M25, healthy liver last I had it checked (6 months ago), been on Mounjaro since (idk if relevant). No pain that I can tell. No recent sexual activity. My pee was normal and light yellow the previous time I peed before the brown then red. Please tell me I’m not dying. Is this a “monitor it” or a “run to the er”?

Update 1: thank you all for expressing concern and giving advice. I am seeing a urologist later today, in 5ish hours, that’s the earliest and best I could find at short notice. I will make another update with whatever is happening. Please let me know if you know what I can expect, and if I should brace myself for weeks in the hospital or antibiotics. As much as I am panicking, I am trying to think it’s more likely a UTI or prostate problems than a kidney problem, but we will see.

Update 1.5: the plot thickens, I peed once more before heading out to my appointment and the pee was significantly lighter in color, while still having evidence of blood. It was a sort of transparent pink-brown. Hoping thats a sign that I don’t have minutes to live, and I’m really really hoping for okay news from the doctor. Thank you all again, see you in a few hours when I’m hopefully home and not hospitalized and splayed on some table.

A few weeks ago I FINALLY asked her out and she said yes 🥹🥹. I’m so so happy I love her so much and i want to make sure I’m there for her when I can and I’m able to help her if she wants it. However- I don’t know what girls feel like and want on their period!! Today, she was complaining to me today that her lower stomach was aching and told me she thinks she’s due for her period. I’m not sure like what exactly I can do to help make her feel better, do I leave her be in case she doesn’t feel well to talk and doesn’t want to be around anyone or do I stay close to her and just be there in the hopes that my presence is comforting?? I know it sounds stupid and that I’m over exaggerating this but i just want to do the most I can!!

I’ve been married for 20 years, and over time my wife has slowly wanted to make every decision in our household. Including with the kids and every activity in our life. She is only happy if I agree with everything she wants to do. Sex only happens when it’s a special occasion and when she wants. We both work full time, but I pay for everything, cars, house, vacations and take care of the kids. . I don’t see a dime of her money since, she has her own account. She claims that she is always right and I’m always wrong. I feel like she has completely neutered me. I’m not sure what to do. We have tried counseling and the therapist thinks it’s only going to get worse for me. I take care of myself, her and the family and get zero appreciation. Anyone else been in this situation that was able to turn things around?

I need to ask this because there have now been multiple people in my life telling me that my relationship with food is concerning. In particular a girl I was seeing in the summer with a history of serious disordered eating said that she thought that I had one and a lot of my actions were (unintentionally) really triggering for her. I didn’t understand what she meant at the time but I'm starting to think she might have been right.

For context, I weigh and track every calorie and macro that I eat. I workout basically every day, I track my steps, I weigh myself every morning. I've had a large fitness transformation in the last 9 months as a result of a lot of these actions.

Then I got a dexa scan a couple weeks ago and it read 19% (I am a man). I was disgusted, but more than that I was furious. I was so angry for trying so hard to be lean and failing. Even though, I must've been around 35% body fat when I started dieting, so to someone on the outside it should've been a win.

Once I got home I told myself I would no longer eat another single ounce of "fun food". I cut out all alcohol (probably the only good thing to come of this) and anything with calories I didn’t deem absolutely necessary. I did take a semi moderate dose of a strong glp-1 drug, when I got home I doubled the dose. I don't feel hungry anymore. And to be honest I am far more excited to take more of that drug than I am to put any more food down my throat.

I'm eating in a very steep deficit now, beacuse the last one I was on stopped working for me and I knew if I wanted to keep getting leaner I had to push it further than I ever have. I've never felt sick from dieting before but I feel like shit all the time now. It's like I have the flu, I'm so tired, I'm really cold, my skin hurts all over, I feel weak. The idea of eating anything that's not a protein shake or a tiny snack makes me want to barf, physically and emotionally.

Right now, I feel like I can't get food out of my head. The process of eating is becoming more and more emotional for me. I feel guilty about every meal now. I had a poutine yesterday cause I was out with my friends, and even though it was practically the only thing I ate the entire day I felt disgusted with myself.

Typing this out makes me want to cry cause I know it's bad but I don't know how this happened and I think I've been in denial for a long time.

The problem is my actions make me look better. I know they do. If you saw a photo of me from 9 months ago compared to now you would probably think I was lying about the timeline, because I look like a completely different person (In a good way, I am more muscular as well as having lost a lot of fat). I'm smart enough to force myself to eat just enough that I don't lose much muscle and it's the fat that's leaving cause that's the whole point. And I feel like people like me more when I look good. And I like me more when I look good. And I need to look better, cause where I'm at right now isn't acceptable to me. Even if other people tell me I am looking good, it’s not enough.

I don't know how to start the process of feeling better about food. I want to have a healthy relationship with food. I want to be able to enjoy a fucking poutine with my friends without feeling like a fat disgusting pig. I don't know who to tell this to and I'm scared of being told I'm overreacting because I don't look like what people picture when they think of somebody with an eating disorder.

If anyone has been through something like this, what was your first step, and what helped you?

Are/were you unhappy with your partner?

Unfulfilled?

Enjoy the thrill?

Those who haven't cheated and never will, do you find others attractive?

Obviously I know not everyone in these regions are dark skin, on average they tend to be though so Im just curious as to why. People in South India and Sri Lanka are pretty brown- some are even as dark as black people. Meanwhile North India and Pakistan are much lighter. They’re a light tannish-brown color. (Once more, not everyone)

Every time I get a "better paying job" gas prices increase, grocery prices increase, everything else goes up, and im back at square one. It seems like no matter how much a struggle and claw to survive, do my best to outsmart the every growing issues of my state and country, it just gets worse. I seriously feel like all I have ever done and all I'll ever do is struggle. It really gets me down sometimes.

I recently found my mom is having an affair and is unfaithful to my father. What should I do in this situation. I don’t want my family to be broken this early in life. And this has been affecting me daily thinking about it. Also seeing my mom doing this has made me hate and view her differently.

I'm single and I live alone. For the last 10 years or so, I've gotten in the habit of just sleeping on top of my covers in basketball shorts and a t-shirt in the summer, and in pajama pants and a hoodie in winter. When I'm not sleeping alone, I do sleep under the covers.

I've honestly never really thought anything about it, but it came up in conversation the other day. My friend jokingly asked me how long I've been a serial killer ad then told me how weird it is.

So I gotta ask, is this really that weird?

Wanting to cosplay john stewarts green lantern as he is my favorite green lantern, obviously i know not to do black face but i still want to make sure its culturally acceptable

A few years ago, I heard about how a girl passed away from her phone exploding while she had it under her pillow charging and listening to music. Since then, I’ve been scared to charge and listen to music while I sleep. I don’t remember the phone type she had, but I don’t think It was an iPhone. Can an iPhone explode and do the same? My phone is five years old.

I see those around me smiling, joking, and somewhat relaxed at times. I don’t see how that’s possible. The world seems so grey and and life feels like suffering everyday.

My health is so bad right now and i’m 20. I have so much spite for the world and i’m gonna go on hospice and no one can stop me. But i am kind of scared. I don’t care about waiting any longer

I know dogs descended from wild wolves but what was the domestication process like?

Me (F42) and partner (F40) have been together more than 10 years and we have been devoted to each other with everyday full of love in the home we brought together.

She met some new people I dont know and started changing how she talked to me and becoming quiet and and since then she removed our profile picture on social media and put one of just her. She hides her phone when I come near but we used to use each others phones all the time and if she is looking at it when I come in she swipes what is on the screen away and she makes calls in other rooms so I cant here her and she made accounts private. she talks to me ok if it is just about small things but when she talks to any one else she sounds more happy.

I asked her if she is seeing some one else and she got angry and said it was just like me to make out it was her fault instead of mine but I have not changed how I am with her so I dont understand. She says she loves me and everything will be okay but she needs time and she has just changed but it will be okay she is just changing and I must accept that we will be different but still together. She has stopped doing any of the things that couples do for each other and it feels like we are now 2 friends living in one house but only she has a say in what we talk about or do. We still do things together but she never holds my hand if we are walking which we always do everywhere and if I try and talk about us she is angry and upsets me and I feel scared to say anything.

My friends say she is having an affair because of how she is acting and I just sit and cry all day and that makes her angry to and she says it does not need to be this dramatic and I should just wait for her to explain when she wants to but I cant stop and she wont say why she cant tell me now she gets angry at me if I ask and she says every time there is nobody else.

Some friends say she is torturing me and it is domestic abuse and I should make her move out but I am too scared to do any thing in case it is just some thing she cant speak about yet and it will be okay in future.

So I know this has been a thing for awhile but I feel like assuming someone is unfaithful because they don't want you taking their phone without permission. I know most of the time the videos are most likely staged but if I think someone is reaching for my phone, I'm going to grab it over my food. Like if you took away the partner aspect and a friend did it, would it be seen as the person who's eating is unfaithful? Coming from someone who's single and doesn't like anyone touching my phone I feel like it's odd to jump to the cheating conclusion, especially when you're recording and posting it online for views. I know this is probably a silly post but I've been seeing these videos a lot and it bothers me that people concluded that "privacy = Guilt" I once had an experience where a girl I wasn't really friends with took my phone out of my hands and tried to show everybody what I was looking at, I think I was scrolling through Pinterest and she thought it was funny and I had to practically wrestle with her to get my phone back because she held her hand up to keep me from getting my phone back. My mom will also tell family members about things and think it's funny when it's humiliating and then I'm being called a brat for being upset. So I guess I'm just wondering if the trend is completely fake or if someone else sees how toxic it is to call your partner a cheater for thinking you're going to take their phone without warning?