For context, my daughter is autistic. Our routine used to be that I would walk her into school every morning. She's starting to become more independent, so now I stand in the parking lot and wait until she is through the doors before I leave.

Anyway, this morning I was doing the normal thing when a random woman passed me in the parking lot at said "skipping on it". I had no idea what she was talking about. I said "what?" and she replied "skipping on it, dude". I still had no idea what she was talking about so I said "uh okay".

I didn't realize until I got home that she was talking about me. I hadn't looked at this woman once. Why would she automatically assume I'm trying to pick up woman while dropping my daughter off at school? What a weird interaction. It's a strange feeling because I wasn't remotely interested in this person, but at the same time it bugs me that a stranger felt the need to take a shot at me first thing in the morning.

Hey dads,

So a sensitive question but it’s been bugging me lately. And it sounds like a joke, but I’m genuinely curious how you handle being sexually frustrated and needing release, while juggling kids and not really getting any time to ourselves / myself.

Even shower time is no longer my own time lol. So i guess i just want to know im not a freak for feeling pent up. And what do you a guys do about it?

Thanks.

When did non resident father's become the enemy?

I work 40 hours a week

I earn £2700 a month after tax (40k salary) and I pay £340 a month in child maintenance for 108 nights a year CMS

after the child maintenance is paid l it leaves £2360

My mortgage is then  £1300 a month

= £1060  left

That £1060 then pays my utility bills, gas water electricity internet council tax diesel and my weekly food shop for me and my son, leaving me around £400 a month spare, or £100 a week. This is before days out and things I buy my son.

Now let's compare my ex

She works 16 hours a week in a shop

Wages £881 , doesn't pay tax or NI

Child maintenance £340

Child benefit £100

Universal credit including rent element £1100 a month.

The council/ UC cover her rent upto £575 (her rent is £700 meaning she only has to pay £125)

= £2421. Minus her £125 she pays for rent = £2300.

So she has £2300 left to pay her bills (water gas electricity council tax petrol and weekly food shop for her and our son)

No idea what that costs but she probably still has a grand a month disposable income.

Meanwhile  muggings here has a half an hour commute each way, works 5 days week is completely responsible for all household maintenance, boiler service repairs etc (my sons mum doesn't have to worry about any of that of course in her rented flat)

How is it that the response adult working full time paying tax is left worse off  than a single mum on benefits.

I have my son two nights a week and every second Friday.

I'd of course love to have him more, but unfortunately I have to go to work, I don't have universal credit to cover!

Rant over

**TL;DR:** Divorced dad with 50/50 custody of two young boys. Very different parenting styles between households. My youngest recently told me he gets called a crybaby when he’s upset at his mom’s house. Struggling with knowing I can’t control what happens there and trying to focus on being a safe, loving, supportive parent while still raising resilient, accountable boys.

34M, divorced, two boys who are 7 and 10. We split custody week on, week off.

I’ll start by saying I know things could be a lot worse. The boys are healthy, loved, and overall really great kids. Better than I probably deserve. I’ve also had to come to terms with the fact that their mom and I have pretty different parenting styles, and there’s only so much I can control.

I try to parent with high expectations but equally high support. I want my boys to be resilient, independent, respectful, and accountable, but I also want them to know that having emotions doesn’t make them weak.

My oldest is more reserved and tends to keep things to himself. He’s very logical, but underneath that he’s still a 10-year-old with big feelings and insecurities. My youngest is the opposite. He’s sensitive, wears his heart on his sleeve, and is incredibly hard on himself. He wants to do everything right and really struggles when he feels like he’s disappointed someone.

Transitions between houses have always been tough, especially for my youngest. I’ve suspected for a while that part of it is because he feels like he has to bottle things up at his mom’s house.

Her new husband is a fitness influencer, very much the David Goggins, tough-love, no-excuses type. He has openly
admitted that love and affection is from their mom. Fortunately I’m not currently dealing with it (we put no corporal punishment in our newest custody agreement) but when he was tbh boyfriend he used excessive exercise as a form of punishment. Whatever floats your boat, but personally I don’t think that’s the best approach to raising young kids, especially ones who are already navigating two households.

Today my youngest had a pretty tough emotional breakdown and finally opened up about some of it. He told me that when he cries at his mom’s house, he gets called a crybaby and told to go to his room until he can sort himself out.

That one really hurt to hear.

I’m all for teaching kids to regulate their emotions, but I think there’s a pretty big difference between teaching a child how to work through his feelings and teaching him that those feelings are something to be ashamed of.

Both boys have asked to spend more time with me. And as much as I’d love that, I’m realistic about the situation. Pursuing more custody isn’t necessarily going to change much, and regardless, their mom and her husband are going to be part of their lives.

I can’t control what happens in another household. I can’t make other adults see things the way I do, and I’m not interested in turning this into some competition over who’s the better parent. That’s not fair to the boys.

So I guess I’ve come to the conclusion that my job is to be their soft place to land.

To support them, encourage them, build them up, and make sure they never have to question whether they’re loved. To hold them accountable when they screw up, but also make sure they know that making mistakes, crying, or having a bad day doesn’t make them any less worthy of love or respect.

I worry about the long-term effects of growing up between two homes. I know divorce doesn’t automatically mean kids are destined to struggle, but I can’t help wondering what all of this is doing to them emotionally, especially at such young ages.

I try to lead with the golden rule in our house. Treat people how you want to be treated. Be kind, generous, respectful, and compassionate. But also have boundaries, stand up for yourself, and understand that not everyone in this world is going to treat you with the same kindness you give them.

I want to raise good men. Not just tough men, or successful men, but genuinely good human beings who are comfortable with who they are and how they feel.

I guess I’m not really looking for answers as much as I am venting. It’s just hard knowing your kids are struggling somewhere you can’t protect them, and that sometimes all you can do is love them through it.

For those of you raising kids between two very different households, how do you make peace with the things you can’t control? How do you help your kids build resilience without teaching them to shut down emotionally?

I'm trying to get some perspective here as my ex's behavior is getting increasingly combative, and is now showing signs of trying to manipulate my kid, and alienate them from me.

I know these things are looked at in custody cases, but I don't know what's "enough" from a court standpoint. There's a lot to get in to with my situation, but for the most part it was pretty clear that my ex was having a kid with me for financial reasons, so I'm a little wary of how much they really care about them, which is coming out in different ways. My gut is telling me to fight, but I don't think I have enough ammo, especially being a man.

Life at a crossroads with wife. Do things get better?

I've been married for 12 years now and have 2 kids aged 8 and 6 - both boys.
During COVID, I had a severe heart attack and had to be taken to the emergency (thankfully, got saved with stenting) but that incident changed something in me. I became irritable and lost my patience quite a bit. I was also a smoker for 15+ years and quit abruptly (cold turkey) which may have added to the irritatable part.

Our marriage I'd say at the time was okay. Not a fairy tale but I deeply cared about my wife (and it worked both ways) however it was an arranged marriage and my love for her was not very textbook (I am an introvert and rarely demonstrate my love by speaking out in front of others) in that I wasn't very expressive OR rarely used to show my love in front of others. This was an issue earlier as she had told me many times that she desired to be loved and I need to be more expressive.

After my heart attack, she started to have panic attacks (she was alone with 2 kids at home during COVID and we weren't allowed to have too many visitors at the time owing to social distancing norms in our country) and honestly speaking it turned out that I needed to take good care of her instead of the other way round.

I thought I'll break the cycle here, give her some break from me and the kids and asked her to take a solo trip to Bali. I also decided to make more efforts and try to get more physically intimate with her (which she liked but I was never a demanding person when it came to sex). She was very happy with this idea and had the 8 day long solo trip but when she came back, her drive was totally gone.

I realized later that she was unhappy with me and had several 'encounters' with a few gentlemen while in Bali. I also realized that she was sexting with and having phone sex with one of her previous friends (waay back from 2010s) - a guy who is happily single and now has access to some of her nudes. She may also have had a fling with some of our known friends (I don't know for sure but I did find some indicative messages).

After all of this when confronted, she was heartbroken and told me she'd never do it again and that she loves me and our kids and doesn't want our marriage to be in ruins. I also asked her how can she be sure because the reason she claimed that she was unfaithful was I was not giving her the love that she wanted. I asked her how that would change and she had no answer.

I've been heartbroken since then and I've tried therapy, taken meds and tried speaking to a psychiatrist as well however I cannot seem to forgive and forget. Please note that deep down, I wish to forgive and forget as I want my kids to have a normal childhood.

I am at a crossroads now. Our fights (as expected) have not gotten any mellower and although I agree that I'm more irritable now than earlier, she somehow claims that I don't see that I'm at fault for starting fights.

We live in another country on employment visas and our life is dependent on both our incomes.

I would like to know a few things from fellow people who have been here before:

1. Will separating help ? How will that affect the kids?
   
2. Is there a remotest chance that things get better with just counselling ?
   
3. Is sucking your ego up a solution for the betterment of kids ?
   
4. I'm also at a stage where my mind needs a break. Otherwise I feel like I'll just collapse under pressure.

Please help out here - I am open to all feedback and all suggestions/criticisms (be gentle though).

I wasnt a good partner. I didnt take her out on a regular basis until she would tell me. I became very distant as our relationship went on. It got to the point that when I did try it didnt count. The "thank you for taking me out" were fake and a way to convince her that she was happy in the relationship. Year after year I told her I would try and the time would slip away from me.

Now she sends me IG reels and captions them "what would you do if your daughter was made feel this way".

Its a constant battle in my head because I am constantly trying to be a better dad to my kids. That lingering voice constantly whispering "you already ruined your relationship just how your dad broke your mom. So just finish the job and be a bad father". I couldnt break that cycle but I can still break the cycle of being a bad dad. Im going to start therapy and the plan is to have my kids start therapy to so they dont grow up like I did feeling like no one loved me or could help.

How did the guys that were the bad guys rise up for themselves and their loved ones??

Single dad here (30).
Im a weekend dad to my 5y/o. I would love to see him more than 3 days but obviously i have to work etc.
My baby mother is a good person but it very hard headed. When we broke up i moved home and put all my energy into getting a big down payment on a house. She decided to rent out of stubbornness. The house is a dump mold etc. If i had it my way id go balistic at the land lord and put a case forward. But unfortunately i dont have much of a say and i dont want to jeopardize anything. ( i have been threatened about not being let see my son before)
Anyways i have enough to comfortably get a mortgage for a house. I want to get my son out of that rented house but if i let my ex move in realistically she’ll have more entitlement to shelter than i will because im obviously not going to kick her out of the house if and when we start arguing again.
Had anyone any advice please should i but a house close to her and my childs school or should i get something that would benefit me the most. (I travel for work so a midland home would suit me best.
Please any advice would be appreciated! What would you guys do?

I’m looking for advice from other single parents who have been through something similar, especially those in Washington state.
My daughter’s mother recently informed me—not asked me—that she is taking our daughter out of the country for Christmas. This means I wouldn’t get to spend Christmas Eve or Christmas Day with my daughter because she would be out of the country with her mother on those days.
We had discussed a holiday arrangement where our daughter would spend Christmas Eve overnight with one parent and then be exchanged at 10 a.m. on Christmas Day to spend time with the other parent.
Last Christmas, I only got to have my daughter until 5 p.m. on Christmas Eve and didn’t get her back until after 4 p.m. on Christmas Day. I felt that was unfair, which is why I wanted us to alternate holidays more fairly this year.
When I told her mother I didn’t agree with taking our daughter out of the country during Christmas because it would prevent me from seeing her on both holidays, she said she had already purchased the tickets.
We have mediation coming up soon to establish our parenting plan, but nothing has been finalized by the court yet. The holiday arrangement we discussed is not part of a finalized court order.
My questions are: Can the other parent legally take our child out of the country for Christmas even though I have objected? Does the fact that our parenting plan isn’t finalized make a difference? Should I consider getting a lawyer before mediation?
I honestly didn’t want things to get to the point where I needed a lawyer. I hoped we could work things out fairly for our daughter. However, I feel like my concerns aren’t being considered, and I’m worried this decision may be connected to the fact that I want to maintain separate lives outside of parenting.
For context, my daughter is happy spending time with both of us separately. I’m not trying to keep her from her mother or interfere with their relationship. I just want meaningful holiday time with my daughter, too, and I believe these arrangements should be fair to both parents.
At the end of our text conversation, her mother said we would figure it out. I suggested that she take our daughter on the trip after Christmas instead, so we could both have our time with her during the holidays. She responded by saying she had to go to bed. Honestly, I feel like she may be trying to get a reaction out of me, but I’m doing my best to stay calm and focus on what’s fair for our daughter.
For those in Washington state who have been through something similar, what was your experience? Did you get a lawyer before mediation, and what options did you have when the other parent planned international travel before a parenting plan was finalized?
I would really appreciate any advice or insight. Thank you.

Anybody here have experience dealing with multiple CPS investigations? I've faced four in the past two years, and two this year alone. Every one unsubstantiated. Recently secured equal custody right before the last investigation. All mandatory reporters too, which means I can't prove it's Mom, even though the judge seems to "get it" based on comments made off the record. Mandatory reporters have made comments that suggest they get it too, but they have an obligation, so it is what it is.

Has anyone pursued legal action to try and limit it in the future, like a custody change? Sole legal? I'm not looking to take my child away from her Mom out of revenge, I simply want to create a more supportive space for my child where they don't have to grow up wondering when the next forensic interview is coming, or if this is the day Dad is taken away from them again. And since I can't stop Mom from using these providers, I'd like to give the case worker for the next investigation (bet) all the evidence they can possibly have to dismiss the intake as quickly as possible.

And perhaps more importantly - how does it affect the kids? My kiddo has gone through so many forensic interviews I'm worried one day they will say whatever, just to make the interrogations stop.

TL;DR: We are separated parents struggling to agree on a secondary school for our 11-year-old son, who has ADHD and dyslexia. I favour the school near me because he prefers it and has strong rugby connections there; his mum prefers schools nearer her and prioritises his existing primary-school friendships, practical arrangements and concerns about SEND support. I want an impartial view on how to weigh his wishes, friendships, stability, school quality and transport without putting pressure on him or criticising his mum.

My ex and I are struggling to agree on which secondary school our 11-year-old son should attend, and I’d appreciate some impartial opinions on how we’re handling it.

For context, we live separately and share parenting. Our son has ADHD and dyslexia, so I think the decision needs to consider academic support, pastoral care, friendships, sports and his overall happiness.

We are considering three schools: one close to his mum, one close to where I live, and a third option.

My perspective

I favour the school closer to me, partly because our son has expressed a preference for it and has a strong connection to the local rugby community. He knows around 40 children through rugby who either attend that school or are expected to attend in the future. I think this could help him settle in and give him a familiar support network.

I have never told him he must choose this school. I want him to have a voice in a decision that will significantly affect his life, while understanding that we as parents are ultimately responsible for making the decision.

His mum believes his established primary-school friendships should carry more weight. However, it appears that only one of his close friends is likely to attend her preferred school, while another is going to a specialist farming school. I’m not dismissing his friendships, but I’m unsure how much weight they should carry compared with his other interests and support networks.

I also have concerns about stability. Our son has experienced numerous house moves over the years and has recently moved again. He has told me that he wants a home where he can settle and stop moving. I understand that his mum says these moves were made with good intentions and to improve their circumstances, and she says they are now settled. I’m not trying to criticise her personal choices, but I think the impact of those changes on him is relevant when considering his future.

His mum’s perspective

She prefers the two schools closer to her and has concerns about the school I favour, including its reported absence rate, catchment area, tutor arrangements and the support available for dyslexia.

She also argues that the school is impractical for her because it would involve a longer journey from home and work. She wants us to compare all three schools on their educational merits, pastoral care, behaviour, SEND support, friendships and transport.

She feels I have put our son under pressure by telling him he can choose his secondary school. She says he is already stressed and feels he has to choose between us. Her view is that we should listen to him but make the final decision ourselves.

She has also explained that she has historically taken on most of the school commitments and day-to-day organisation. She feels that my concerns about stability and the way I have approached the school decision amount to criticism of her parenting and personal circumstances. She has said she thinks I am a good father and wants our son to have a good relationship with both of us.

Where I disagree

I agree that our son shouldn't be made responsible for the final decision or feel caught between his parents. However, I don't think listening to his preference means putting the responsibility on him. Surely there is a difference between telling a child, “It's your decision,” and saying, “Your views matter, and we will take them seriously when deciding together.”

I also think the practical difficulties for both parents need to be considered fairly. His mum says we should assess schools on their merits, but the journey to the school I favour is a major reason she feels it isn't a viable option. I understand that her availability during the school day matters, but I don't think we should rule out a school without looking at whether practical arrangements could work.

I have also tried to explain that, although I understand why she has moved, the repeated changes have unsettled our son. She feels this is unfair because she has consistently provided a supportive home and has now settled her circumstances.

After I raised these issues, she said she felt I had manipulated the situation and put her in a difficult position. I asked her to explain what she meant, as I genuinely want to understand why she sees it that way.

We are planning to meet to discuss the options, and the application deadline is approaching.

My questions are:

1. Is it unreasonable to give significant weight to an 11-year-old's preferred school, provided he isn't made responsible for the final decision?

2. How much weight should we give to friendships from primary school compared with established friendships and connections through sports clubs?

3. Is it fair to raise concerns about repeated house moves when discussing a child's need for stability, even if the moves were made with good intentions?

4. How should we balance the practical difficulties for each parent against what may be the best school for the child?

5. Does anything in my approach sound manipulative or as though I'm putting too much pressure on my son? I'd genuinely like to understand if I'm getting this wrong.

I'm not looking for people simply to tell me I'm right. I want an honest outside perspective on whether I'm approaching this fairly and how we can make a decision that puts our son first.

It’s been about three weeks since I found the love of my life cheating. We were together for 18 years and had 3 kids. She quit being a mom a few years back, so I was already doing all of the cooking/cleaning/laundry/kids activities so thankfully the kids life’s haven’t changed much.
I’m a decent looking 5’9” man in good shape. I made the mistake of joining Hinge just to see the pool… and I can’t help but think that a man with three kids full time in the day of age is just a no from woman. I haven’t received anything on there. Do you just give up and focus on the kids, or am I reacting to soon?

Where to start… I met an energetic outgoing fun woman who was 20 years younger. We started as friends and I assumed that was all it would be until we slept together out of the blue one day. We struggled to find a rhythm and eventually made it work. It was amazing! We made the decision to not have any kids. Covid hit and we were both laid off at home… a lot! She was on Birth control and refused to let me wear protection due to the fact she loved the feeling. Needless to say…
She was late the first month and she blew it off saying it was normal… the 2nd came and she refused to take a test…the third month came and she reluctantly decided to take a test. Positive! Went to the Doctor and they confirmed 18 weeks along! We were past the point of making a decision. I was upset, lost my cool but quickly apologized. Said we would be together. We were good, had our daughter. She was a work from home mom. Spent all of her time at home. My job changed and she went back to work. Shortly after she was going out with her friends every week. I was rushing home from work to pick up our daughter. I lost my job and we had a come to Jesus in which she admitted to an affair on the girls night out. But I never got a straight story. We moved so we could start fresh. She took a job away from her old one as the guy she had ‘interest in’ worked with her. I eventually got a job after almost 6 months with a new company shortly afterwards and she decided she didn’t like her new job and wanted to go back. She stayed with a good friend, but then she got weird. Distant. She stopped making the effort to come home. Still came back but made it so she came home one day and left the next. Our daughter started to struggle emotionally.
I started to also, become a single parent almost overnight. I have been here before raising a kiddo was not the struggle but the issue was her lack of interest. It eventually came out she was not staying at her friends house but had got an apartment above her work (included in her ‘pay’ but she stopped paying bills at home. Long story short I have never been invited to this apartment. Have never seen it and it seems like a huge secret. I didn’t really care pretty much assuming the worst but being called horrible things for ever mentioning it. Or trying to talk about it. I’m pretty sure she is with someone else but refuses to ‘leave me’. I’m done! We don’t really ever have sex. She is always in a rush to get back. She says she is looking for job closer to home but in 2 years has found ‘nothing’! I pay 85% of the bills and she has a hard time covering her 15%. I am here for our daughter 24/7, trying to take a night off ends with me being given shit that I don’t want to spend time with her. Not to mention every time there is an emergency and she needs money she asks
Me.
So I am left feeling like shit. And trying to explain to my daughter why I’m the practical parent instead of the Disney land parent without being negative I work from home but have to travel 2 days a week which I never have any coverage for.
Am I at the point where it’s time to part ways?!?I think the answer is clear but pulling my daughter away from her mom is killing me.

I'm a mom in my late 30s with a toddler, going through a divorce, and wondering whether other parents who've had difficult marriages still dream about finding love and building a family again.

I grew up in an international family, with lots of travel and wonderful lifelong friendships scattered around the world. I'm incredibly grateful for all of it, but I've always dreamed of putting down roots somewhere and building a big, warm, happy family and close-knit community. Kids running around together, friends dropping by, family dinners, weekend adventures, and two people who genuinely love sharing the ordinary parts of raising children. What's especially heartbreaking is that I feel like I've finally gotten almost everything else in my life where I want it. I have a career I love, financial independence, flexibility to spend time with my child, and I'm healthier and fitter than I've ever been, and generally feel so excited about life. And my toddler is such a wonderful and joyful little person. And somehow, just as everything else is coming together, the bottom is falling out of my marriage -- there have been broken promises, financial betrayals, and years of feeling increasingly alone. In short, I thought I was building a family with someone who wanted the same things I did, and it's painful to realize how different the reality has been.

I find myself wondering whether there are single dads who've had similar experiences: who genuinely love being fathers, perhaps have been carrying most of the parenting responsibilities themselves, and still hope to find someone who wants to share all of it. I love the thought of two people finding each other and eventually creating a loving blended family, where the children feel equally cherished and everyone is genuinely happy to be there. But, I'm also scared. It's hard enough to trust someone again after betrayal, and so much harder when there's a little person whose happiness and safety matter more than anything. I don't want to give up on the dream, but I also can't imagine taking that kind of risk lightly.

For those of you who have been through something similar, do you still want that kind of family life? Have any of you found it? How do you reconcile wanting to open your heart and home to someone again with the fear of getting it wrong, especially where your kids are concerned? I'd really love to hear your experiences. Part of me worries I'm being naive, but another part still hopes that the happiest chapter of family life might be ahead.

My girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago and took/sold everything out of our shared apartment while I was gone visiting a family member who was on hospice earlier this month. She took our children to Mexico, to a small city near the border of Guatemala. We had previously verbally agreed to co-parent, but we had not worked out the details or gone to court. So, it surprised me when she did that. She's currently living with her father in Mexico and has not communicated with me or let me see the children. I hired an attorney and got a temporary order granting me legal and physical custody after a court hearing with a judge. I don't understand what she's trying to accomplish. I guess she's trying to punish me for the breakup, but it almost seems like she expects me to just disappear or something. Her father reached out to me and said I need to send him money if I want to get video calls or pictures of my two sons. I'm sure the financial pressure of having three more mouths to feed is already getting to him. However, I told him that what he was proposing was disturbing to me and that the children needed to be returned immediately. Then, he sent me a rant about how I'm not a real man or father. The children have been ordered to return immediately at this point, and I have a follow-up hearing next month for the judge to check whether they have been returned. My attorney has started the process of contacting the San Diego DA's Office and also filling out a Hague Convention complaint because we are both confident that she and her father will not willingly return the children. I'm concerned about the entire process of having the children returned to California. I read on the DA's website that the mother and any other adults involved could be charged with felony child abduction. Anybody been through something similar and what was the outcome?

I make ~95,000 currently. Got a job offer for ~250,000.

The catch: 20 hours fly from home. Permanent relocation. It would be a long onboarding (until end of Q1) + relocation mid 2027.

I have 50% of custody. 2 girls, 7 and 8yo. I’m very close to them, specially with the older. Even in an optimistic scenario (I have 25 business days for PTO currently) and assuming they could travel with me on summer break, that would give me 10 maybe 12 weeks to be with them. It would break my heart.

I know that if I leave for let’s say, 2 years (?) I could save enough to pay for college and a nice place to live. I know that at that age, they probably would not resent it and won’t remember in the long term. But I just can’t cope with it.

As I said, just venting. I need to decline or accept by Monday. I know what I am going to say. I just dwell on the fact that if this had happened 1 year ago, when I was still together with the ex, we would have said yes in a heartbeat.

Thanks for reading.

Has anyone had the experience of having another child with a different person and having it be a completely different experience? I was thinking about it and although I’m not even dating or trying to, I was wondering if anyone else has experienced everything that goes along with being pushed out of your child’s life, court, all the dramatics that come with this horrible situation but then met someone and had a child and were able to be the dad and husband that you weren’t given the chance to be before? Like having a child with someone who actually wanted to be a family.

I just got a call fresh k a very nervous sounding gentleman who’s apparently a public stereo at a hospital that o got laid off from two years ago asking if I was ‘on site’ on literally any j m girlfriends bed Nah bro WTF

I miss my family so much. Me and my baby mom were having issues and have I think it’s because we were in a house with 10 people and never got our own space and we were always together but we’ve had real good times and I want too be with her again and hopefully for the rest if my life. I’m so heartbroken over it all. I miss my baby girl so much I haven’t seen her in 4 days. I’ve been a wreck.

I'm a nonbiological dad with legal rights according to state law. I haven't seen my kiddo in almost 4 months. There's a hearing in 2 weeks to determine if I get parenting time. My ex has responded with a bunch of bogus accusations, some of which are documentable lies. I am so nervous for the hearing. Any advice?

Hey broskis,
I’ve gotten to 50/50 after lots of work and time in coparent guardian et liem meetings.
Now we’re at the 7/7 schedule.
I both love it and grateful and it’s also wearing me thin and empty on weeks off. Feels like building up to such happiness and routine only to feel all the air come out at dropoff.

It’s s there a better 3/3/2(swap)??

They say it’s for stability of the child. I get that and why I’m doing it. But deep down I’d like more of this schedule. My son is too young to figure this out and shouldn’t have to. He has expressed he wants “like a week with momma then a week with dada”. But unknown he misses us hanging out altogether more which I’m down for as coparents but she’s still high conflict.

Anyone have experience in this altered 50/50’s schedule?

My kids mom texted me yesterday saying " my mom thinks that you found someone else and I told her you are just trying to get money". She texted me this because I texted the group chat with her and her mom that I was staying for a double. I texted her back saying "So now every time I stay to do a double you guys think im eith another woman. Well atleast Im living a more exciting life in your guys head when in reality Im dealing with behaviors and wiping poop for an extra eight hours". She responded with "I dont think you are but she thinks that but even if you did I would be happy for you". I ended that conversation with "I am trying to focus on my mental health and my kids. I am actually becoming more and more of hermit that likes his space away from people"

Then she tried to switch it up with "come home I dont feel too good and my mom needs her space". I just responded with " one of you better take my babies to school tomorrow morning because Im getting home to sleep three-four hours to be back at work in the morning".

I got home she was completely fine. All she asked me for was to get my baby boy off of her and I went straight to sleep.

Im tired of the pitty parties and the mind games. I am focused on my mental health, beign the best dad I can be, and money.

If my babies are staying at my mom's house for the weekend I am taking some much needed time to myself and walk around downtown for some hours to breath, think, and recollect my energy for my priorities.

I made the mistake of looking at my company’s Facebook page tonight and there was a photo of all of my coworkers and their children together in front of one of our helicopters. It is absolutely heartbreaking and brutal that I couldn’t be there with my son. No that shouldn’t hurt me as much as it does but I wanted so badly to be in that photo and it’s a reminder of exactly how awful my situation is. That would have meant the world to me just to have that one moment and be in that picture. The one thing that I wanted was time with my son and she just couldn’t do it. She works three days a week and has a boyfriend or two but she just couldn’t do it.