I quit porn about 3 months ago. My main motivation was to see if I was capable of doing so since I've watched a lot of porn for the majority of my life.

I also tried to quit fapping, but it didn't work out. The reason being is that I have a very high sex drive (unlike my partner) and the less I fap, the shorter I last when I do have sex. Yes, I have tried toys, more foreplaying, stopping & going, etc. However, when we have sex, my partner wants me to penetrate them for a long period of time. Even my partner has encouraged me to fap before we have sex.

I don't want to sound dramatic, but you only live once. I love edging while watching porn (yes, I know I can edge without porn). I've been asking myself why I've stopped doing something that I love without having a good answer for why.

Am I punishing myself for no reason, or is there a good reason for why I should continue to quit porn that perhaps I haven't thought about. Please help!

Assuming it’s PIED at 25

I lost my V card at the age of 19, barely got hard when I did but then managed to get hard and lost it to the way older lady but she was attractive to me. I then had around 5 other hookups where I barely was able to get erect or even keep it erect. I have been watching porn and no joke think I damaged my penis or scarred it at 25 now. I also unfortunately frequent massage parlors a lot and sometimes also can’t get hard there either, it’s embarrassing in front the therapists and obviously the previous hookups I had. I have never been in a relationship either mainly just random encounters off dating apps. Any advice? Can I reverse this? I feel doomed and not sure how to heal my member . I go onto camsites a lot almost daily also and watch porn and masturbate around 2-3 times a day.

I stopped for 28 days. It's been few months that I haven't started again. I say to myself I am not ready or I will start tomorrow but it's been months. So I know it's just excuse.

My DMS are open if you want to ask me if I am still succeeding.

If anyone wants a buddy to ask how they are doing everyday I can do that but in return you will have to do the same for me. I am not a social person so there might not be much conversation. If anyone is interested dm me. I don't know how long I can do it and if I can even do it everyday but I will try.

I don't think this is against the rules of this subreddit. If it is I will delete this part of the comment

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I don't get wet during sex because I watched too much porn growing up. When I'm by myself or watching porn, I literally get soaking wet. When I'm with people, I'm bone dry. I am so deeply ashamed and embarrassed of it. Like even when my ex used to play with my clit, I'd feel nothing. Never been close to coming with a partner. What the fuck do I do? Will I ever get to a point where I get excited and aroused from just normal sex?

Recently i was really tempted to relapse hard cause i was in a social setting that was stressing me out a lot and wanted an escape

Also my brain is screaming for dopamine these days

Hope yall doing good

My dms are open

Stay blessed yall

Going well so far

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One thing I've been wondering about is why getting back on track can feel so difficult after a relapse.

You might genuinely want to quit, but after slipping up you start feeling frustrated and lose the motivation to keep trying.

Sometimes it seems easier to just give up for a while instead of starting over again.

For those who've experienced this, what usually goes through your mind after a relapse? What makes it hard to try again?

I've come to a conclusion that the hardest part of this is that no one else knows about it, so there is no one but you to be accountable for. That's why I'm asking for your help. By liking this post, you'll add 1 porn free day for me. And I'm not doing this to get likes, they don't have value to me themselves. I'm just asking this community to help me and be the friend who I'll make this promise.

I try as much as I can not to watch porn but I watch again and again I install app to block these website but I always find a way to watch it again I'm trying to go to the gym and work and try to study new things as a Software developer but I always return back

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So I got sober from everything but porn was my last addiction to kick. It’s day 11. I’m sad, have low energy, some brain fog, and hoping this won’t last long.

I’ve gone 90 without porn about 2 years ago.

What can I expect after 1 month of no porn? Thanks

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I am NOT bringing this habit into next year. I’m not bringing it into my thirties. And I’m DEFINITELY not bringing it into my kid’s life.

This year has been a year of trial and error, but also of progress. I don’t want porn in my life, but have had a hard time changing the habit. But ultimately, my win:lose ratio has been improving. That’s not enough though. I have been trying, but it if I am being honest, I could have been trying harder. I know I am stronger than this habit and I dont need to have it in my life.

Hearing this news that I might get to be a dad really just shook me in the best way. My mind is racing, thinking about the future, and also all the things I need to do (and GET to do) to support my wife, plan for the kid, get our finances and house in order, etc. it’s all very exciting! I don’t want to think about anything else. I CANT think about anything else.

And there is no place for porn in this new life. Zero.

I refuse to be anything but the best dad. And I promised my wife on the day we got married that I would try to be the best version of myself every single day. Trying and doing are not the same thing though. I have been trying, but not always doing.

Now is the time for doing.

I've made it to ~3.5 months multiple times, which is my all time record. I don't understand why I keep giving in. Like to go 3+ months, I clearly don't need it. And I feel so much better about myself during that time. Why on earth then do I choose to keep giving in? It's like I feel so confident I just wake up one day and decide it's ok to give in. So frustrating.

For years, whenever I tried to quit porn and masturbation, it was practically impossible for me. The longest I went without it was about 30 days. Recently, when I quit porn but still masturbated every few days or once a week (when my libido was high), it was much easier and I felt much better. I managed to go a dozen or so days with relative ease. For many years, I’ve wanted to quit both at once. But now, I’m trying to quit one at a time pornography. The fact is that I masturbate every few days on average anyway, so I won’t lose anything if I continue just without pornography and I’ll gain in terms of my mental health. What motivates me to do this? Many people who’ve quit porn have continued to masturbate and succeeded in staying clean for several months, a year, and so on. One thing that can’t be overlooked is the fact that focusing most of your energy on quitting an addiction has the opposite effect and doesn’t help at least that’s been my experience. So, above all, it’s important to take care of your diet, get 8 hours of sleep every day, get some kind of exercise, create something, work, study, build a life, live, nurture relationships with others, and start from scratch instead of staying stuck in the “nofap” bubble. Real changes in habits have a real impact on the quality of life right now. Patience and self-respect are very important. It’s up to us how we react to triggers; we deserve freedom, if others have achieved it, so we can too.

It was a bad addiction. I got it from bad influence. It has hindered me past 5 years. And all those years Ive asked myself the same 2 questions.

1. If not porn then what do I replace it with?

2. How did I live before porn infiltrated me?

Fact is, the 5 years diminished me, but I'm a writer. I've wrote a lot about porn and my experience with it. Somedays I open articles and research just to understand it and write more about it.

I'll start the journey to stop porn in my life now. Today is day 1, I'll be sharing my research of 5 years everyday. I hope whoever is reading this, may find the path in their life that they should be on.

It's never to late,

And it's never to hard.

You are no different atta boy.

Attempt and win :)

Gonna use this subreddit as accountability, will post my journey here.

Started watching porn at a young age (10-12), thought i found a gold mine, i did not know any better. Around teenage year I released that its not a gold mine and now im trapped in it. 28 now been trying to break this habit for a long time but not success but started again and going to post my journey here. Maybe sharing with other will help make the journey less harder.

First time ever posting on reddit.

I just bypass them or don't make them strong enough. I cant go more than like 1 of 2 days without porn. I feel like I'm constantly horny but I rarely get erections without porn (occasionally I get morning wood but during the day nothing). What can I try now to stop porn use ?

figured out one of my friends sisters does of and post thirst traps on instagram and tiktok and ive been masturbating to it recently need advice on what to do ive tried blocking but i always end up unblocking her when i get horny