I'm a guy in my early 20s, originally from Chittagong but currently studying at a university in Khulna. There's a girl around my age who studies at NSU, and I've liked her for a while. We don't really know each other personally, which is where the problem starts.
Initially, I started interacting with her on Facebook. I'd react to her posts and stories occasionally, partly because I liked her and partly because I hoped we'd eventually start talking. After a while, I tried messaging her a few times to start a conversation.
Sometimes she'd respond, but other times my messages would just sit there without being opened or answered. The confusing part was that she'd occasionally react to my posts or interact with my stuff even when my messages were still sitting unanswered.
I know social media reactions don't necessarily mean anything. She could just be casually interacting with people, and I'm not trying to read romantic interest into them. Still, it left me unsure about how to approach her.
I also sent her a follow request on Instagram, but she didn't accept it for a while. Eventually, I cancelled the request and left it alone. After some time, I sent her another request, and this time she accepted it and followed me back. We follow each other now, and she sometimes views my stories, but we still haven't really had a proper conversation.
I've made a few attempts to get a conversation going, but nothing has really developed. At one point, she shared an anonymous message link, and I used that opportunity to express that I had a crush on someone and would genuinely like to get to know her better. Since it was anonymous, I have no idea whether she figured out it was me. Nothing really changed afterward, so I'm still unsure whether she even knows how I feel.
Recently, we had another small interaction on Instagram. I tried to use it as an opportunity to start a conversation, but my follow-up message has been sitting unanswered for a couple of days now.
At this point, I'm not sure whether I should simply leave things alone or whether there's a natural way to approach this without making it awkward.
To be clear, I'm not expecting her to like me back just because I like her. I'm also not trying to jump straight into a relationship. I'd genuinely like to get to know her as a person, have normal conversations, and maybe become friends first. If we click, great. If not, that's life.
But it's difficult to get to know someone when you barely have any interaction with them, and I don't want to keep forcing conversations that aren't happening naturally.
So I'd appreciate some honest opinions:
- How would you interpret someone occasionally interacting with your social media but rarely responding to your messages?
- Would you make another attempt to start a conversation, or just leave the ball in their court?
- Have you ever been in a similar situation where you liked someone you barely knew? How did you handle it?
I'm aware that I might be overthinking some of these interactions, and I'm open to hearing that. I just want some perspective from people who've been through something similar.
I'm not looking for tricks to make someone interested in me. I just want to know how you'd handle the situation if your intention was to get to know someone genuinely without putting pressure on them.
