The days after confession have always given me some motivation to change and it usually makes me last a lot more than normally. That said im faced with a problem. I went to confession this Sunday (2 days ago), and fortunately i have managed to remain clean for now. The problem is I (a Catholic) really want to obtain plenary indulgences for the souls in purgatory on 1-9th November, meaning I somehow need to last at least until then because you need to be clear of mortal sin when you are trying to obtain them. There is also another option of going to confession again next Sunday but i really don't wanna do that because it would mean that i lost to sin and also im afraid the priest would recognize my voice and see that ive been to confession for lusting and fapping two Sundays in a row which feels really humiliating. So i really hope I manage to do it. Obviously preferably i try doing it forever and i will be praying for that but that just doesnt seem very realistic at this point in time. Although anything is possible with God. God Bless!

Just as the title says. I'm trying to take my journey to no fap slow and steady, looking at the small wins. Right now, I'm in a phase of just touching myself nightly, not full on jerking, and not watching any porn either (happy to have been 1 month porn free).

It's especially tougher right now because I'm talking to a girl and I feel like it's going well so the fantasies come in.

Is anyone else in a similar phase? Has anyone gotten through it? Would appreciate any discussion and prayers.

Hi everyone, I am on day 2 again. I relapsed and need support. I am hoping to do better today. but I am having some urges again. I am looking for an accountability partner, someone to talk to. Also, been wanting advice on how to talk to my dad more, so any fathers available to talk

i have been masturbating for around 7 years on regular basis like2-3 times a day , but for last 15 days i havent watched any porn nor did any masturbation,
and i have started playing regular foootball,now my i feel like my stamina have increased a lot i mean alot i can press opponent for entire 1 match and i can play box to box and i feel like i have gotten lot fastter,stronger, and quicker

is this feel real or am i overthinking?. will there be any changes in coming days too?. my age is 22 male

Hi

I've been fighting a porn addiction since 2020, and for a while i thought i had won

I spent more than a year and half without it but then i got into a talk with a girl and...you know

Recently it's getting worse, i feel the ffect creeping in and the rate getting worse

I defined my problem and suprisingly it's nothing

Like, even if i watch something very sexualized(i try to not consume anything sexual dw) i won't fall into it, but when the feeling comes from no where i tend to fall for it, my first thought it's that the problem is that i am lacking something to keep me busy like art, read, watch or play something but idk if it is effective

If you guys have anything to say, please do, i'm losing this fight and i need a compass to know the next step

For 4 hours of sleep.

anyone else deal with this? Like scared of the withdrawals because they may affect your home, relationships, and work performance?

usually it’s certain triggers in life that will set me on edge forsure.

1) financial stress
2) circumstance stress
3) fear of public shame
4) sadness of not being married yet

i get scared that i’ll get angry or will be a zombie at work. obviously its a lie from the enemy, and he knows how to exaggerate the fear in our minds since we are somewhat a functional addict.

Monday is always the day that trips me up. I'm on a six-day clean streak right now (had two slip days in September, five so far in October, but that's down from 11 in August).

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I've noticed that whenever someone is trying to quit porn, a relapse can make them feel like all their progress was for nothing.

Even if they went days or weeks without it, one bad day can make them feel like they're right back where they started.

I'm curious if anyone else deals with this.

Do you actually feel like you've lost your progress after a relapse, or is it more about how you feel about yourself afterwards?

Looking for an accountability partner. My whole life i have struggled with porn and with sexting women. Lust is a drug I havnt been able to escape. I feel so guilty and commit to stop. I can make it a week or two but always fail and fall harder and deeper. It is a roller coaster that is fun and exciting, but terrifying, and extremely guilty and full of shame for not being able to beat it.

I have always tried doing it alone. Keep it a secret. O hope being able to talk and ne honest and open with someone it would help. Someone to talk to who maybe also needs an accountability partner and who needs to open up the secrecy too.

If you cant or dont need an accountability partner. Please send prayers and good will.

Started watching porn at a young age (10-12), thought i found a gold mine, i did not know any better. Around teenage year I released that its not a gold mine and now im trapped in it. 28 now been trying to break this habit for a long time but not success but started again and going to post my journey here. Maybe sharing with other will help make the journey less harder (also been sharing on other subreddit that are for porn addiction).

I feel like I'm only a Christian in name only, and I really want to change that. I used to go to my local church, but it's mostly older people and families, so the sermons felt pretty sanitized. Espacially here in the UK, feel like chruches are mostly full of old people only. I know that shouldn't stop me from going, but I’d love to find a church with people my age and messages that actually challenge me. Also, take part in chruch related activities, be around more people espacially people that share the same faith as me.

Hi. I’m Justin. 37. Been addicted to this mess since my early teens. It’s really affecting my marriage an bed my faith. I decided I have had enough. Day 1 is almost done. What advice would you all give to someone who is years deep in this mess? 🤙💪

I'm just 17. It was hard to get here, but today I had a fail. I was having an urge and I tried to look for porn, but something in me didn't let me do it, everything looked so nasty and I was feeling guilty the whole time. I ended up looking at a sexy dressed AI woman. But I quit as soon as I could and I didn't masturbate.

I'm so ashamed of having to restart.

Day two chat

Lust

hello all the beautiful people of the world. To start off I’m 16 and play baseball and game a lot. But to be honest lust has always been kicking my butt. when I was around 7 or 8 I got exposed to sexual content and since then had struggled with pornography and lust so much. Recently I did very very good I went a few months without even really thinking about doing it. Until the tragic day happened. And since that day probably 2 weeks ago maybe a little more I’ve struggled with lust doing it everyday (masturbaition) and only a few days I actually don’t do it but I can never add on days. I’m honestly just stuck in this terrible loop and I don’t know I’ve got out of it before but lowkey I’m coming here to cope and try to find some guidance lol. Have a blessed day everyone. Making this message really made me feel better cause before this I did it again. It always happens in the night like before bed or so. But any help will be appreciated! I love you all. Goodnight!

I did relapsed again and i felt severe unbearable guilt, and i know i keep breaking my promises everytime i relapse, i took a decision to delete the Adult files and delete them permanently, i don't know why i still feel of guilt after deleting them but i told my self it is a must, so i closed my eyes and clicked delete forever.

I decided to move on from this spiritual stuff… I gotta be honest I struggle with severe ocd and anxiety and just fear of hell and God. I don’t want to live anymore because I always try to do “what’s right” that’s gonna change today because I prayed for 15 years when I was 5 years old about salvation and I never been saved. Now I’m going to follow my desires and just go have sex with as many women I want because I am a virgin at 21 because I was waiting for marriage. I look good in women’s eyes but what held me back is to “not live that way” idgaf what my parents thinks or God thinks especially because they don’t understand. When you pray for that long and nothing gets answered u tend to be done. I don’t see what’s morally wrong about having sex outside of marriage if you’re single and that’s all you want to do. I don’t see how it’s wrong to get wasted with alcohol and smoke weed. I don’t see how it’s wrong to have lust when it’s the only thing that got me through life man. Idk I don’t hear anyone talking about this stuff man it’s annoying when like u try and ur up all night praying and can’t sleep etc I had some serious times where I’m not gonna expose myself online saying I cry every night because I don’t but I broke down in the past so many times asking for God. This shits a joke man none of it makes sense sure the bible is real cool… it doesn’t apply to me because I’m going to hell anyways I can’t repent, don’t want to repent anymore, and I asked for faith and still don’t have it. Give me a valid reason I should “love God”