Just as the title asks - is there anything you removed from your diet that significantly improved your health?

I am alwas depressed and always do negative self talk can you pls recommend something that change my mind

(24M) I graduated from college in july, this year, but couldn't find any decent jobs on my area. This fact let me severely depressed, so i decided to take an attitude. I decided to study for an exam for a Tech School. These last seven weeks, or so, i've been on the "cave mode". I barely leave my room, studying Math, Physics, subjects that are really tough for me, not my jolly ranchers. When i'm overwhelmed, i read a book i like or watch a movie, to rest my mind. I cut the contact with all my friends, including a girl i was dating, because i couldn't waste a single hour. The exam is at december 13th. I had other hobbies that i, unfortunately, also had to cut for a while, or else i couldn't dedicate myself enough.

The fact is that i'm not with energy. I'm bittered about my situation. It was a huge disappointment i had from life. I was defeated, and feeling like a loser. I feel like a general that lost a battle. I'm fighting back and trying to overcome, or else i feel i'll be a loser forever, and i don't want it. All my family and friends are worried about me, because they noticed i'm quieter and absent. I cannot organize myself enough to have all this energy to do multiple activities at time. I feel easily overwhelmed. I'm also worried about my isolation, but i feel there is no way to succeed. My parents say "everyone has a lot of things going on , you need to leave your room a little and socialize". They are not wrong, but i'm also feeling too tired and too much into my head to socialize. I would like to know how people can do multiple things at the same time. Whenever i leave home, i feel like a lost soul walking out of the grave.

Any advice for a girl turning 25?

A few months ago, I hit a wall. Burnout from my corporate job had me feeling like a living corpse in my own apartment. For three months straight, my routine was: drag myself to work, come home, collapse on the couch, scroll my phone, sleep, repeat. My dishes piled up. I stopped answering texts. I couldn't even tell you what I was scrolling past and it was just noise to fill the silence.

A friend sent me an app called Improvemyself and I almost didn't open it. I didn't want some positivity guru telling me to manifest a better life. But when I finally did, it wasn't preachy at all. It's just a simple tracker for tiny daily steps

The tasks are small something like drink a glass of water, write down one thing you're grateful for, get up and stretch for two minutes. When you're at your lowest, even those feel impossible. But I started doing them anyway, mostly because I needed something to do besides stare at the ceiling

I didn't expect anything miraculous. I just needed to break the loop

Six months later, I have a new job with a much healthier culture. I'm back in the gym, lifting weights again. I'm cooking actual meals and my dishes are mostly done

Hi everyone!

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Picture this: 25 years old, almost 300 pounds, low self-esteem, and low ambition, in the tech field, which requires continuous learning, a drive to upskill, learn new technologies, and earn certifications.

That's me. I don't have the drive to roll out of bed; the only thing that gets me up is needing a job to live and a cat who needs to eat. I honestly think this stems from me being diagnosed with Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (HCM) five years ago, having my life turned upside down, and being told all the stuff you've been doing, like working out, boxing, powerlifting, and drinking tea, can end your life; it makes you not want to do anything at all. At 22, I got an ICD implanted in my chest in case anything would happen, and my limits became stricter; I wasn't allowed to lift more than 5 pounds, and the most I could do for cardio was a brisk walk, being told that broke me. I fully gave up and started eating fast food pretty much every day and spent my time playing video games and watching porn. Even though I had a girlfriend who wanted to have sex with me, I didn't feel like she should have sex with someone who's a slob and has given up on themselves.

At 25, I underwent open-heart surgery, and they cut out the thickness within the left side of my heart, which meant I was no longer under any restrictions and I could do whatever I wanted. But I've been living life as if I was gonna die anyway so I didn't care about my financial issues, health, or general self-care. I didn't think I would make it this far, and now I feel these bad habits and mentality have been rooted inside me, and I don't know what to do to break free of this cycle.

I want to get healthier; I want to get back in the gym; I want to get back into boxing and powerlifting, but I can't bring myself to do it now. I still don't have the drive to get myself a better job, even though I know exactly what I need to do to get one. These bad habits have ruined so much of myself, I hate it so much and I want to fix all of this.

Hi! About 2 years ago I found out my husband was using cocaine once a week. When I found out he said he’d stop, I knew he wouldn’t because of all I read about how addictive cocaine is.

My husband is loving and caring, he doesn’t have any problems with paying bills and our relationship is very solid. However it makes me so sad and frustrated to know that he lies about his cocaine use (I already know how he behaves when he buys, so I know he still uses it).

I’m wondering if I’m making a big deal about him using cocaine since everything else in our relationship is so good. We have a 2 year old son and we’d love to have a second child.

Should I really worry that he uses cocaine or should I just let that be since everything else in our relationship is going well?

We’ve been together for 4 years and married for 2, so I found out about this problem right after I got married and had my son (he has been using it before we met, I just didn’t know). I just worry that this can become an actual addiction.

So I decided to create my own hard 75, by getting rid of porn and soda. I also tried to get 75 days straight of using my CPAP machine, but I got sick and it’s so hard to use that thing when you’re stuffy.

I was very successful with this and this is what I’ve learned

*Spoiler alert*

I did have a porn addiction.

I just didn’t realize it.

I think porn has become so casual in my daily life that I didn’t realize how much time I was actually spent looking at it. Even my algorithm was showing be porn or suggestive material all the time.

What made me wanna try to do 75 days without porn was reading and watching people’s testimonies are their porn addicton. And this stuff was popping up randomly on my TikTok and YouTube. I realize I had a lot of similar experiences and background.. stuff like being introduced to porn at an early age, being exposed to sexual situations and abuse as a kid, and growing up with feelings of loneliness and isolation.

I was probably looking at it more than once a day. And I discovered when I stopped cold turkey, that I viewed people’s bodies before faces.

What I learned

Though I was addicted, I could be helped. I feelings of horniness was usually boredom or loneliness. So I forced myself to pick up old hobbies, workout, do chores, or try to just go out. I actually have a fiance whom I live with. I started initiating sex when I felt like I wanted to look at porn. I knew our sex life was lacking, but not being able to easily access what I wanted maybe confront our bedroom issues (I’m working it out still). Now that I’ve been about to view porn again, I don’t reach for it barely. Like porn is low key boring to me now. It looks super awkward and genuinely disgusted with what I use to watch. Why did I have so many hentai videos saved? Why was there so much tentacles? I deleted it all.

There is still some things I’m addressing with my childhood, but it feels great to get rid of that crutch.

As for SODA.

That was also a surprisingly easy thing for me to give up.

I did have a little cheat.

I would mix mineral water with sugar free liquid iv to make a pseudo soda.

But I only did that more maybe 2 weeks.

Going cold turkey on soda, sugary drinks, and pretty drinks (sugary alcoholic drinks) is actually what triggered me get on a glp1. About 4 weeks in, I realized that I needed actually needed help controlling my appetite. I’ve been on a weight loss journey forever and been standing steady 270-280Lbs. I’m glad I finally put my pride to the side and started taking them. I’ve lost about 25lbs so far. I feel amazing.

Now that I can drink soda again, I actually don’t enjoy it. It takes me hours to finish one can. I also don’t like brown pop anymore, it feels too heavy. I genuinely enjoy the crisp taste of mineral water by itself.

I’m about to start another 75 days, this time… no junk food, journal every day, and we’re going to see if I can make it to a 75 days streak with my cpap machine. Also as a bonus, I want to get my speaking voice together. So I want I’m aiming to speak for at least 2 minutes on camera to post on TikTok. I use to be told I had a wonderful speaking voice and use to do morning announcements in school, but something happened and I started having a stutter and tripping over my words. I do not know what happened, I just remember when it started happening.

I am learning to cook and which I used to dread forever now I see it I am only learning!! haha. Its common sense but yeah today I don't feel the need to beat myself over it. I have a long way to go and I know I will achieve everything if I put in the effort to just learn. Hope you have a nice day! you can share your little achievements too.

I’m 35M, and I’ve been feeling a bit lost in life.

I went through a divorce last year (no kid) and also went for therapy while trying to work through the breakdown of my marriage. That chapter is behind me now, and while I think I still want to get married again and have kids eventually, starting over at 35 feels a little daunting sometimes.

I’m also currently in between jobs (in the legal field) and looking my for next role. I’m trying not to rush into a job I’m unhappy with just for the sake of it, but the uncertainty does get to me.

Something else that’s affected me for a long time is my chest deformity. I have pectus excavatum (sunken chest) and underwent surgery when I was younger. Although it helped, it was not perfectly corrected and I’m still very conscious of it. Frankly, I think I am quite good-looking, which perhaps makes the insecurity hit harder. It’s frustrating to feel reasonably confident about my appearance in general, yet have this one thing that I wish I could change.
Honestly, I sometimes think I’d be a much happier and more carefree person if I didn’t have this condition. It’s been part of my life for so long that I wonder how much it’s affected my confidence and the way I see myself.

I’m on the skinny side too, so I’ve recently started going to the gym seriously and am trying to stick to a proper routine. I want to build muscle and improve my physique, and hopefully feel better about myself along the way.

Essentially, My career is uncertain, I’m starting over after a divorce, and I’m still dealing with an insecurity I’ve had for years.

I know I have things to be grateful for: I’ve had a decent career, have some savings, bought an investment property and have my family around. But if I’m being honest, I’m not particularly happy with where I am right now.

I still want a fulfilling career, a life partner, and to feel comfortable in my own skin. I guess I’m just trying to figure out how to get there and how to be a little happier with life in the meantime.

Would appreciate any thoughts, or advice/perspective.

Day 18 of improving myself

I woke up at 6:00 am and today I did the following

Health -

1)Cardio run 4 km

Mind-

1) Meditation

2) Chess 1 match ( won the match)

3) Book reading ( Never finished , Sorrounded by idiots , Slight edge )

4) Language learning ( German )

5) Brain exercises

6) Read 2 pages of encyclopedia (today's topic - babylon empire history )

Academics -

1) Studied 5 hours

Daily affairs

1) Read the newspaper and got updated with the latest happenings with the day

Finances -

Earned some money and saved it

Will update tomorrow night , Good night

It seems like i can't even write a basic dialouge between two or even one (head pov) character. I just can't bring myself to do that. Let alone write a story. The last time i did that was when i was 12, when i drew storyboards and wrote a one page story..two times. It was during psyward when i didn't have my phone. After that i went two times to the psyward last year when i was 15 and i lost my skill of writting down stories and drawing a storyboard.. idk. And yes i mentioned 9 too. While i only drew and wrote a script at 12, i drew whole as comics until i was 8. In one day too. Story, drawing,merch,intereactive magazines and so on. But then when i was 9 i suddenly couldn't come up with something creative. It was the time i got my first smartphone and i stopped playing since others stopped playing too (frankly i didn't play with others before since i didn't had any friends. I was mostly on tv. Still better than today) why is that?

edit: i should clarify, i had a phone at 12. i just couldn't use it much during the time in the psyward. i went many times there and the creativity thing got worse, even without a phone.

How do you do ?

Can we rarely be lazy ?

As above, in a corporate finance role. Sometimes I become easily passive when someone is confrontational. I’d like to improve, so that I have more control in these situations.

In my 30s and feel completely lost, no motivation and stuck in a rut. I feel like I’m throwing my life away just binge watching tv and scrolling.

For context I am autistic, moved into my first house last year. I only moved out of my parents house because they have significant mental health issues and was sectioned for the first time 3 years ago and have gone down hill ever since. It wasn’t safe for me to stay at home and before I found a house, I sofa surfed for over a year and completely lost my routine, had no safe space to decompress, all while still maintaining my full time job which is WFH 4 days a week.

I thought moving into my own house would help, and while it has I feel extremely depressed and stuck in a rut. I’m currently completing a managers course alongside my job and I feel extremely unmotivated even though it’s something I want to do. I have an assignment due in 2 days and I just can’t bring myself to sit and work.

The last time I felt truly motivated was 4 years ago when I was in my last year at uni. Uni was like my escape, even though I worked full time, I still had energy and motivation to complete uni work and enjoyed it. I got a proper buzz, when I left uni I felt like I lost myself, and then my parent got ill and everything came crashing down.

I think I’m finding living on my own difficult and very overwhelming.

I’ve tried counselling and Prozac but neither helped. All I seem to do is sit on the sofa and binge watch tv - something I never did before, and scroll on my phone. I’m looking to break the cycle but really struggling.

Sorry for such a long post, just looking for some tips to get my back on my feet.

How do you guys deal with regret of not doing things in the past?

Like the direction in life you chose not to take, the people you didn't reach out to, the girl to whom you didn't pour your heart out to, suppressed your emotions for others comfort- basically the things where you didn't listen to your heart.

Coz you're afraid of the repurcussion, have never done those earlier, or coz that's not you, or society expects you to be a better person, etc..

How to deal with all these.. feels like there has been a lot of pent up regret.. I'm not being honest to me, and all this is coming back rn coz I feel like I'm at a low emotionally and alone. And cannot move forward without a drastic change in who I am. But as we all know that's almost an impossibility.

I'm wondering if you have broken out of your hard shell in the past or if not, how did you make peace with who you now.

I can’t stop thinking about how I spent my twenties, constantly battling the thought: "If I had just had the courage to get out of my comfort zone and change things earlier, my twenties would have looked completely different."

I stayed way too long in a toxic friend group. I struggled with an alcohol and drug problem. On paper, it looked like I was living it up—going on vacations, hitting festivals, and going out all the time. But I wasn't making good memories. Most of them were just blackouts driven by pure escapism. Every sign in my body told me I needed to change, but I was to afraid to leave my comfort zone.

It makes me so deeply sad. I’ve never been in a relationship. My early twenties were swallowed by COVID, and after that, things just went downhill as I stayed tethered to toxic environments. Before all of that, my life felt great. My conscience keeps telling me to change, but the grief over lost time is agonizing.

Last year, I finally took the leap: I moved away and started therapy. At least I'm almost finished with my part-time college degree now, but still... the haunting stays.

People often romanticize partying too much in your youth, but when it’s pure escapism, it isn't even fun. It’s just running away. I carry so much regret because I didn't make meaningful memories, didn't date much, and let fear run the show. I kissed lots of people and slept with a few, but almost always while under the influence of alcohol and drugs. I even blew real chances at getting a relationship because I kept self-sabotaging. It is extremely painful.

How do I cope with this? How do you forgive your past self for wasting years you can never get back?

It’s not that I was depressed or anything every single day. It’s just that I made way too few memories.

These thoughts suddenly resurfaced over the past few weeks. Before this, I wasn't really dwelling on it. Is it possible this is coming up now because I'm lacking certain things in the present?

Maybe things weren't even that bad back then—I did have good moments, after all. And these thoughts are suddenly hitting me because I'm afraid of missing out on things now, or because of my current situation. I honestly don't know anymore.

Hello all, To start I am 22 years old I work full time at a job I don’t like. The job I have now is an easy job and super repetitive. It’s basically warehouse work for gas cylinders, but lately I’ve been hating it so much because there is no where to grow in the company and I want to get into electrical work but my attitude sucks. I have a hard time when I don’t understand things because I get super nervous and think people are going to yell at me for not understanding. I sometimes can’t take constructive criticism and it sucks. I’m not sure if anyone else has any similar situation or advice but anything would help.

did the whole thing. stopped answering my friends, told my mom “it’s fine”, ate a lot of cereal at 2am. the full “i tried so hard what’s wrong with me” loop
then i went through the exam and sorted every point i lost into 3 piles: didn’t know it, careless mistake, ran out of time. and a lot of it was just me not reading the question. that’s way better than “i’m stupid” cause i can actually fix that.

understand english. Guyz just help me I am suffering for past 3-4 years to learn good fluent English but I can't what should I actually need to improve like i learn( POV, S&V, Sentence Structure, Verbs(V1,V2,V3) & and Tenses) and after that I have some other topics of grammar that I am going to learn it later (article, preposition, model verbs, question Formation, negative Sentences, conjunction) I am actually very confused does those grammar actually helps to learn english or I am just wasting my time please guyz help me. Just tell me how you learn good fluent English need tips for this and Btw I write the paragraph with my own no ai use already you guyz may know after reading that paragraph bcz it have many english mistakes less🤕

Hello everyone, hope everyone is doing well. I'm mid 30s and I've lived a hedonistic lifestyle most my life. I just want to do better, have self control, work hard and have a good life without doing all these extreme consuming. For context, I live off my parents, consume bunch of sweets, smoke a lot, laze around , play video games most of the time and its been three years iv not had a job. I want to change but I just fall back into the spiral just days into starting to do stuff

The worst part is i entered my 20s and i just realized how less time i have to "live life" ,but i literally cant . I have too many personal isssues , by the time i fix all them and become normal , ill be in my 30s .

I want to fix my problems but im afraid i will miss out on any life experience in my 20s if i just sit around trying to focus only on fixing my problems.

How do i stop feeling bad that i will be losing out on "living life" in my 20s? i feel bad bcuz i have nothing to look back on in my life yet . I dont want to be 30 and have to nothing to look back to....

I have this internal feeling in the back of my mind that I am getting too comfortable at the moment. There's a lot I want to do, and I have a concept that the most important thing we have in this life is our time, and the way that we spend our time.

Currently, I'm working in manufacturing, and I moved out of my mothers' house at the age of 17. I've been able to get my hands on my first car, but I feel as if it took far too long, as my head was just in a very delinquent/immature mindset. I'm working on my credit at the moment, and looking more into investing my money. With all that aside, I feel that I'm getting used to the comfort, and I have an issue with growth. I want to be able to move past this, but I have this lingering fear and anxiety, and I feel like it's keeping me from doing better, and creating more.

I still don't have my heart set on a career, but one part of me is telling me to move into a trade (electrical, HVAC, etc.) or invest into my computer knowledge (which I have been learning about computers since I was 7).

I'm creating this post for a little bit of guidance.

1. How do I get rid of the fear of being uncomfortable to become greater?

2. Would it be more logical to invest my time into my computer knowledge, even though it might not pay as much as a trade?

3. Investments. Where should I put my money? (I've been looking into real estate, as well as an ROTH IRA, but I feel I don't entirely understand them.)

Any information or advice would be greatly appreciated.

I have been doing alot of introspection lately and realised i try to get under the impression of sort of narcissistic "friends" / people and allow them to control my emotions in the moment. I always have thought about trying to set boundaries while still being nice, but Most of the time after contact in person or on text they live in my head for days- Like i'd have imaginary arguments in my head with them and they still win

I feel unable to speak up if they try to manipulate me, or ask favors, or make fun of me and become almost passive/paralyzed mentally. Whenever i try to speak up i need soo much emotional energy like lifting a mountain and even then people find words to belittle my presence or just try to prove to me that they are superior in all aspects.

I really want to escape this and find my own strength. I want to become capable of handeling any sort of communications and interactions including with manipulative "friends", whom i find almost impossible to even cut off/ stopping contact ( i dont know why)

Sorry if it's too much of a long read but just wanted to ask for some advice, and i hope if i was able to make sense about my feelings

Thank you ❤️