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Problem/Goal: Almost seven months into fellowship, and I think I’m finally starting to feel really burnt out. I’ve always been the type to push through difficult things, so it feels strange to be at a point where I’m struggling this much. For the first time, I’m wondering how much longer I can keep going at this pace.

Context: Nararamdaman ko na siguro ngayon yung pagod from going straight into residency and fellowship after an accelerated medical school program. I’ve been in the same institution since med school, so I feel like there’s more pressure on me now. I’ve always been passionate about what I do kahit mahirap, but this is the first time I’ve genuinely felt this exhausted.

I think mom guilt is also a big part of it. I have a toddler now, and I can’t always be there for her because of my job. Yung iniisip ko nalang ay habang bata pa siya, mas magandang tapusin ko na yung training ko. At least by the time she’s older, I’ll hopefully have more time for her. But knowing that doesn’t make it any easier to be away from her.

I also feel like I’m not doing enough as a partner. I’m getting married soon, but my non-showbiz partner has been handling most of the wedding preparations. He keeps reassuring me naman that he really understands my situation, but I still feel guilty about leaving so much of it to him.

Previous Attempt: I actually thought I just needed to unwind. Noong resident doctor kasi ako, I experienced something similar. After traveling during my scheduled leave, I would feel okay again.

Last week, we went on an international trip to celebrate my partner’s birthday. It was nice to get away for a while, but I came back feeling just as exhausted. If anything, I felt even more overwhelmed seeing all the pending work waiting for me.

Problem/Goal: Hello! For a bit of context, I’m a 30-something graphic designer. I resigned from my old job last June mostly because I was feeling severe burn out from how the management handles people, it’s a start-up so you really work with upper management directly. I really liked that job (creativity wise!) despite it being fully onsite. But it’s gotten to a point na sobrang na-s-stress na talaga ako kasi sobrang pangit na talaga ng treatment samin ng upper management, plus almost our whole team quit already so I decided to leave without any back up plans (stupid i know!!)

Mga 3 months akong nag-job hunt and was already on the verge of literally breaking down kasi ang hirap talaga maghanap ng work. So when this opportunity came, I took it agad. Tbh, the benefits are great and it’s fully remote + company provided yung equipment (something my old company wasn’t able to provide lol) but it feels like a step down from my previous job kasi senior na ako before but now i think im back to an assoc. level? And although they were able to match my salary, I barely got an increase (inisip ko nalang na sobrang big help na fully remote sya so malaki yung mababawas sa expenses ko)

Now, the most pressing issue for me i think ay yung feeling na parang nag downgrade ako career wise? I was already a senior sa prev. company ko, but now I am not? And after being here for a month, parang di ako fulfilled creatively since corporation sya so everything is templated and very strict. I feel like I’m not thriving. 😥 Parang i feel a bit left behind ng colleagues ko or something?? Idk pls give some advice how to handle this feeling. 😭

Problem/Goal:

I’m worried about how my girlfriend and I could handle financial support for her family in the future while also saving and building our own life. Am I selfish for worrying about this? For couples in a similar situation, how did you discuss family support and set boundaries without making an unlimited commitment?

Just to be clear, I’m not planning to break up with her. Mahal na mahal ko siya. There are so many things I want us to experience and build together sa future. That’s why I want to understand how we could handle this before it becomes a source of conflict or resentment.

Context:

My girlfriend and I are both college students at a well-known state university, and we’ve been together for two years. Last week, she told me that sometimes, they don’t have enough food at home. She sometimes uses her own allowance to buy noodles for her family.

To think, I thought my problems were big. Meanwhile, someone I love has been worrying about whether there’s food on their table, and I didn’t even know.

Her mother died when she was young, and her father was largely absent growing up. Her titas were the ones who raised her. Their family has struggled financially, especially since the pandemic. Her father sends some money, and her grandmother helps occasionally, but neither is enough to consistently cover their needs.

I come from a financially comfortable family. Seeing the difference between our situations has been difficult to process. I worry about her now, but I also worry about what our future might look like.

She’s told me she wants to support the titas who raised her once she starts earning. I understand why. They took care of her when she needed them.

She’s also shared her frustration with some adult family members who are unemployed and, according to her, aren’t making much effort to find work or other ways to contribute. Pakiramdam niya, walang diskarte yung iba, habang yung mga hirap na nga ang patuloy na sumasalo. Her titas are also financially supporting some of her unemployed uncles’ children, which stretches their resources even further.

She’s told me it can be difficult to study at home, too. One of her uncles sings karaoke while she’s trying to study, making it hard for her to concentrate. Frustrated siya because she feels her studies aren’t being considered, even while she sometimes uses her own school allowance to help buy food. These are frustrations she’s shared with me, and hearing them makes me worry about how much responsibility she might feel pressured to carry in the future.

I’ve imagined earning enough to provide a comfortable life for us, possibly giving her the option not to work if that’s what she wants. Obviously, we’re still students, so these are hopes for the future, not plans backed by an actual salary yet.

What scares me is the possibility of her family eventually needing money every month, and that responsibility falling on us—or on me through her. If that happens, how do we save and build our own life while helping them? Where do we draw the line?

To be fair, her family hasn’t asked me to support them. This is a situation I’m afraid of, not something that has already happened.

Previous Attempts:

We recently talked about her staying at a boarding house beside school to make things easier for her, including having a better environment for studying. I offered to help pay, but she wouldn’t accept.

That’s the practical help I’ve offered so far. For the longer-term concerns, I’d appreciate advice on how to approach the conversation with her respectfully and set realistic expectations together.

Please be kind to her—she hasn’t done anything wrong. Thank you po for reading.

Problem/Goal: My Conservative Mom Doesn't Want Me to Travel for Vacation Abroad with my Girlfriend

Context: My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years. We're both financially independent, and we can comfortably pay for our own trip.

The problem is that my mother is quite conservative and doesn't want us to go.

I know that at our age, I can make my own decisions and go on the trip even if she disagrees. However, I'm worried that she will hold it against me and harbor resentment. Even if we do travel, I feel like I wouldn't be able to fully enjoy the experience knowing that I've upset her and that things might be different between us when I get back.

How would you guys deal with this? Also for additional context my girlfriends family is completely fine with us travelling.

EDIT: For additional context, whenever my cousins go on out-of-town trips or overnight stays with their girlfriends, my mom reacts negatively behind their backs and rants about it to us. She believes couples should get married first before going on overnight trips together. I just don’t want her to have any bad blood with my girlfriend, especially since I’m planning a long-term future with her.

Problem/Goal:

I know this might sound pathetic, but I just really need to get this off my chest. Maybe I’m also hoping to get some advice from people who have been in the same situation.

I’ve been struggling with envy toward my younger cousin because of her career and lifestyle. And honestly, ang hirap aminin nito. She’s younger than me, pero parang mas marami na siyang na-achieve sa buhay. Meanwhile, I’m here feeling like I haven’t gotten anywhere, and it makes me feel so left behind.

I know naman na hindi karera ang buhay. I know everyone has their own timeline, and I shouldn’t be comparing myself to other people. I KNOW ALL OF THAT. But knowing these things and actually internalizing them are two completely different things. Ang dali sabihin sa sarili na kanya-kanya tayo ng timeline, pero ang hirap paniwalaan when you’re watching someone younger than you live the kind of life you wish you had.

Sometimes, I can’t help but think na ang lakas niya talaga kay Lord. Parang ang swerte niya sa buhay, and things seem to work out for her. Meanwhile, I feel like I’m constantly trying to figure things out for myself.

I hate that I feel this way because I know she hasn’t done anything wrong. The thing is, I really want her to be happy. She deserves to be happy and successful, and I don’t want to be the kind of person who resents someone for doing well. Pero hindi ko rin kayang magpanggap na hindi ako naiinggit.

Another thing that makes this harder is that I keep reminding myself that we grew up differently. Magkaiba kami ng upbringing, lifestyle, and financial circumstances. And if we're being honest, in some of those aspects, I know I had the advantage. My family is financially okay, and I'm aware that I've had certain privileges that she may not have had.

That's partly why this bothers me so much. I sometimes catch myself thinking that, given my circumstances, I should be doing better by now. I know that having a more comfortable upbringing doesn't automatically guarantee success, and I'm not trying to discredit everything she's worked hard for. I know she deserves what she has.

But I think a part of me expected to be further along in life, especially considering where I started and my age. And seeing her achieve things that I'm still struggling to achieve makes me question myself even more.

I'm also a pretty prideful person, so admitting all of this doesn't come easily to me. It's uncomfortable to acknowledge that I'm envious of someone younger than me, especially when I know I have no reason to resent her. I don't want to sound ungrateful for what I have, either, because I know I've been fortunate in many ways.

I guess I'm struggling with the gap between where I thought I'd be by now and where I actually am. I feel bitter, and I feel guilty for feeling bitter. Parang ang pangit na nga ng pakiramdam ko sa sarili ko dahil pakiramdam ko napag-iiwanan na ako, tapos nadadagdagan pa ng guilt because I can’t seem to be genuinely happy without comparing our lives.

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you deal with it? How do you stop feeling like you're falling behind, especially when the person you're comparing yourself to is someone younger than you? How do you genuinely become happy for someone else when a part of you wishes you had what they have?

I don't want to keep feeling this way. I want to work on myself, but I honestly don't know where to start.

Problem/Goal: Badly need advice huhu! We need 300 respondents by the end of this week, pero nasa 10% pa lang kami ng target namin 😭

Context: Everyday Filipino consumers lang naman target namin na 18–30 years old and nakabili na sa TikTok Shop or other social commerce platforms. Need lang ng laptop with webcam and phone, tapos around 15–30 minutes lang yung online experiment.

Previous Attempts: Nag-reach out na kami sa friends, family, school orgs, and kung saan-saan na GCs, pero ang hirap pa rin maghanap ng respondents 🥹

Sa mga nakapag-thesis na, paano kayo nakahanap ng ganito karaming respondents? May FB groups or communities ba kayong marerecommend?

And if may willing din dito na sumali, please let me know huhu. Gusto na talaga namin grumaduate 😭🙏

Problem/Goal: i think i get too attached to people who make me feel special, and i'm trying to learn how to manage it.

Context: here i am again…

aware naman ako na i easily get attached to people i like. not romantically, pero more like i tend to cling to people whose vibe i like or who make me feel special.

i think this started with my auntie. growing up, i always felt like she had favorites, and i wasn't one of them. one time, i told her how i felt, but unfortunately, she shared it with her siblings. my dad eventually told me what she said, and it hurt. hanggang ngayon, kahit nasa 30s na ako, joke pa rin siya ng pinsan ko.

despite that experience, i never really stopped expressing my feelings. thankfully, i've met people who appreciate that side of me and don't ridicule me for it.

pero lately, i've been trying to suppress it.

i like my dermatologist's vibe. not romantically ha lol. i just like her as a person, and somehow, feeling ko nagki-click kami or maybe she is just good at socializing with her patients. but we've talked about our personal lives, and one time, we even chatted for almost 3 hours at night.

after that, i started looking for reasons to message her. kahit maliit na issue lang, i'd find myself wanting to chat with her.

but today, i realized na parang i'm crossing my own boundaries again.

she always told me na special patient niya ako, so i started feeling like i was one of her favorites or i felt like i am her favorites. and honestly, that made me feel special. kapag nararamdaman kong special ako sa isang tao, i tend to want to get closer to them, hanggang sa hindi ko namamalayan na attached na pala ako.

earlier, around 9 pm, nag-message ako sa kanya about an issue with my face - it wasn't the major issue. then i realized na ang late na pala, so i deleted my messages and apologized.

she asked what the messages were about and told me na okay lang daw mag-message ako. she even said, "nagrereply nga ako sa ibang patient, sayo pa kaya."

idk, maybe i'm reading too much into it, pero hearing that made me feel even more special. 😭

i don't like her romantically. i just genuinely like her as a person and want to be close to her. pero she's my dermatologist, and i know there's a professional boundary there.

Previous Attempts: i've been trying to suppress this side of me and stop finding reasons to message her. i even deleted my messages earlier because i didn't want to encourage myself to get more attached.

i'm aware naman of my weakness. i know this pattern, pero sometimes, knowing what's happening doesn't mean i know how to stop it.

somehow, i don't really need advice kasi aware naman ako sa weakness ko. but if you feel like slapping me with some reality checks, go ahead. you guys can say anything. 😭

Problem/Goal:

I have this organizer that I know, though di kami close, pinahiraman ko ng pera kasi sabi niya ibabalik niya rin agad the same day. Kaso 10 days have passed, hindi pa rin siya nagbabayad😭😭😭

Context:

hindi ko talaga masyadong close yung organizer, pero dahil lagi akong nagbobook sa kanila pinagkatiwalaan ko siya kasi matagal na rin naman akong nagbobook sa kanila. Pinahiraman ko siya ng 5k Oct 17. Pinalampas ko noong sinabi niyang hindi niya masesend the same day which was the initial na usapan. Then sabi niya within the week daw. The week passed tapos until now Oct 27 wala pa rin siyang binibigay huhuhuhu

PS: Ayokong ireveal yung raw convo kasi baka ma trace ako huhu sana lang wala siya dito, baka mademanda pa ako nang wala sa oras dahil sa pagpost

Previous attempts:

ako na nga nahihiyang magmessage sa kanya tapos parang wala lang sa kanya tong mga message ko. Ako na nga rin nagsosorry. Naniwala akong sa unang rason niya, may proof naman yon. Kaso hindi ko na alam yung mga sumunod na mga rason niya huhuhuhu bakit hindi niya ako magawang asikasuhin. Sasabihin niya isesend niya tas makakalimutan tas isesend niya na naman daw mamaya

Problem/Goal: Ang mahal ng mga skincares and takes time talaga. as a laging nagmamadali girlie and kuripot parang gusto bawasan products na gamit ko

i used wax and beauty bar kasi for face which never ko tatanggalin sa budget ko. nag re-reconsider ako kung anong body soap + skincare na di kamahalan and sulit gagamitin ko and more 🥹

and tbh bumabalik ako sa pagiging kuripot dahil sobra laki mga tinaas ng presyo ng halos lahat and na hindi kumikeep up si budget.

Problem/Goal: Looking to get PRK or Lasik Procedure

Context: I'm considering getting it done at St. Lukes or The Medical City but I'm still considering other options hence the post. When I inquired sa St. Lukes, they said that the post care kit and post check ups are already included in the package which made me interested aside from the positive feedbacks.

Question #1: Any lasik procedure recommendations for those who already had the procedure done?
Question #2: Any doctor recommendations if ever I push through with St. Lukes?

Problem/Goal: I’m surrounded with straight male friends but one of them lowkey bullies me.

Context: (Kindly leave if you’re homophobic) I’m a bisexual guy and an engineer who recently came out to some close friends and colleagues. The nature of our work is heavily associated with masculinity which makes it a bit difficult to be on the other side of society.

My situation got me wondering because despite my straight male colleagues being aware of my identity, they still tend to keep me in their circle. They still include me in their hangouts and even get upset when I don’t join them.

Even though my circle is made up mostly of undeniably good-looking guys, I’ve managed to maintain safe boundaries with them. I remind them that I can admire them physically without being emotionally attracted to them, just to make sure they understand our boundaries when we’re goofing around. They even set me up with random guys they think I’d be a good match with, and sometimes even with girls. I feel safe and comfortable around them.

I’m grateful to have them, but one of them recently got me overthinking whether they might all still be the same after all, because he’s the only one who low-key bullies me and makes fun of me. It’s a situation I’m not used to dealing with yet.

Previous Attempts: I tend to go quiet and subtly leave whenever he joins the conversation because I want to maintain my composure and handle things maturely.

I can’t help but overthink that maybe they talk badly about me behind my back but have no choice to keep me around. I don’t really know straight guy’s POVs.

How did you learn to feel secure in your friendships after coming out? How did you distinguish acceptance from people who were simply tolerating you?

Problem/Goal: Find a therapist/psychologist knowledgable in dating and relationships. May recommendation kayo na you’ve tried before?

Context: I’m processing a breakup. I wanna have someone to talk to and hopefully gain clarity.

Previous attempts: None yet. Just googling around.

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Problem/Goal: Find a therapist/psychologist knowledgable in dating and relationships. May recommendation kayo na you’ve tried before?

Context: I’m processing a breakup. I wanna have someone to talk to and hopefully gain clarity.

Previous attempts: None yet. Just googling around.

Problem/Goal:

Retrieve the stolen items, if not, at least the thief should be jailed.

Should the Barangay 1 communicate to Barangay 2 for the summon?

Context:

My mom filed a complaint at the Barangay 1 on the day of the crime. Provided the CCTV and what she knows that is stolen. Came back a day after to provide a photo of the possible suspect. When my brother took the photo this suspect wore the same hat from the CCTV, riding his bike and smiling in front of their house . After another week my husband followed up for additional things that were stolen and asked for an update for the identification of the suspect, and to our surprise, no action was done. Their reasoning was they don't know the face, so my husband showed the photo (that was supposed to be attached to the complaint already) and they updated us a few days later about the identification. We paid 100 for the summon.

Today Barangay 1 told us we should file a complaint AGAIN to Barangay 2 because apparently the thief moved there and it's out of their jurisdiction, also saying "Complainant po talaga mag aadjust"

Problem/Goal: Printing business not responding and not delivering their service. Hoping to get advice on how to pressure them more into finally completing our printing request.

Context: business saying they're gonna finish it soon but they never do. We don't know if we even have legal power to do something because we are still students.

Previous Attempts: messaging repeatedly, writing to their business email, finding employee's personal facebook to get help

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Hello po me and my classmates ordered a yearbook printing service for sy 25-26. We ordered back in JULY but now it's october going into nomber and we haven't received it yet. They keep promising to finish it up and ship it soon but they've promised that like 6 times now. They have printed most if it already and just need to fix a few of the copies damaged by the typhoon back in August...

We are all still currently students so we don't have time to travel to the actual place of the printing shop or the power to contact an attorney to help us so we're kind of stuck on how to deal with this. We've contact that so many times now and sometimes they're just ghosting. I managed to get a hold of one of the employees' personal facebook but they aren't much help because they're in mourning right now.

Idk if refund is still possible because they have already made most of the copies.

The people around me keep saying that there's no hope for getting the yearbooks anymore since we paid through gcash and the business required payment first, so they can basically pocket the money and run. But I really need a real answer and not "just let it be". Pls give advice or reach out if you're from cavite and have a ton of free time and want to help.

Details:
. we didn't use school's name when ordering it
. the printing service looked legit because they haf videos from previous years showing off their printer in production
. their online page is just a facebook page with pictures and we inquired for the prices, they said the shipping is free
. no policies of their business on their fb page
(I didn't chose this printing place, my classmates did)

. they do have most of the actual products finsihed, they sent pictures

Problem/Goal: Hello guys ano ma recommend nyo na courier when it comes to high value item? Yung value kasi ng item na ipapadala ko is 14K at yung item kasi is airpods pro 3.

Context: So far suki na talaga ako palagi sa J&T kasi lagi ako nagpapadala sa kanila. Maganda naman service sa kanila at ang mura pa ng shipping tsaka mabilis pero pagdating sa LBC sobrang bagal ng shipping nila at ang mahal pa.

Previous attempts: Nasubukan ko na mag rush shipping sa J&T which is yung J&T super at mabilis naman talaga 1-2 days lang dating ng item pero sa LBC rush di ko din alam if mabilis sa kanila.

Ang problema ko lang ano ang pinaka mas secure na item when it comes sa pag handle ng mga item especially sa mga fragile items. Sa lahat na pinapadala ko sa J&T, wala pa naman akong issue like nawawala or ninakaw yung item at same din sa LBC.

Problem/Goal: After getting anti rabies vaccine, i developed some long term hives allergic reaction to milk or dairy foods, is there any way to reverse it or how long will my immune system be "back"?

Got my first dose of anti rabies nung around June and ate dairy-rich foods like Angel’s pizza na spinach and ZUS Buttercreme Latte (recorded). Hindi naman ako nagka allergic reaction. Dati, sa mga gantong foods, never naman ako pinantal at nangati.

Then after 5 days lang, I thought may mosquito bites lang ako na malalaki sa hita. Then napapansin ko na na kapag nag gatas ako, nagkaka pantal ako either sa braso, tyan, likod, hita, leeg at gusto ko na lang sana “bumalik” sa dati yung immune system ko. Baka may nakain akong malansa or bawal after magpa anti rabies and madami pa namang bawal na sinabi.

Wala, masyado lang malaking parte ang gatas or dairy, even beef ay napansin ko nagkaka pantal at kati kati ako. Ayaw ko naman parating mag cetirizine or i-avoid kasi napaka daming pagkain ito ang ingredient/s.

Edit: I consulted with a doctor na around last month, and may certain “timeline” o minsan hindi daw natin nasasabi kung kailan, saan o “paano” nagkaka allergy kasi complex matter daw to. And tuwing may reaction, inom daw talaga ng cetirizine (strictly 1x a day) tho I prefer na i avoid na lang talaga kaso may times na hindi maiwasan.

Problem/Goal: Nabuburnout ako sa trabaho at gusto ko magresign na. Currently working as a site engineer (F25) for 2 years.

Context: Matagal ko na gusto magresign pero naisip ko mga bills and ipon hindi pa gaano kalaki, mahihirapan ako masustain mga gastusin sa bahay at pang-araw araw. Then, job market pa as engineer sobrang tumal 😭 kahit nagpapasa naman ako ng resume kaso wala talaga kahit isa suki na ata ako ng jobstreet at indeed, wala pa rin talaga.

Grabe na burnout nafefeel ko, hindi ko alam kung masaya ba ako sa ginagawa ko parang ginagawa ko nalang para masurvive at ma-hit mga commitment namin sa site. Pero, wala na yung motivation kaya napapaisip ako ito na ba talaga para sakin na field? pero bat hindi masaya? naisip ko pa na baka kaya walang nagreresponse sa mga application ko kasi dipa ako ready? kailangan ko ba magpahinga? kaso paano bills diba.

I need po help po, advice or tips po. 🥹

Thank you po.

Problem/Goal: I overheard my father calculating every peso I earn and ranting on my mother on how I should be spending that money to my family instead of how I'm handling it rn

Context: We live with some immediate families who have been splitting the household expenses since before. My father lost his job way back in 2019 and didn't really have a new one after. My mom doesn't earn as well. We get by through the grace of my aunts who have been living with us since I was a child.

Recently, I graduated college and I secured a job that pays me slightly above the minimum wage. My aunts are retiring to the province soon which means, I'd be the breadwinner in a couple of months. I've been really anxious about that so I try to save up money every salary so the transition wouldn't be as harsh and we won't be left with 0 PHP. I gave my parents 4k a month; when there's a celebration, I give extra 2k. Recently, I overheard my father having his own calculation of my salary (minus my daily expenses) and found out through my sister that he's been ranting about how I should be giving the rest to them.

Previous attempts: I haven't really talked to them about this. I'm just sad because we don't even have to spend a lot because we're still receiving help. They say I'm selfish but I'm stocking up so we won't be empty handed when the time comes that I have to be the breadwinner with my barely above min. wage salary

Problem/GOAL: Recently, about 3 weeks ago, my gadgets suddenly cannot access games, bank apps, social media apps.

Context: when accessing apps like BDO, games like COC, online games to be exact, and other apps, it just stops on the loading screen, sometimes would even say 'Servers cannot be accessed', but we have fast internet that can be surfed easily, such as gogles search and blue app, and red app of gogle, but other apps has this problem.

Previous attempts: i've tried contacting our isp customer service about this issue, but up until now, it's still the same.

It seems like vpn is the only thing that makes it disappear.

Problem/Goal: I was given a JO po from govt and regulatory (corporate) po. I’m in it for the money po talaga since wala na po akong parents and ako na po magpprovide sa mga lola ko. Sorry kung straightforward po ako sa pera 😅 kakapasa ko lang po ng boards recently and hindi pa ako familiar sa career growth.

Context: Nagdadalwang isip po ako kung ano iaaccept kasi although mataas po starting sa government, ang ikinatatakot ko pa ay stagnant naman sa career progression. Like kumbaga in 5 years baka 36k pa rin sahod sa govt (kasi mahirap daw mapromote) but in regulatory/community po mahigitan pa kung maging specialist. Ano po thoughts nyo?

As a govt employee po kasi around 30-36k po yung offer sakin sa province. This one is sure na po kasi konti lang kaming graduate ng pharmacy sa probinsya sabi ng kakilala namin. Sorry rin po kasi may kakilala po pala kami sa loob.

Sa regulatory (or corpo) naman po may offers na 22k then 27k na upon regularization sa manila. May mga nakikita pa po ako ibang postings 25k-30k + benefits.

In both situations po, I’ll be renting a house/dorm kasi wala kaming sariling bahay (inampon muna ako ng mga relatives ko since namatay nga po mama ko before boards). Sa province, may motor, sa manila po may kotse naman so parang di naman po problem ang transpo. Siguro parking na lang.

Ako rin po pala yung nagpost nung nakaraan asking what to do with insurance money as a 23-y/o orphan. Thank you po sa mga nagbigay ng advice at nag good luck para sa boards ko. Lisensyado na po ako :))

Previous Attempts: None

Problem/Goal: My sibling has stuck with their abusive partner despite my many warnings. How do I remain empathetic without losing patience?

Context: I am a very honest person. So when I see something wrong, I immediately point it out. When my sibling introduced their partner, ang daming red flags. Doon palang, sinabi ko na hindi na sila fit. Weeks later, I found out that the partner is abusive pala. Siyempre, sinabihan ko na siya na wag na balikan pero kumapit pa rin! As in todo defend siya. Now, nag break na sila ng totoo. Pero ginugulo pa rin ni ex buhay ng sibling ko. Kampi ako kay kapatid pero siyempre, nainis ako sa kanya kasi hindi siya nakinig dati pa.

Previous Attempts: Paulit-ulit ko na rin sinabihan si kapatid before. Pero parang it made them more defensive of the person. I have done my research about this tapos nag-iiba kasi daw talaga yung mentality ng mga taong na-abuse. Kung baga nagiging dependent sila sa abuser nila. I want to be empathetic, pero ayoko rin ma-infantilize siya na hindi na niya kayang mamili para sa sarili niya kung ano tama. TBH mas gusto ko sana makinig sa advice sa mga naka experience na ng abuse rin. How would you like to be treated by your family and friends in this situation?