Last week I started a new journey for a better me.

I'm f**ing disgusted by the world we live in. Whenever I'm driving through the city, everyone is on their phone. People walking and staring at the phone, people waiting at the bus station on the phone, in the food court everyone is on the phone. The only people who don’t use phone are oldies. Every time I notice it I'm kinda terrified of what kind of society we became.

But, a little hipocrisy here, I'm not THAT different. I'm always so proud to say I don't use Instagram or TikTok and I don't even have the Reddit app. But on the other hand I'm on Reddit through the browser lol. And checking my investments every 30 minutes (looking at you bitcoin)

So I decided to put an end to it. I was at almost 3.5 hours of screen time a day, which is alot for someone who doesn't even use social media (except Reddit apparently).

Anyway, in one week I got it down by about 2 hours a day on average, today I'm at 42 min. What I did:

- At home: phone goes on the top shelf. Most important thing is not having it next to me on the couch
- At the office: in the drawer and I lock it
- At the gym: stays in the locker
- Walking outside: I just leave it at home
- Going to sleep: phone sleeps in another room
- Going for number 2: out of reach lol. This one was the hardest honestly

BUT. I've been here a couple of times before and I always end up back at 3+ hours, sometimes even more then before. 

So my question is how do you keep it going for a month, or 6 months for that matter?

Starting the habit is easy for me, sticking to it is the hard part.
Any advise would be appreciated

I have so far discovered three levels to the development of strength:
Level 1: Basic Strength - Body, Mind, Will
Level 2: Ego Strength
Level 3: Love of Power (with power defined as “anything by which I achieve victory”)

When working at Level 1, strength of will is the main challenge, because once you attain it and start advancing in it, you’re able to apply it to whatever your physical or mental regimens are

Here is a very simple technique for strengthening your will:
Make your bed!

Obviously this only applies if no one is forcing you to make your bed
If someone is, then substitute an alternative daily action by which you can take hold of some small part of your personal, private environment and bring it daily into a greater state of order than you previously have done
Pick something where the stakes are very low
No part of the universe should be forcing you to take this action
You should be doing it for one reason, and one reason only, and that is because you have decided to do so, and as a victorious being, that which you decide, you do

I live alone by choice, so no one forces me to make my bed, or even knows whether I do or don’t
I actually sleep on a reclining chair, with a towel draped over the top for my head to rest on (thereby protecting the chair from the discoloration my perspiration might cause) and a very large blanket, which I bought in Mexico, covering me
So making my bed consists of folding those two items and placing each in its respective drawer in my dresser

Folding the towel is quick and easy
Folding the blanket requires more effort, as it’s so large that I have to go through this whole logistical process to get it folded
I often feel tempted to not bother, but that temptation actually serves me, because it gives my strength of will something to push against!
That temptation is an example of sloth, or if you prefer a different term, laziness, the resistance to exerting effort
Strength of will has no greater enemy than sloth!
Yet I slay that adversary daily, each morning, by the simple technique of making my bed!
And so I start each day already a conqueror, having already won a victory, by dealing an insidious foe a mortal blow!
And the muscles of my will, by pushing daily against a strong opposing force, strengthen, like the muscles of my arms when I push against gravity doing pushups!

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People usually think building positive habits requires intense willpower and rigid scheduling. Some of the highest-yield routines are so small they barely feel like effort. Putting a full glass of room temperature water next to the kettle before going to sleep, leaving your phone in another room while having lunch, or just stepping outside on the porch for two minutes right after waking up to get natural light. What was a tiny physical shift you made that stuck effortlessly?

Ive noticed that everytime I think I finally quit an addiction K just switched to another one. I cycle between phone addiction (youtube / twitch content), binge eating, gaming and alcohol (and isolation/bedrotting if that counts).

Did anyone have a similar expirience and was able to break the cycle?

I feel quite stuck, always working on improving something but yet to make progress. Thank you in advance.

I finally finished The Psychology of Money! I've been reading a little every day, and it feels good to have made it all the way to the last page.

For my next book, I've started AI Engineering. I'm still in the first chapter, reading about how language models have evolved into the large language models (LLMs) we have today.

I've also kept up with my evening workouts at the park. It's getting pretty cold after sunset, but I still head out after dinner as usual.

Work has been getting busier lately, so I'm not trying to build any new habits for now. Instead, I want to focus on maintaining the ones I've already established.

How do you keep your habits going when life gets busy?

When I look at a clock, I tend to convert the time to area codes. 3:13 well that's Detroit, and then in another minute, it'll be St. Louis, but what are 315 and 316? But at 3:17 it'll be Indianapolis...

I used to have a hard time keeping up with hygiene around the house and had cockroach infestations a few times. I’d deal with the immediate problem things would seem fine again and then I’d gradually let the routine slip. Before long, it felt like I was back at page one.

The part I’m trying to change is treating “the bugs are gone” as the finish line. I want prevention to be part of the regular routine, alongside things like taking out the trash, wiping down the kitchen, and not leaving food or dishes out overnight. Those are easy to stop doing once the urgent problem is out of sight, so I’m trying to attach them to things I already do instead of relying on motivation.

For example, I’m thinking of a quick kitchen reset before bed and a regular check for places food or moisture might be attracting pests. I’m also spraying some Pestie mixture around the house every few months.

I’m realizing that maintenance is harder to stick with when it only feels important during an infestation. A small routine seems more manageable than waiting until there’s a problem and trying to fix everything at once but so far it has been working as I have not had any problems indoors.

For anyone who’s had a similar cycle, what helped you keep up the basic cleaning and prevention after the immediate problem was gone?

I used to drink energy drinks at night and then go straight to bed. I know it sounds crazy but somehow that became a habit. Lately I’ve been trying to cut back and replace them with tea. Started with a honey scented oolong from Pipi tea because grassy or bitter teas have always put me off and this was easier for me to enjoy... I’m trying to lose weight and build healthier habits too. Just started walking for an hour three times a week, eating more protein and adding some probiotic foods. Apparently I’m becoming a tea person along the way lol. It’s kinda hard but I’m really trying.

How do you guys stay consistent when the motivation wears off?

Most habit apps are good at answering questions like:

Did I do it today?
How long is my streak?
How consistent have I been?

But I found myself wanting to answer something a little different:

Are the things I’m repeatedly doing actually moving my life in the direction I want it to go?

That question eventually led me to build an app around the idea, but I’m deliberately not including a link here because I’m genuinely more interested in whether other people have struggled with the same problem.

For me, the difficult part was connecting habits to the bigger picture — health, family, work, personal growth, attention, and identity.

Not just “Did I complete this habit?” but:

Is this something the person I’m trying to become would actually keep doing?

That shift helped me think of habits less as isolated tasks and more as evidence of direction — small repeated actions that either support or drift away from the identity and life I’m trying to build.

I’d be curious how people here think about this.

Do you mainly want a habit tracker to help you stay consistent, or do you also want it to help you see whether your habits are aligned with your priorities and the person you’re trying to become?

I've worn sleep trackers for years, and one thing I've noticed is how easy it is to become more interested in the score than in how I actually feel. 

You wake up tired, check your app, and see an impressive sleep score. Part of you thinks you should feel refreshed. Another part wonders what's wrong with you because you don't. 

Then you start checking the details. REM sleep, deep sleep, time awake, heart rate. Maybe you check again later to see whether the data has changed. 

At some point, the tracker stops being something you use to understand your sleep and becomes something you feel compelled to check. 

I found the 3am check particularly unhelpful. I'd wake up, look at the numbers, and find myself thinking about my sleep rather than simply trying to get back to it. 

The habit is easy to justify because checking the data feels productive. You're gathering information, after all. But sometimes you're just giving yourself another thing to worry about. 

I've come to think that sleep trackers are most useful when you look for patterns over time, rather than treating every night's figures as a verdict. 

If your sleep score drops one night, it doesn't necessarily mean anything significant. And if you feel tired despite a good score, your experience still matters. Consumer trackers can estimate sleep stages, but their measurements aren't the same as a clinical sleep study. 

One small change is to check the data once in the morning, then leave it alone for the rest of the day. There's no need to keep revisiting it, especially in the middle of the night. 

I'm interested in the habit side of this. 

Has anyone else found themselves checking their sleep data more often than is actually useful? Did you manage to change that habit, or do you still find yourself getting drawn into the numbers? 

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Hi. Im 13 and ive been using my phone a lot for quite some time. I have big plans for my future but my bad habits, such as scroling, playing video games and slacking off, always get in the way of my studying, drawing and working out. I want to get into a good university in japan and i know i need to study and be healthy to be able to do that and i need to find a way to destroy my bad habits and create new good ones, such as learning japaneese, studying, drawing and working out. Have you got the same problem? .What worked for you? I realy need your help!

Eu tenho um gosto muito forte por doces, desde pequeno eu era fissurado e sempre os preferi do que salgados, mas não aquelas coisas nojentas de guarda-chuvinha de chocolate e pirulitos socados de açúcar puro, gosto de coisas em grande quantidade que no caso são bolos, tortas, pavês, mousses, sorvetes. eu realmente tenho um consumo elevado e de muita quantidade dessas coisas, toda semana como 2 bolos sozinho, bandeja de pavê eu faço apenas pra mim, e eu tenho o habito de comer muita bolacha recheada também, eu queria saber como comer essas coisas, mas em pouca quantidade e me sentir satisfeito, não consigo mais comer apenas uma fatia de bolo, acho muito pouco. E uma das coisas que ajuda nesse meu habito ruim é que eu não engordo fácil, então sinto que isso não é necessariamente um problema, mas minha família tem histórico de diabetes e eu não quero sofrer com essas coisas futuramente kkkk. Eu como frutas também, então trocar pra isso não é um problema, mas eu queria pode comer essas coisas mais doces em uma quantidade saudável e me sentir satisfeito.

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I've tried the usual stuff over the years-reading books, watching motivational videos, downloading habit trackers, even making those ambitious monthly plans that somehow fall apart after a week or two. The weird part is that I always start with a lot of motivation, but keeping the momentum going is where everything seems to fall apart. Lately I've been wondering if the problem isn't motivation at all, but trying to do everything alone. I started reading more about accountability and self-improvement communities, and one platform that caught my attention was Improve myself because it seems to focus more on consistency and having people around you who are working toward similar goals. It made me realize that I've never actually tried improving alongside other people. For those who've managed to build habits that lasted more than a few months, what made the biggest difference? Was it accountability, having a community, a coach, or did you figure out a system that finally clicked? I'd genuinely like to hear what worked because doing it solo hasn't exactly been a winning strategy for