When you are young, you meet people constantly, at school, in college, in hostels, on random trips. You click with someone and assume this is just how life works. There'll always be more.

Then you get older, and it slows down. Everyone's busy, people move to different cities, and conversations turn into "we should catch up sometime" when you both know you won't.

Then slowly You start noticing how rare it is to find someone you can talk to for hours without even trying, you can vulnerable with, the ones who get your weird jokes and who you don't have to explain yourself to.

If you still have someone like that, don't take it for granted. Call them, show up, and put in the effort. Connections like that don't come around often.

If you are under 50, get your ass to the polls and vote. We have the numbers. All you have to do is show up.

We can't let them ruin this. Things MUST change

I don't want to know anything about anybody. I haven't watched or read the news for a long time. It's always bad news, and it makes me hella depressed. I don't even use social media; the only two things I use are Reddit and WhatsApp. I'm even thinking of deleting Reddit, world news still finds me here too somehow. I just want to live my own boring, normal life and be oblivious to everything. I'm not saying I'm antisocial; I have enough friends, but I feel like we can't connect because I don't use social media. This era is very strange.

For context, I used to work from home 7am - 3pm. No commute. Loved my job. Had time for gym, cooking lunch fresh every day, seeing friends, laundry, dinner prep, and not dreading Monday.

I now have a 9-5 with an hour commute each way. Suddenly things like house chores, coffee catch ups, any form of exercise, cooking big dinners - mostly out the window and no hope of ticking off all of them.

What’s more is I can’t understand how adults are also fitting kids into this kind of schedule and still finding time for home, self, and social life.

I also have newfound stress that if I’m not in bed by 10 I won’t be able to function as well the next day. Preparing my lunch and getting ready takes a big chunk of my morning before the commute. By the time I get home there’s only time for dinner and a bit of TV.

Has anyone actually found a good routine or ‘5-9’ guide to feel like you do more than just work and commute?

My boyfriend and i have been talking about buying a place together and the more i think about it the more nervous i get.

We've been together for two years now and renting feels like throwing money away but sharing a 30 year mortgage before we're even married feels like a huge step, especially because we'd probably be putting in different amounts for the down payment.

Like what happens if we break up? what if neither of us can afford to keep the house?

I wanna be excited about it but my brain keeps going straight to the worst case scenarios

Am i overthinking this or would you guys wait until marriage?

I'm 19, working blue collar, and fucking tired of being broke. I want a Porsche 911, designer clothes, and the freedom to buy things I genuinely appreciate without worrying about being broke for the next month.

What makes it even more frustrating is watching some of my wealthy peers. They have everything handed to them, yet somehow have the most mediocre taste imaginable. Expensive cars, designer wardrobes, and absolutely no individuality. They buy whatever brand is trending, wear whatever everyone else is wearing, and mistake a high price tag for actual taste. Unlimited money, zero fucking originality.

Meanwhile, we're constantly told that hard work pays off, that if we keep our heads down and work hard enough, we'll eventually enjoy the same lifestyle. But some people start life with generational wealth while the rest of us spend our best years working to afford a fraction of it.

And after all that, these people can't even do anything interesting with the advantages they've been given. They have the money to own beautiful things, develop their own style, and experience the best life has to offer, yet they settle for looking like carbon copies of every other rich kid.

Imagine having every financial advantage in life and still managing to be both privileged and fucking boring.

For those who enjoy nonalcoholic wine or beer, what makes you prefer it over other drinks? I’m more of a social drinker myself, so I’m genuinely curious about the appeal, especially when it comes to taste!

When you finally hit the age of 30 that’s when life actually gets real and you realize you are 10 years away from being 40 😓 and you have no idea wtf you’re actually doing …

I just want to make money. That's all.

I’m 38 and I live in Chengdu, China. After becoming unemployed, I started making videos about my everyday life.

Part of the reason is that I want to have a record of this time: what I do with my days, what I try, and how things change along the way. That includes the times when I’m still figuring things out and don’t have any clear answers.

I’m also wondering whether making videos could become a new direction for me. I want to give it a real try, see what I can make, and find out whether it’s something I’d want to keep doing.

At the moment, I’m still exploring. I’m documenting my daily life while figuring out whether I’d like to do this long term. I don’t know yet whether it could eventually become a job or simply remain a way to record my life.

I wanted to share where I’m at and hear from people who’ve been through something similar. Has anyone here tried something new after becoming unemployed in their thirties? How did you get started, and what helped you decide whether to stick with it?

For those who’ve experienced both, what actually made you happier in the long run?
Did you enjoy life, spend money, travel, and take risks while you were young? Or did you save, invest, build your career, and prioritize financial security?
Looking back, do you regret playing it too safe or being too reckless?
If you could relive your 20s, would you do anything differently?

Sounds silly but I’m living in shelters and on the street. I keep getting opportunities for work, money, etc but I don’t have a place where I can communicate - I can’t hop on a zoom call. I have nowhere to do it.

Homeless shelters kick you out - they won’t let you stay there during the day when I need to be communicating with potential employers. I have nowhere where to do this

Normalize telling your children the truth about their family.
Who loved you. Who hurt you.
Who struggled with mental illness or addiction.
Family history isn't gossip. It's guidance. The truth helps break cycles, not continue them.

I’ve confirmed a date for Thursday. I always am unsure if I should message on the day and like at what time to confirm with her. I book and confirm about three days out but then what do I say on the day? I’m a very stupid 30 year old man. Always feels awkward sending a ‘See you tonight Laura!’

There’s so many things to consider in life, I don’t know how anyone actually manages to balance everything without getting burnt out. Eating healthy home cooked meals, working out and looking after your body, ensuring you get the right vitamins and nutrients, maintaining your hygiene, shaving and grooming regularly, washing and making sure you constantly have clean clothes, cleaning the house/apartment, travelling, grocery shopping, dating, having a hobby, playing a sport, making time for friends and family, monitoring your mental wellbeing, getting the right amount of sleep, studying, working on your career, monitoring your finances, all while working a full time job. And if you have a family and kids, all of that suddenly gets so much harder. How does anyone find the time to comfortably keep up with all of this and not get burnt out? There is such little time in the day after work to get anything done.

I was always taught that there is no such thing as good people or bad people, that its circumstances or people just, 'having a bad day'. But now that im an adult i realised we as a society constantly just make excuses to justify bad behaviour. I understand reasons are not excuses, but when you have to deal with people, gosh, its so jarring.

For example, i worked in retail as a teen and yes, customers were rude, annoying and entitled. And there are many threads on here that talk about the underpayment, exhaustion and the lack of energy it takes to deal with people on a daily basis.

Now that im an adult, honestly, retail workers can be just as mean. I get it, you deal with shit but then have to go in a customer facing job. But it comes to a point where reddit is so defensive against any bad word against retail workers. Just like customers, there are some horrid retail workers aswell.

Personally, no matter how shitty the pay, my day or circumstances, i had the decency to not let it out on the customers who literally dont know me, dont deserve it and dont care.

At the end of the day, you have a job, and thats more than most people. Im not saying to be cheerful, make small talk and be energetic (i did none of these). Im just saying dont be a dickhead. Especially when the customer is literally doing nothing, id understand if they were rude, but when they are being nice, normal and perhaps asked 1 question or made a mistake. Like dude, lets check ourselves before our attitude comes out.

so many threads mad at customers for asking "is this register open?". news flash, its not the end of the world. just say yes, you dont need to smile or dance. little things like this really annoy me as people are shocked when customers ask you questions. that is quite literally your job. be mad at managment, the company, literally anyone. not at the normal customers nicely asking you.

honestly it makes me avoid stores without a self checkout, but even then it seems that a self checkout employee is also pissed off all the time. no woder people have started delivering their groceries, i dont blame them.

Bad customers and bad workers both exist, they both shouldnt be happening. Im just tired of the hypocrisy. its shit for people to treated like that, and yes, they might of had a bad day, but that is no excuse.

Boring. Healing is boring, but it is healthy. You asked for peace and love and shit the above, but I am grateful. Sometimes I believe it is hard to make friends as an almost 20-year old adult.

I believe there are people that will stay and will go. I am not ignoring that, it is just because life is boring and in the end, you really only have yourself.

I feel like I am in deep transformation, spiritually, and it might be taking a toll on me. Yes, the universe is giving me what I asked for. Peace, love, and abundance. Whether if you believe it or not.

Has anyone experienced something similar and does it get better? What are your thoughts or stories?