Idk what category to be put in or what community should I reach, but this is a thing I'm struggling to process and want help from a long time now.
The chat is a screenshot from my ex and she is chronically ill and asking directly money from strangers or even me is not a thing for her so she keeps on fighting for her life on her own everyday.
We are separated for many months now and lot of things happened, mistakes, situations and whatever that lead to the seperation, and we were in relationship for only few months, and there was a long term relationship before that of her and mine with other different people obviously.
But what I have seen her is she had been battling with (all diagnosed) IBS, endometriosis, blood pressure related issues, and a lot other things for which she had to have a plethora of medications which is very unusual for a 26 year old girl.
And despite all of this, she had the courage and will to fight all by herself, not play any victim card, not give any excuse. She worked somewhere else before our relationship and during and starting of our relationship she joined a BPO to get herself own funds for everything and stay independent as much as she can. And every day she would get ready with everything and do night shifts as was allotted to her by the company.
Somethings happened we seperated, but still with whatever sore heart i had, I tried to help her with everything I could, giving away things from my own place, giving money, doing things for her, but ultimately my sore heart and all other things my family my job, my mental health couldn't allow with her to re-unite and settle with her again.
But as a person I cannot just let her go like this, it hurts me so much to let go of her and you all can trust me I have tried helping her with whatever i could even after separation and keeping my family and everything in a non-alarming state.
Now the thing is, she doesn't have much money left, or I would say none left and she's falling sick every other day and cannot attend office, which she wants at any cost to go, I have seen her in absolute fever and stomach pain, and extremely high period blood flow, pain, she has completed her office shifts. But she cannot do it anymore.
I am unable to help by money from this month and she has not been able to buy essential medicines too.
I need suggestions, I need people to help her with funds, I need connections.
And before anyone suggests going to a doctor, We have seen doctors, medicines, done tests, but this is chronic issue, we have seen not so much help because more studies are not done on this, like endometriosis. And doctors need huge amount of money, it is so sad.
Medicines we have seen, for IBS, medicines that is getting prescribed is just to make her drowsy so that she stays calm, this is not the way to treat someone right.
There is a huge amount of money already burned for doctors, medicines, tests, lifestyle everything.
We need money to stay alive and we need health to earn money, what if we have none. And about families, she had been separated from her father's side from childhood because she was a girl child, so there's history of emotional abuse, childhood trauma, it's much like they didn't wanted her to live at all, but somehow she bloomed.
Idk and idk, anything i write to explain the current situation for her and her past situations is less. I want people who can help, any genuine females who can relate to these chronic issues connect with her, any organisation that can help her, any remote job she can do and earn her living(she is a BBA graduate from a reputed college in kolkata and had science background and even pursued core science stream from a very well known college but couldn't continue because of her health), anything.
I'm very emotional and tired so maybe I am not able to structure the texts and situation. But please anyone help.