Hey everyone,
hoping for some outside perspective.
My parents are seriously considering moving our family from Melbourne to the Gold Coast (Main Beach and surrounds). I originally thought it was one of those "talked about forever but never happens" ideas, but they're pretty set on it now. My younger siblings (19 and 16) are keen too. Mum plans to keep our Melbourne house and rent on the Coast for the first year, so we'd have a home to come back to while we see where we want to settle.
I'm 21 and I'm the one struggling with it. My partner of 5 years has to be in Sydney for work from about February to September each year, so I split my time between Sydney and Melbourne, flying back and forth around my job. Melbourne is my home base, where my friends are and where I live with my family when I'm not in Sydney. If my family moves, I'd be juggling Melbourne, Sydney and the Gold Coast, and I'm worried I'd end up with no real "home" anywhere.
I struggled to make friends at school, so I'm proud of the life and friend group I've built in Melbourne. I'm really close with my family and love living with them, and Mum doesn't want me moving out either, which is part of why we're keeping the house. But I don't love change, and I'm not sure how I'd build a life on the Coast while my job, friends and partner are elsewhere.
A few questions:
Has anyone moved to the GC with adult or near-adult kids?
How did it go?
For those who moved at 20 or so, how did you make friends when you're not at uni and working full time?
Any tips for the 16-year-old (school options, settling in) or the 19-year-old?
Anyone done the "keep the old house and trial it for a year" approach? Did it help or just delay the decision?
Any advice for juggling three cities, or for relationships where one person is often away?
Also just a note I dont/ wont just pack up my whole life and move I can’t see that working for me it’s just navigating the potential change and what others think!?
I can't find much online for families at this stage of life, so any experiences or honest opinions would be really
appreciated.
Thank you!