but I’m really understanding and don’t even disturb him at all.. and all i ever ask is he talk to me politely and sweetly and then he melts seeing me sad but yeah idk.. it’s like why take it to a point where we argue

So yeah can someone tell me what should i do or is something wrong w my behaviour ?

My sister is married, and for a while now small disagreements, especially with her husband, turn into long, heated fights. She knows it's a problem and has said so herself, but when family tries to help, she shuts down. I don't think she sees us as people who can help, and I get that.

I want to help her find a good therapist without it feeling like an ambush.

- If you've been in her place, what made you open to therapy?
- If you got a family member into therapy, how did you bring it up?
- Any recommendations for a good therapist in Mumbai (individual or couples) for anger and conflict?

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He'd just keep yapping I'll do this for you I'll do that for you and then simply forget about it. Like this one time when he got placed in a very good company , he said I'll give you a party , I'll book a place for you and all and i was like no no it's not needed bcs i genuinely don't like when someone spends money on me or does something extraordinary but he was like no you've to take it you've to take it , I'll book a place for you and all so i was like okay. And that's it. Never mentioned it again. Chalo never mind . Then again one day i was very sad in college so he said yk go to your fav bakery and video call me from there I'll buy donuts for you and all and i agreed on the video call part and said okay I'll text you once im there and then cut to when i came back. He never even mentioned it again when i said I'm there lol. And he'd just keep saying it to me that why do you say no to me every time i want to order food for you and all and then when i say yes he just ignores it and my point isn't that order food for me or spend money on me. I don't want it. I can buy myself everything i want , it just feels EMBARRASSING to me everytime he does it , like bro just don't say all that at all???? No one is asking you😭

I'm feeling too weird bcs of this as at the end it looks like i was the one asking for it when i was not even comfortable accepting it at first place.

Please correct me if I'm wrong cuz I don't understand what to feel about this

I'm 32M, and I'm reconnecting with a woman I've been interested in. We met in person, got along well, and seemed to have a good time together. We live in different cities, so most of our interaction has been over text and calls.

After we first met, she suddenly became distant. Her replies got dry, and communication dropped off. Eventually, she told me she was confused about whether we were compatible and worried that my energy might be a bit much for her. She apologised for how she'd handled things, said she'd enjoyed spending time with me, and wanted to give it another shot. I agreed to take things slowly and explore the connection as friends first, although I was clear that the way she withdrew had affected my trust.

Since then, we've had some decent conversations and playful banter. She's initiated conversations, and recently, when I mentioned something stressful about work, she offered to call. We ended up talking for around 50 minutes.

The thing is, she spoke for most of the call and didn't really ask me any questions about what was going on in my life. I've noticed something similar over text: she'll respond and share things about herself, but doesn't always show much curiosity about me.

I know some people just communicate differently, and I don't expect every conversation to be perfectly balanced. But I tend to lose interest when I feel like the curiosity and effort aren't mutual. At the same time, I'm aware that my trust took a hit after she pulled away, so I might be paying more attention to these things than I otherwise would.

I can't tell whether this is just something that needs time or whether we're fundamentally incompatible in how we connect with people. I also don't want to get caught up analysing every message, but I don't want to ignore a pattern just because I like someone.

For context, she has said she wants to meet again when she's in my city, and we agreed to see how things go rather than rush into anything.

For people who've been in similar situations:

• Would you give this more time and see how things develop, or take the lack of curiosity as a sign of incompatibility?
• Have you dated someone who was genuinely interested in you but rarely asked questions or showed curiosity about your life?
• How do you stop overthinking individual interactions without ignoring a consistent lack of reciprocity?
• At what point do you stop giving someone the benefit of the doubt?

I'm not assuming she's intentionally stringing me along or that she's a bad person. I'm just trying to figure out whether this connection is worth exploring or whether I'm trying too hard to make sense of something that isn't really working for me.

Me: Do you mean it?

Her: Yes i do

How tf can i not fall for you ?

Roz baat krenge milenge hoga hi ek din

If not love then attachment

And i seriously dont want it

I know myself and i cannot trust me rn

I genuinely mean it lets stop it all before its too late

Mt bolna ab aur kuch mujhe nhi sunna

Bye (nhi milenge )

BACKSTORY

So this girl and I have been taking for the last 2 months we vibe we are chill and somewhat alike so we have met few times and aaj bhi and we vibed it's clear that she likes me and I like her too she's a bit older than me so that's a breaker for your relationship and abhi i am focusing on my career i clearly mentioned to her in the starting that I'll only date anyone when MERI KUCH AUKAT BANA LU

Today she texted me mujhse baat mat karna I asked why she said aisi

I said do you really mean it and this is what she replied

I think I am done with relationship and attachments ATP I was avoiding girls for the last 2 years because I know I would get attached to her

And that's what happened

The nhi milenge is a internal banter because I don't like saying bye i say phir milenge

And today she replied with this

I met my best friend on reddit, and now I'm confused. We both have our own problems and deal with depression in some way. Somehow, we became best friends and started being there for each other. She's smart, elegant, and honestly, a really nice person. Idk what the future holds, but she has a special place in my heart. She was there for me during those 2 out of 10 times when I really needed someone, and that means a lot to me. Idk what this is, but I don't wanna lose what we have.

My boyfriend keeps blaming me for ruining his life. He says he got supplementary exams because we fought before his exam and he couldn’t concentrate on studying. But this is the same person who spends hours playing Valorant and other rage baiting games. Somehow our fight is the reason he couldn’t study. He keeps telling me that im stopping him from achieving his goals and dreams and at this point ive started questioning myself too.The thing is ive been hurt a lot in this relationship as well.

I don’t even feel excited about my birthday, Valentine’s Day or our anniversary anymore because he always says these things are silly and don’t matter. But im a person who wants to celebrate these days, but i dont feel like those days including my birthday is worth it anymore.

For our anniversary I bought him flowers and tried my best to make the day special but we ended up fighting and he didn’t even come to see me the entire day. I don’t think he understands how much it hurts to put so much effort into someone and not even have them show up for you.

Whenever he gets angry he screams at me regardless of where we are. It could be his PG with his friends or mine with my friends. He just doesn’t care. There have been so many times when he’s yelled at me in public. Even when we’re going somewhere on his bike if I disagree with him about something he’ll stop the bike and start screaming at me.

I’m a very sensitive person and I cry when things get overwhelming especially when we’re fighting alone in our room. And whenever I cry he just turns away and starts watching reels. I’ll be sitting there crying feeling absolutely horrible while he scrolls through Instagram like nothing is happening. Money is another big issue. He cannot lie to his mom to ask for money but he expects me to lie to my parents all the time just to get money to feed him. When we go out to eat he orders whatever he wants and then expects me to pay. I honestly don’t even know how I became so used to all of this.

But one thing I can’t get over happened when I got this severe stomach pain in the middle of the night. I tried waking him up because I was hurting and needed him, but he woke up screaming at me and actually slapped me for disturbing his sleep.

He also calls me horrible names whenever he’s angry. and despite everything I STILL find myself going behind him. Maybe it’s because he keeps telling me I’m ruining his life. Maybe it’s because I know I’m not perfect either and we do fight. But I don’t understand how every single thing that goes wrong in his life somehow is my fault.

I feel like i have lost so much of the happiness I used to have. I keep thinking about everything I’ve done for him all the effort ive put into this relationship and how much ive hoped things would get better. But now im just a very drained out person who is losing touch with reality.

Im a person who gets attached and falls really head over heels, so i don’t really think i can move on from this. Help me out please.

Just looking to meet new people and have some chill conversations.

I didn't get a chance to date any girl till I was 22 and at one point I was so desperate to have sex with anyone who looked even little bit decent.

I was not emotionally mature at that point.

I met one of the girls who liked me and I found her decent. At that point, I was sure in my mind that I didn't want to marry her and will enjoy the relationship.

I am someone who would adjust just so that I don't hurt the other person.

I didn't have it in me to break up at any point because I was having the emotional safety of my partner and no loneliness.

Even though, I could see that we are incompatible I still didn't have it in me to breakup unless it got to a point where my parents started asking me to find someone to marry on my own.

The breakup happened after 3 years of being together and now it is hurting me so much that I feel like going back to her even though in some sane part of my mind I know things will get worse in the long run and we will eventually have resentment by keeping on adjusting for each other. At this point I am not sure whether I am in love or just a attachment.

I am finding myself in a similar situation now with another girl who really likes me, prioritises me and I feel I am going to hurt her by not being able to give what she wants. I don't see her as a long term partner and I am so emotionally broken that I just talk to her to evade my loneliness.

I am so scared that whether I will truly find someone who I really love or that attachment/love eventually happens with everyone. for e.g arrange marriage

Also I didn't commit any of the two girls regarding marriage. I am not someone who would lie to have the physical/emotional intimacy.

People who have been in this situation or have experienced this, please put some sense into me.

I'm looking for some honest advice because I'm finding it difficult to move on from a matrimony prospect.

I came across a girl's profile on a matrimony platform, and she seemed to match most of what I was looking for in a life partner. Our families were involved, and I genuinely thought there was a possibility that things could work out. I wanted to get to know her personally rather than make a decision based only on profiles, so I reached out to her.

During our conversation, I got the impression that we might have different personalities. She seemed to perceive me as a reserved person, while she was more outgoing. What confuses me is that, when we actually interacted, I was the one who mostly initiated and engaged in the conversation. I made the effort to communicate and keep things moving, so I don't fully understand how I came across as reserved.

Eventually, the difference between our personalities became a reason for things not moving forward.

I understand that personality compatibility matters in a relationship. Someone who is outgoing might prefer a partner who is equally expressive and socially active, while someone more reserved might have a different way of communicating. I'm not denying that these differences can matter.

However, I keep wondering whether this is genuinely a valid reason to reject someone without giving the connection more time. People can have different personalities and still complement each other well. Being reserved doesn't necessarily mean someone can't communicate, express feelings, take initiative, or be a supportive partner.

What bothers me is the possibility that there might be another reason she isn't comfortable sharing directly. Perhaps she simply didn't feel a connection, wasn't attracted to me, or had some other concern. I know these are only possibilities, and I don't want to assume anything about what she was thinking.

I'm struggling because I genuinely saw potential in this match, and I feel we didn't get enough time to understand each other properly. I keep replaying our conversation, trying to figure out whether I did something wrong or whether I was misunderstood.

I'm considering contacting her once more to ask for clarity, but I'm worried that doing so might make her uncomfortable or leave me feeling worse.

I'd like to hear your perspectives:

1. Is being a reserved person while the other person is outgoing a reasonable basis for rejecting a matrimony prospect?
   
2. If I'm the one initiating and engaging in most of the conversation, why might she still perceive me as reserved?
   
3. Could the personality difference be the genuine reason, or might it sometimes be a polite way of saying there wasn't enough attraction or connection?
   
4. Would you recommend asking her once for clarification, or is it better to accept the decision without seeking further explanation?

I'm not trying to convince her to change her mind. I just want to understand the situation better and stop overthinking what happened. Honest advice would be appreciated.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years. We were physically together for around 5 months before he unexpectedly had to move cities, and we’ve been long distance for about a year now. Honestly, the long distance itself has never really been a problem for me.
What I’ve been struggling with lately are some differences between us that I feel could become bigger issues.
One is that we come from very different socioeconomic backgrounds. It was never a big deal to me, but lately I’ve noticed differences in how we think about money. For example, if I buy something, he’ll often question whether it was worth it or tell me that if he were in my position, he would never spend that much. It’s not really about the money, but more about the difference in mindset.
The bigger issue is his situation with his studies and his future.
I’ve been in a bit of a slump myself and I’m trying to get my life together, fix my sleep, become more productive, etc. He’s in a similar situation, except his circumstances are much more serious financially.
He has an important exam he needs to prepare for, but he has barely studied for the past 5-6 months. He says he has a huge mental resistance to starting. He used to need around 10 hours of studying a day, but because so much time has passed, he now feels like he needs to do around 13 hours, which makes it even more overwhelming.
I understand that his situation is different from mine. He’s the child of a single mother, doesn’t have much financial backup, and feels an enormous amount of pressure to succeed. He has told me multiple times that if he fails this exam, he doesn’t see a future for himself.
I’ve tried not to pressure him because I know I’m not in his situation, but I’ve started bringing it up because I’m genuinely worried.
I see a future with him. I want both of us to be successful and happy and eventually build a life together. So seeing him repeatedly not take action towards something that he says is so important for his future really scares me.
For the past few weeks, whenever I bring it up, he says things like “I’ll change starting today,” “I’ll start tomorrow,” or “I’ll fix it soon,” but nothing actually changes.
I don’t expect him to magically become successful or pass the exam, and I’m not saying I’d leave him if he failed. What bothers me is the lack of action. I need to feel like the person I’m building a future with is also trying to build that future.
The part that scares me most is that he has said multiple times that if he fails, he might kill himself because he sees no future beyond this exam. I don’t know how seriously I should take those statements or how I’m supposed to deal with them. I obviously don’t want to dismiss them, but I also don’t know how to help someone who has put so much pressure on one exam.
I love him and I’m not trying to abandon him because he’s struggling. But I’m scared of becoming the person who constantly has to push him, motivate him and remind him to study.
And am I being unreasonable for feeling like his lack of action is starting to affect how I view our future together?

Sometimes I think about how many people we pass every day without ever knowing anything about them. Someone who might share our sense of humour, understand our worries or have the same little dreams we rarely talk about. We might never meet them properly simply because neither person starts a conversation.

I am 28M, and I'd like to believe that getting to know someone can still happen in a simple, unexpected way. I'm not expecting a perfect love story from a random interaction. I'd just like to believe that two people can start as strangers, become comfortable around each other and discover that they genuinely enjoy being part of each other's lives. Has that ever happened to you?