I took a test and found out I’m an INTJ

I thought the description of it was pretty cool but when I looked up this subreddit to meet my fellow INTJs

I find out it’s a cesspool for egomaniacs whose entire personalities revolves around being an INTJ.

Seriously. I saw a post that said smth like “can an intj ever get along with an infp”

Most of the INTJs here are most likely low IQ, lacking self awareness, and not nearly as remarkable as they picture themselves in their head

I don’t want to be an INTJ anymore

Question for you all.

I'm an INFJ and expecting a child with my INTJ bf. Due quite shortly.

I'm at the same time very independent and this is the thing my INTJ admires about me the most, buuutttt I'm also the velcro type at the same time. Want to cuddle, kiss, hug. Not constantly, but at least once per day/two days.

Given how private you guys and girls are, what would you say, do you enjoy more clingy types or no? My INTJ is a "secret", kind of covert romantic type, writing me a letters but jokes about marriage, for example. 😅 I guess this romance stuff gives him the ick, but does it when it feels alright for him.

Otherwise we are a great pair, but we probs couldn't make it if we weren't mature, that similar in lifestyles and life values. From the beggining we had some clashes, I didn't express my emotinal needs and was annoying, and he didn't have a clue what do I want and was overwhelmed. Over the time we both learnt to be more patient and trusting to eachother.

I'm a software engineer, which is one of the top recommended careers for INTJs. Overall, I think it's just okay. I like the amount of learning that is involved (getting paid to learn), and the high-level architectural decisions with many tradeoffs. However, I don't like the nitty gritty, detail-oriented act of actually writing the code, fixing bugs, etc.

If pay were the same, I think I'd prefer being an author, an urban planner, or something like a military strategist instead.

Then again, this may just be grass is greener syndrome, as I can guarantee that I like this profession more than 95% of the other choices out there. I'd much rather do this than be a police officer, doctor, lawyer, or any role that deals with the general public on a daily basis.

Interested to hear from others here on their takes.

Everyone now not only knows you’re in love with someone and that you experienced romantic feelings, but you’re also the center of attention for it. I would feel so exposed, I hate it. The thought alone makes my skin crawl.

Like many of you, I am a very observant person. Do I see negative things about people? Sure, but I never say them, and I'm actually more likely to see the good in people- the positive observations. Now, my question is? When you all get your intuitive insights about people, if it's positive, do you say anything?

I'm blunt, intuitive, and DON'T care; when I see something I like about a person, whether it be physically or personality-wise, I say something. I am equal opportunity; I compliment men and women, and I haven't upset anybody yet; it's all about how you say it. Does anybody else not care that they have a big mouth that can put people off when giving their observations?

I really hate receiving calls specially unimportant calls from relatives or friends... I've an anxiety to call someone. I really don't like it... But I've to call to maintain good relationship. The thing is people do enjoy talking to me so they wanna talk more . Any cure of this ??? Somebody save meeeeeeeee

And if so, which type(s)?

Any advice or tips or tricks you guys have?

I'm curious what other people want to achieve or experience in their life.

Mine is pretty boring so far:

• Multi‑day solo hiking, or living alone in the woods for a few days/weeks.
• Learn to play electric guitar.
• Travel across a few countries.

I have met a very toxic intj and we talked for a month and it was HELL for me, he was very immature and those traits include (controlling, disrespect, no boundaries, manipulation, overly secretive)

However, the only other INTJ guy I have met was at work, and we have mutual respect and love for each other (platonically), even though the interactions are a bit awkward and not very deep.

I think my question is, I have seen many successful INTJ - INFP couples, what makes it work ? Weaknesses? Cause i don't wanna define a whole group based on one bad experience, hoping to turn this into a positive outcome for me.

I have read a few threads and worked my way through and have been able to scrutinize a lot.

I think one thing I definitely noticed is this ingrained feeling that some characters here have that life is a game of criticism and blight.

But then they reject the accusatory or well created justifications to even be that way. And rather, I am proposing that this is possibly because of lacking purpose.

Be it a job that does not fulfill your mind, a relational struggle, or an inability to get a grip over your own mind that you let stray too long.

I think the ultimatum is Purpose.

Now I find this a rather interesting subject for INTJ because INTJ as you would think in this subreddit, do not lack any drive when discussing everyone else, right? And think that the purpose of this sub is to uphold themselves to a standard.. ? INTJ?

So the label INTJ has a purpose, yet people wander through here like they have no purpose outside of it, and the label now supports that missing part.

Not going to bother over analyzing more; I will leave this for others to ponder.

Crossposting here for any trolling. 😉

Fellow intp asking for your advice.

So u can say what u want.