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I think that I am an eloquent speaker and that I manage my emotions pretty well, but even Tiger Woods needs a swing coach. I would like to tell you my plan to handle conflicts and articulate an idea that is in my head. If you disagree with any of my ideas, I would like to hear why. 

The situation that I would like to discuss and figure out a plan for is.

Another person takes the skeletons in your closet and throws them in your face.

Suppose that they say something to you like; 

What do you know? Your girlfriend cheated on you, proving that you cannot satisfy your partner. 

There are two different approaches you can take. 

Option #1: 

Ask them what that has to do with the topic being discussed. 

Option #2: 

Tell them that, if they are going to complain about that, they better either solve the problem or tell you what you can do to solve the problem. 

It would probably sound something like this. 

You are complaining because my girlfriend left me for another man. Either that problem can be solved or it cannot. If you believe that the problem can be solved, tell me how. If, however, you believe that the problem cannot be solved, here is a crazy thought, get over it and move on with your life. 

There is my plan. Do you think it is a good one? Why or why not?

Hello folks, I(18)'ve had this problem for a bit now and I need some advice and practice excercise on how to deal with this

I struggle to ask my doubts in my class, it's not that I am scared or anything of the teacher but mostly it is of 2 things.

1. I frame the doubt perfectly in my head and it comes out okay as well but like 4/10 times or whenever I try to extempore the doubt I just mess up the question. I have this habit of extempore because I could do it but idk why I kinda lost the ability to do it (only in cases of asking doubts, I can think stuff as and when just fine )

2. The larger problem as pointed by my helpful friends is my voice, and its quite shocking to me as I never imagined myself to be a person whose voice would fall short, but they say my voice kinda goes down and the teacher cannot hear my doubt.

   What do I feel when asking a doubt:- whenever I have to or try to raise my voice, I feel extremely rude and it feels like my throat cannot go further and it's probably my brain limiting this, because I used to have a pretty okayish voice.

I still ask my doubts after the lecture but I feel stuff during the lecture is best clarified when asked immediately.

1. How to fix the aforesaid problems

2. Is there any type of therapy/excercise available for my voice

3. Any kind of mindset changes I need to do?

Not all people are like this but I noticed lately that people don’t even bother even if their status are so obviously active or even just there and keep posting stuff like they never seen it.

Because of this i cut them off and don’t even also bother helping them or if they need i gave myself reason why the heck should i still initiate with them.

This is why when i need something or important or just casual i go talk offline and physical.

until I realized understanding is. You can talk about all you want but if the other person doesn't truly hear you, it's just noise.

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I am new to this company (1 month) and I work as a secretary. My co worker is also new , she joined a week before me. She works as financial helper. She has her own office.

I work directly with the owner of the company and my office is inside the same place as the owner. We have a big floor and there's a big sign outside the door that says "do not enter" so if someone wants to come they would knock on the door and they should talk to me because I am the secretary.

Now..this girl gets too personal to me, and I try to avoid her because I'm trying to be professional but I can't, when I go to eat without telling her she makes comments "oh! You went to have lunch without me!" , I didn't say anything and tried to be nice, I chat with her ..ect.

I told her to not come to my place if it's not work related, but she keeps coming and saying "hey! I'm.checking on you!" Last time she tried to get into the owner place and I stopped her, but I didn't have the courage to say "this place is off limit" I just said "they can see you don't go!" I didn't communicate well..

I get off work at 4pm, she started coming at 4pm and tell me "let's go!" That was uncomfortable because last time we had visitors and she just came to tell me we need to go, I told her respectfully to not come again, I know times over at 4pm. We had visitors and i was afraid they see her because she's not allowed in there.

I texted her and explained to her to not come again unless it's related to work, I also explained some specific thing, I said "when you give Me a document, please explain to me what is it clearly" She Said "I don't know" I replied with "how? You made the document you should know!"

Later that day she took it personally and accused me of telling her she's bad at her work...

Today however. I was trying to print some document, my boss told me it was secret document and no body should see it, but the printer stopped working. So my boss sent another CO worker to help me. We were just trying to figure it out but she randomly came to help us. I did not ask for help, and because the document was secret I was afraid it would print and she would see the document. So I told her "can you please leave us alone?" She made angry face and left. Later she called me rude.

I don't know how to deal with her, I try to set boundaries as you can see but I have low self esteem, I'm trying my best to communicate.

I already communicated clearly (I believe) , I try to avoid her at lunch I have changed my whole lunch time so I never meet her, but I know this is not possible, I know I need to be strong and communicate clearly but some people just don't understand boundaries and I'm kinda new to setting them. Please advice me .

I feel my heart racing when I communicate, but I want to change. But at the same time I don't want to sound rude, please advice me.

Hey everyone,

I recently picked up a book called The Art of Speech (فن الكلام). It’s a pretty well-known book in the Middle East on interpersonal communication, and while it's short, it hit me with some hard truths about how poorly most of us actually communicate on a daily basis.

I wanted to share 4 quick takeaways that stood out to me. Maybe some of you will find them as useful as I did:

1. Real listening isn't just waiting for your turn to speak. Most of us aren't actually listening to understand; we're just listening to formulate our comeback or prove a point. The book emphasizes that true communication starts with shutting down that internal dialogue and genuinely processing what the other person is saying.

2. We interrupt because we want to win, not connect. Why do we cut people off? Usually, it’s not malicious—it’s ego. We want to inject our opinion, correct them, or show we know better. But every time we interrupt, we signal to the other person that our thoughts matter more than theirs. It completely kills the connection.

3. Knowing when to quit the "argument." There’s a massive difference between a constructive discussion and a pointless debate. A discussion has a goal (finding truth or mutual understanding), whereas a debate usually just has a winner and a loser. If you walk into a conversation just wanting to "win" and leave the other person feeling defeated, you’ve already lost.

4. When "familiarity" turns into disrespect. This one was super interesting. The author talks about how we sometimes use "closeness" or "comfort" with friends and family as an excuse to let our manners slip—dropping basic courtesy, assuming they'll always forgive us, or overstepping boundaries. Just because you're close to someone doesn't mean basic respect optional.

Has anyone else read this or similar books on communication? How do you guys catch yourselves when you slip into bad conversational habits (like interrupting or ego-driven arguing)?

Would love to hear your thoughts in comments.