This is gonna sound a bit funny but when i was a kid (and hit puberty), i remember looking at adults in public and seeing so many people walking about: men, women, tall, short, attractive, not so attractive, and thinking to myself..

"Wow they all must be having so much sex, I can't wait to become an adult!"

I honestly thought becoming an adult would involve just a bit more work (vs being in school), but a LOT more sex. Like sex was just a regular part of an adult's daily routine or something.

Then i became an adult. And the reality (after a decade+) is that it's the exact opposite. Being an adult involves a LOT more work, yet much less sex than i imagined.

I see people giving others advice: Go hit the gym! Go join a club! Go to bars! Work on yourself and everything will work out! We have to dress well, make X amount of money, be the correct age/maturity, be in the right place, learn "game"/seduction techniques, spend $15/drink at bars, etc.

I'm out here participating in bouldering, skiing for years, have an active photography hobby, traveled to 20+ countries, have a wide friend group in multiple continents. Yet if all just feels so.. exhausting.

I even ask my friends (some of whom are REALLY attractive) how often they're getting regular sex, and i swear almost every one of them these days are basically going months also without it.

And to be clear, I'm not sex obsessed. But when you're starved for physical intimacy, it just drains the energy from everything else that you do, you know what i mean? I've been in 2 longterm relationships, so it's not like I've gotten zero either.

I feel like there naturally should've been a place in society where people could go find like-minded people and say to each other in an honest way: "Hey, sex feels great. Let's agree to do it safely". I believe the closest we came to that was Tinder, but as with most things, it got ruined by capitalism.

It's pretty grim out there ngl

TL;DR met my gf at a wedding and, we started dating and now we’re serious but we’ve got societal issues

I now realise how great can a partner be if they have real intentions and love. I have a great person for a partner in my life My gf is a literal goddess, always giving me the princess treatment lololol.

She is very smart, sooo fine, happy, cheerful and brings a lot of light into my life. She’s soo fun to be around, a little on the crazy ( good crazy) end, and very very curious about a lot of things.

She definitely is one of the sweetest persons out there, always taking care of her friends. She always takes time out of her day for the people she cares about no matter how busy she is, and looks after her fam too. She loves travelling, experiencing new cultures, food, drinks etc and always down for a good time. I really do love her with all my heart atp

The issue is that there is a huge caste related problem in our home country and we’re from different communities. So there is this problem of caste. So, how do we navigate this issue ?

This is something I’ve been genuinely confused about.

On dating apps, I match with guys I find attractive pretty regularly, so I don’t think my standards are completely unrealistic. But in real life, whenever a guy approaches me, it’s almost always someone I’m not attracted to. To be honest, the guys that approach me in real life act weird, making me uncomfortable, or often times unhygienic.

Does anyone else experience this? Is it just that certain types of people are more likely to approach strangers, or am I doing something wrong?

I’ve been chatting with this guy who I was mutual friends with for a few months. He doesn’t even know that I like him, so I don’t know if making this post is wrong. We talk daily, though I initiate often. He reciprocates my energy, and we usually have fun conversations. In fact, he’s told me some personal stuff about his personality. Anyways, I just am scared that he will think I’m too much and run away. I do have a tendency to talk a lot, while engaging him of course. I simply want him to not be afraid of me and like speaking with me. I just don’t know how to prevent him from actually running away.

My man has been super busy lately and I have enjoyed it so much. Having nights to myself just make me feel relaxed and relieved. We got into a fight because he doesnt think I love him because I honestly dont miss him I truly feel relieved to have more time for myself. Am I secure in myself and its healthy to be happy that im alone.... or does this mean what he thinks that maybe the love is lost and I'm better off alone?

I’m 27F and recently got out of a four-year relationship. I’m definitely not ready to jump into another relationship anytime soon, as I want to take some time to focus on myself, make new friends, and enjoy being single.

However, when I eventually do feel ready to start dating again, I honestly have no idea how to meet people organically anymore.

I’m not particularly interested in dating apps. I would much rather meet someone naturally, develop a genuine connection, and let things progress without the pressure of immediately dating.

For those of you who are in your late 20s or older, how have you met potential romantic partners outside of dating apps? Where do you go to meet new people? Do you approach people you’re interested in, or do you wait for them to approach you?

I’d especially love to hear from women who have been in a similar situation and successfully put themselves back out there after a long-term relationship.

Any advice or personal experiences would be appreciated! :)

Now I don’t know what to do. For the last year my whole life revolved around my 32 year old fiancé and her 4 kids. I woke up, worked as a stay at home dad to those in kids did my best and repeated the cycle day in and day out for a year.

For a year I tried and tried and tried and I got better yes, but eventually we each came to the conclusion that I just couldn’t be what she needed at this moment. So we mutually broke it off, and that was fine. She told me she’d help me get back on my feet in a completely new state and give me the money back that I originally gave her at the start of our relationship.

Well then after not 2 weeks she brought over another guy to fuck. Not 50 feet away from me, and it devastated me. I gave this woman my virginity, my love, my admiration and I was willing to help her in anyway I could.

I even asked her if I could get a hotel or something, anything to where I didn’t have to be in that house. But she denied and refused and it broke me. I went into a manic episode for 3 days and ended up in the hospital with what the doctors called “Stressed induced DKA” (diabetic Keto acidosis) I’m a type 1 diabetic.

Even after seeing how badly it affected me, and how much it was hurting me. She wouldn’t just put her dating life aside for one minute in order to make sure her ex fiancé didn’t end up dead. We fought she drained our joint bank account of our money and told me to “Figure it out” after giving me only a grand back. And a grand doesn’t go far these days.

Now I’m back home, in my childhood bed. Living in my dad and step mom’s house bringing all the “skills” I learned back with me but now, being back in this tiny little town. I feel more lonely than ever, the same crushing, compounding, feeling that I had before I met her is back.

Now that’s killing me. I’ve never really been happy alone, and never will be honestly. I’ve always felt like I needed someone else to be happy, with myself. But oh well… now I’m almost 20 and have basically nothing to my name.

I (F25) have seen (M55) a few times now. I went through a breakup over the summer and I was with the guy for almost 8 years. I got over it quicker than expected. I met this guy online. I don’t want a boyfriend I know that. Before any assumptions are made I just find older men attractive, there’s no issues or anything. The sex is amazing with this guy which is the main thing I’ve seen him for, but I also enjoy his presence. I saw him a little over a week ago and it was really good. I am going on a short vacation this week, so a couple days after I saw him I asked if I could see him again before I go. He said he couldn’t, but had very legitimate reasons as to why not excuses. But the texts seemed kinda cold and way less affectionate than the previous ones. For some reason that just triggered me because I’m stressing that he never wants to see me again and it’s been bothering me all week. Today I’m on hinge, and I see him and I’s conversation isn’t there anymore. It was in the hidden section for probably over a month now, but just because I’m already anxious seeing that gave me so much anxiety. I genuinely don’t know why I care so much and why it’s affecting me because I don’t want a relationship but I do want to keep seeing him. I hope he’ll text me at some point but if not I was planning on texting when I get back early next week. I just don’t want this to keep consuming me help.

Okay so I (34M) went to the store with my Mother to do some grocery shopping with her. On the way she had to stop at work and do soms wrap up for like an Hour. She asked me for help, I didnt mind so I helped her out. As we pulled in she saw the cars currently their and she commented on seeing 1 in specific.

She told me "Oh, you're about to see like the cutest girl I've ever met." Look I know she is gassing the girl but I did meet her and she really was super cute. We didn't talk much but said a few words and then she left.

After we also finished up, my mom mentioned how She's single and lonely. And I didn't want to make a big deal out of it, but I can't say I wasn't interested.

Later down the week My mom came and talked to me about her and said this girl has been recently confiding in my mom about Dating and all that. So I told my mom outright "Give her my Number, if she wants to get in touch she will. I have no Issue with it."

I know my mom is gassing the exchanges up a bit so like go mom on the wingman Plays. But I'd really like to take the chance to talk to her and get to know her. Maybe I'm just on a waiting game. And I shouldn't be too impatient about it. Its just she was really cute and my mom likes her a lot so that means something to me.

The last woman I dated ended things because she said I was emotionally unavailable since she kept wanting me to open up, but I never did. How can I become more emotionally available for future partners and not guard my emotions?

I’m a current freshmen in college and say I meet a guy at a bar and hookup with him what are the chances we ever date?

Hi 17f, and i was in a situationship that didn't last long.

I've never been in a relationship and i have rarely met a guy who was interested in me. So when i met Cam (fake name) i was shocked and excited.

He was very flirty and texted me every single day. He was cute and a kind guy. He even started going to my Youth group (church event) for a few weeks.

But i have a rule, i don't start Dating someone until after a year of knowing him as a friend first.

So Everytime he'd say something that sounded like him asking me out on a date i would ask "will other people be there?" Now after a while we decided to be just friends.

I was a little bummed but i respect myself too much to rush into a relationship with someone i don't know that well.

Now he started texting less and less and even stopped going to youth group with me.

Next thing i knew a week has passed and he's not talking to me at all, other then a Instagram reel here and there.

Now HOCO recently passed and i start talking to my old sports teammates and i find out that one of them was actually his ex. And me and her just start talking about how everything went down with him. And i learned that he would make some wildly inappropriate comments and jokes to her. Even going as far as suggesting sleeping with each other. Now she was 15 while he was 17. And we start talking about how he was "Too good at flirting" like he did it a lot. And she tells me how he's CURRENTLY talking to our old teammate. Its been like a month and he's already off to the next girl.

Now i think i dodged a bullet but honestly i find myself still thinking about him. I wasn't in love with him but some part of me is telling me i was being harsh blocking him.

He never did anything wrong with me but maybe thats because I didn't let him get too close.

(27m)
Trying to date anymore is just so exhausting.
You meet/match with someone.
You text/talk to them.
You either wait 7 business days for a reply or one of you decides out of the blue that you just don’t wanna talk anymore.
If you were love bombed then that’s tough, get over it.
You meet someone else and the cycle repeats.

Idk, maybe it’s just me, maybe I’m meant to be alone. I always try but to no avail, nobody seems to wanna take legitimate interest in me. I understand that I’m probably better off just doing my own thing than constantly obsessing over meeting someone but I literally just can’t help it.

Why can’t it finally be my turn, why do I have to watch all my friend and colleagues meet people, and never get to experience that myself? Why am I in this never ending cycle of despair and disappointment when it comes to trying to date? Should I really just give up? I want to, if I could get rid of the longing, the yearning, the desire in itself to meet someone I would have done it by now.

It’s just so lonely and I hate this feeling, all I’ve ever wanted was to finally meet my person, I just want my happy ending that’s all. Why do I have to suffer, what so wrong with me that women won’t want anything to do with me? I don’t get it, can someone please help me understand.

hi! im a 18F college student studying biomedical sciences and global public health at a tech college in the us. over the past 18 years ive never had a bf/gf. is this normal? ik people always say life doesn't follow a strict timetable, but at what point would i be considered behind? I moved from a small town to a small city and ive had slightly more luck with romantic interest (others interested in me). the only issue is that its all been guys and 40% just wanted to sleep with me. the other issue is that i dont know if im interested in guys (im interested in women). im very grateful to go to school in an area that has a lot of openly lgbtqia+ individuals and advocacy. ive only ever been on one date in my life and it turned out very platonic rather than romantic. i would be interested in dating, but idek where to start. any advice?

I don't mind if my date wants to pay. To be honest I'd be happy. Who does not want that right? But my problem is what if they will treat it as a debt owed?

Like say you did not end up together but then during the date you let that person order for you because you are not familiar with the food and turns out it's quite expensive. The other person later asks you to pay half of it and you did not expect that amount.

Or what if you do end up in a relationship. How does paying for dates work then? Do you talk it out? Expect the other person to pay most of it? Pay 50/50? Just let things unfold on its own?

I need some advice because I am in a huge conflict.
Recently a friend of mine confessed that he has feelings for me. Emotionally, he is the best. We share many values, insanely smart, is into the same nerdy stuff I am and overall I enjoy his company. However, I have no physical attraction for him. He has a funny smell, is generally unkept and well it's mostly about how he presents himself to the world. I am on the opposite aspect, I care a lot about my fashion because it is a form of self expression to me (I am an alt girl).

I have very mixed feelings. I did tell him that I'd love to go out with him to know him better but I am still unsure if I would get in a relationship with him or not. This has been clear for him to the start but I can't shake the feeling that he is very much falling in love with me which I just feel so pressured. I told him to slow things down and not get too emotionally invested in me since we are not dating yet and he did say he understood but I think he is still too attached, despite us having a few days talking to me.

My issue is that I'd love to tell him that I really don't like how he presents himself. He has potential to be handsome but he is very careless with his appearance. I don't want to be rude or sound as shallow. Any advice on how to approach this without sounding like a total bitch about it? I really don't want to harm his self esteem.

Gift on 2nd date?

So i just had the most amazing date with someone,

The date surpassed all my expectations and had the most amazing evening and we both seemed to have enjoyed the date a lot.

Date lasted for about 3hrs, ended with a good kiss with both agreed we would very much like a second date.

During the date she told me she just bought a house, as in, she is signing the last documents tomorrow and will receive a key.

I was thinking of maiby making a quirky little housewarming gift for the 2nd date, nothing too special.

i made the borat "king of the castle, king of the castle" quote into a sound wave which i want to 3d print and put into a small frame.

She told me she literally has no furniture besides a matras on the floor so i found this to be a funny inside joke (if she gas actually seen the movie that is).

Is that a good idea or too much for a second date?

I’ve been taking a class once a week for the past 8 months and at the beginning of this month, a girl my age joined and I started gaining feelings for her the second class this month (second week). Not only is she really pretty, but incredibly nice and creative and she radiates a great energy.

The day after that class, she followed me on Instagram and the day after that, she posted an event on her story and asked if anybody wanted to go with her. I said yes, not only just to spend time with her, but also because I was actually interested in the event and she said she would’ve loved to go, but was unable to now because of her work schedule (which I believe, the event was showing on really weird days that I probably couldn’t have commited to either). I pivoted and asked if she wanted to go get coffee before Class 3 instead and she agreed, but then also asked me if I wanted to invite other people from my class as well so more people could join in. I said yes because I was worried that I’d look like a dick or a creep if I said no and so one other person joined us, who was someone I also liked (as a friend) so that was fine. But beforehand, we had about 30 minutes alone together and from what I remember, it was nice.

After that though, we haven’t talked since. On my side of things, there really isn’t anything to talk about and I don’t wanna come across as forceful since the reason we started talking in the first place was because of a mutual interest. But the silence still makes me kind of sad and worries me that I said something wrong during our alone time or that she knows that I have a thing for her and she‘s grossed out or something. I just got back from Class 4 today and I was sad for unrelated reasons. We very briefly talked about it before we went in and I could tell she genuinely felt bad for me, but we didn’t talk afterwards and she sped off with another girl after class.

I’m very confused where to go from here. My current thought is to be in better spirits the first class of next month, talk to her some more, and then maybe ask her out after class, but I’m really worried now because of the silence that something happened during our alone time and she doesn’t want to be near me anymore, but also I’m kind of harsh on myself so I have a feeling I may be looking too deeply into things. Or maybe she genuinely just has no idea and thought I dropped her. Thoughts?

I (24F) recently went on a first date with a guy from hinge (26M) and we honestly had a really good time. We had great chemistry, laughed a lot, and ended up sleeping together. He was still very affectionate afterward, and we’ve already planned a second date for tomorrow.
Initially, I told him I wasn’t looking for anything serious, but after meeting him, I realized I actually liked him more than I expected. I communicated that I was now more open to something long-term, and he responded positively, saying he was glad to hear that and that he was on the same page.
Here’s where I’m getting anxious. Since our first date, I’ve noticed that his texting has slowed down. He still responds, asks me questions, and engages in conversation, but sometimes takes around two hours to reply. His messages also tend to be shorter than mine, although that could just be his texting style.
We’ve both been pretty busy, and he works, so I understand that he can’t constantly be on his phone.
I had a previous dating experience where someone gradually started texting less before losing interest, so I’m wondering whether that’s influencing how I’m interpreting this situation.
He also brought up our second date himself today to discuss the timing, so I know there are positive signs.
I guess I’m wondering: Is it normal for texting frequency and enthusiasm to settle down after a first date, even when someone is genuinely interested? Am I overthinking this, or is a change in texting something I should pay attention to?

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I honestly don’t know what to make of this situation, and I guess I just need to get it off my chest and hear some outside perspectives.

There’s this guy in our circle. both dancers, and our groups are pretty close, so we’ve known each other for a while. At first, I never really saw him that way or found him sexually attractive. That only started to change when he began reaching out to me.

One night, he was out partying and asked me where I was. I was staying at my friend’s condo that night, and somehow, he ended up coming to the parking lot to see me.

I swear I didn’t go into that situation intending for anything to happen. I genuinely just wanted to talk to him. I had actually been very clear with him before that I didn’t want to get involved with him because he had a girlfriend. I knew he was taken, and I didn’t want to be part of something that could hurt another person.

But I guess things got carried away in the heat of the moment, and we ended up making out and having sex in his car.

Afterward, I felt really bad about what happened. I never reached out to him again because I didn’t know how to process everything, and honestly, I felt guilty about the whole situation. I just left it alone and tried to move on with my life.

Then, months later, out of nowhere, he messaged me on a random night asking how I was doing. Eventually, he brought up wanting to see me again.

And now I’m wondering what that was supposed to mean.

Does he genuinely want to reconnect with me? Was he just bored or looking for the same thing that happened between us before? Does he even think about what happened, or was it just a random hookup to him?

Part of me feels like I shouldn’t even be wondering about his intentions because he has a girlfriend, and that alone should be enough reason to keep my distance. But I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t curious about why he decided to reach out again after months of silence.

I’m not trying to justify what happened because I know I made a choice, too, and I feel guilty about my part in it. I just genuinely don’t understand why he would come back into my life after all this time, especially when he’s still someone who’s supposedly committed to another person.

So, Reddit, what do you think? Why do guys reach out again months after something like this? And what would you do if you were in my position?

I (21F) met this guy (21M) on Tinder last Wednesday. We go to the same college, and we started talking that day.
On Friday, we both happened to be going out to the bars, so we decided to meet up. We had a really good time together! Throughout the night, we kept getting separated because the bar was crowded, but he would repeatedly try to find me or text me asking where I was because he couldn’t see me. I thought that was really cute because it seemed like he genuinely wanted to spend time with me.
We ended up holding hands while walking back that night.
The next day (Saturday), we went on an actual date. We grabbed hot cocoa and walked around the waterfront. It was honestly such a sweet date. We ended up kissing and cuddling, and he was extremely affectionate.
While we were kissing, he kept complimenting me, telling me I was pretty, that I had really pretty eyes, that he liked kissing me, and that he enjoyed cuddling with me.
I genuinely felt like there was chemistry between us, and I thought he was interested.
After we said goodbye, he actually texted me around midnight saying, “hi ur too cute.”
I responded about an hour later with “hii :) ur too pretty.”
And then… nothing.
He didn’t respond or react to my message. He didn’t text me at all on Sunday, and by Monday, I still hadn’t heard from him.
For context, he’s admitted to being a really bad texter. During our date, I even jokingly told him, “I honestly didn’t think you were interested in me because of the way you were texting.”
He laughed and said something along the lines of, “I knowwww, I’m sorry. A lot of people tell me I’m a bad texter.”
And to be fair, before our date, his response times were inconsistent. Sometimes he’d respond almost immediately, and other times he’d take hours.
However, something that confuses me is that before we met, whenever our conversations got dry and I reacted to his message instead of responding, he would sometimes double text me to keep the conversation going.
So I know he’s capable of initiating conversations.
Another small detail is that we talked about Halloween, and I offered to give him some setting spray for his costume. So I thought maybe he assumed we’d see each other again, although we never actually made plans.
Anyway, by Monday evening, I decided to reach out because I had three cute pictures of us together from the weekend.
I sent him the pictures and said, “aw these are cute pics lol.”
It’s now been several hours, and he still hasn’t responded.
I know a few hours isn’t necessarily a long time, especially for someone who’s admitted to being a bad texter. But combined with the fact that he hasn’t initiated anything since Saturday night, I’m starting to wonder whether he’s actually interested.
I’m not expecting him to text me 24/7, especially since we’ve only known each other for a few days. But I guess I assumed that if a guy really liked me, he’d want to talk to me or at least check in after our date.
What confuses me most is how affectionate he was in person. He was constantly complimenting me, initiating physical affection, telling me how much he enjoyed kissing me, and then he texted me afterward to tell me I was cute.
I don’t understand why he’d do all that if he wasn’t interested in seeing me again.
I’m starting to feel a little embarrassed that I reached out first and sent him those pictures, especially since he hasn’t answered.
So I guess my questions are:
Does his behavior suggest genuine interest, or could he have just been caught up in the moment?
Is it normal not to text every day during the early talking stage, even after a really good date?
Is his silence something I should be concerned about, or am I reading too much into it?
Would you assume he’s losing interest, or would you give it more time?
I’d especially appreciate perspectives from guys or people who genuinely consider themselves bad texters.
TL;DR: Met a guy Wednesday, hung out Friday, and went on a really sweet date Saturday. He was extremely affectionate, repeatedly complimented me, and texted me afterward saying I was cute. Then he went silent Sunday and Monday. I reached out Monday evening with cute pictures of us, but he hasn’t responded after several hours. He’s admitted he’s a bad texter, but I’m confused about whether he’s interested or just enjoyed the moment.

Been seeing a guy for 2 months. Things have felt good on the surface- he’s flirty, funny, ambitious, similar hobbies, and our time together flies by. But as time passes I’m looking at a few things he has said/done and am getting worried. I know the term “emotional unavailability” is thrown around all the time and maybe this guy just isn’t that into me. But despite spending more time together I don’t feel any closer to him. Here are some other things I worry about:

-He said he’s dated 12 people in the past 4 years. I don’t what he defines as “dating”.

-The longest relationship he’s had in the past 4-5 years has been 4 months.

-Said he used to be scared of commitment but isn’t now

-Works a LOT. Obsessed with productivity. Always finds time to text me but is very hot and cold with texting. Also hot and cold with how often we see each other too (could be twice in a week then 2 weeks without anything). Plans are often spontaneous and last minute. Low-key dates only like walking or drinks.

-Very lone wolf. doesn’t seem close emotionally to many people or friends and it doesn’t seem to bother him at all

-While I’m opening up about something deep or vulnerable he’ll do something silly to get me off track or off topic

-Lacks curiosity about me. At first asked questions about me but now doesn’t seem to follow up about things going on in my life or inner world. For example, I took a hiking trip (a hobby we both enjoy) and he didn’t ask any questions about how it was.

-Hasn’t shared hardly any deep feelings or vulnerable things about himself. He seems to deflect from those conversations and I can’t break through. The most I know about his family is his father abandoned them.

-Started with compliments and words of affirmation but had kinda stopped them even after I said they were my love language

I really have been lucky to date mostly emotionally available men. So the dynamic with this guy feels noticeably different. This guy seems into me but feels so distant even when we’re together. I don’t know what advice I’m looking for but I feel like I’m going crazy trying to read where his head is at. What are the most common signs of someone emotionally unavailable?

I'm a guy and my last relationship which ended this last Saturday. Our relationship had ZERO fights, clear communication, and 100% honesty over everthing. For the last week she was dry as fuck, always "working", always " sleeping", and wouldn't even really say I love you back unless I said it twice. This all happened suddenly, one day she was happy and being a dork, then the very next day she changed. I didn't do anything wrong, the only I could have done was venting to a friend and saying that I don't know how long me and her are going to last because she wouldn't talk to me or anything, of which she saw because we shared each others Snapchat accounts. Guys, maybe the girls here too may have heard this, but she said she was mentally drained and needed to fix herself. Which I agree with, but with my past relationships all saying the same thing and getting with another guy almost immediately and having toxic relationships in the past, I don't believe it and think she found someone else. I need advice. What did I do? Did I do anything? And why does it hurt so fucking much?

Hi everyone!
I’m a 20-year-old girl, and I wanted to share my experience and ask for some honest opinions.
About a year ago, I had a breast lift on only one breast because my breasts were naturally asymmetrical. Unfortunately, the scars really bother me. I have a scar all around my nipple and another one going vertically down my breast. They’re still pretty noticeable, and honestly, I really struggle with how they look.
I’ve always been very critical of myself and my appearance, so this has been especially hard for me.
I had a boyfriend when I got the surgery, and I always felt like he avoided touching my operated breast. He would always touch or hold my other breast instead, and that made me feel even more insecure about it.
The whole reason I got surgery in the first place was because my breasts were uneven. But now, a year later, they’re still not really symmetrical. So basically, I still have two different-looking breasts, except now one of them has scars.
And honestly, sometimes I feel like I made things worse instead of better. If I had known my breasts would still look different, I think I would have preferred to keep my natural breasts without any scars.
Now I’m wondering whether I should get the other breast done too, but I’m scared of ending up with scars on both breasts and still not being completely symmetrical.
I guess my main question is, how much do breast lift scars actually bother guys? Would you rather be with a girl who has naturally uneven breasts, or someone who has had surgery and has visible scars?
I know I shouldn’t base my decisions on what men think, but I’d really appreciate some honest opinions because this has been affecting my confidence a lot.
Also, if anyone feels comfortable messaging me privately, you’re more than welcome to! I can send you a picture of my scar so you can see what it actually looks like and give me your honest opinion. I’d really appreciate some genuine feedback.
I’m not sure if I’m explaining myself properly, but I hope you understand what I mean. Thank you for reading! ❤️

I met a guy in Milan and we went on a few dates. He was genuinely really nice, we talked constantly and he even mentioned visiting me in Berlin.

When I left for Rome, I thought we’d never speak again, but he reached out the next day asking about my trip. Since then he texts me to check on me every few days, likes all my stories and checks up on me but he also randomly disappears for 1-2 days and comes back saying he was busy.

I drunk called him once, and he texted the next nigjt “You called?? Sorry, I just saw it hahahah.” 😭 I ignored him, but he texted me again and I just reacted. Then he reached out AGAIN. The problem is that he doesn’t seem to put much effort into keeping our conversations going. I eventually just liked his last voice note and left it because I felt like he wouldn’t reply anyway.

Now I’m flying back to Milan and I genuinely don’t know what to think. Is he interested, just being friendly, or keeping me as an option?

Should I try to see him when I’m back or just leave it alone?

We’re both 23 years old