r/neurodiversity • • Dec 20 '25

No Accusing People of Being AI

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If you think a post was written by AI, report it, downvote, and move on.


r/neurodiversity • • Dec 16 '25

No AI Generated Posts

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We no longer allow AI generated posts. They will be removed as spam


r/neurodiversity • • 7h ago

I feel like I’ll never make it through a job interview

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I’ve had a few interviews so far and I just can’t do it. I have situational mutism but I can communicate well enough to make small talk, but interviews feel impossible to me.

Something about having two to three people staring at me whilst asking non sensical questions just makes it so hard to get my words out and I end up nervously fidgeting and barely making eye contact whilst poorly answering the questions.

I can’t explain it, the whole setting just feels so forced and inauthentic and the words coming out of my mouth feel forced and I can’t articulate my thoughts and half the time they’re asking me to talk about experiences I don’t have.

I honestly feel a lot of jealousy towards my friends who can do interviews like they’re nothing, I don’t know how anyone can do it.


r/neurodiversity • • 4h ago

How to survive work overhead lights?

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I’m dying out here, to be frank. Just got back from my first day and my head is pounding. It’s too early to ask for accommodations since I’m still in training, and I was told I can’t wear a cap just yet to try and shield myself.

I’ve taken medication to help the headache before, but nothing quite does it like just getting out of the light… I can’t remember a time a medication helped me with a light sensitivity headache, but I’m still open to suggestions on that front since I might’ve just been taking the wrong ones.

So seriously, I’ll take any advice. Please help, I want to keep this job so bad! 😭

Thank you!


r/neurodiversity • • 5h ago

does your burnout look like this?

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as a teen, i think i was 13 i was in the middle of a depressive episode ( i was in an off for like 3-4 years) , but i know think those might be burnouts. In that episode i had times that i was like super drained and really sad and numb and others in witch i was laughing and like compensating a lot. Those episodes could be in the same day or in weeks. I know it kinda sound like bipolarity, but that was dircarted, so i was wondering if any of you have experience this type of burnout


r/neurodiversity • • 11m ago

Hyperfixation always just make me feel so nauseous

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I don’t know why, but whenever I hyperfixate on something, it always makes me nauseous. It’s especially bad this time though; I’ve not had a hyperfixation this intense before. I’ve barely eaten the past 3 days; I struggle to sleep and get out of bed in the mornings; I can’t concentrate on anything; but the worst of it is how I just feel like I’m going to throw up

I don’t know what it is that does it; maybe it’s just because my brain has finally found something that gives me dopamine, and my body is just too overwhelmed by it??

Whenever I do fixate on something, I always feel resentful that I can’t be a part of it (when it’s like an anime or a game), and I get so jealous whenever I see other people enjoying it (which I don’t have a clue why?) - I notice that I feel even more sick when it’s me fixating on a character, especially if that character dies at some point.

I just don’t think my body handles the huge amounts of dopamine and just makes me feel sick and unable to function; especially because I’m dealing with an apathetic depression so I don’t feel any sort of pleasure if it’s not from a hyperfixation. I wish I could though; I’d like to be able to function and do things without my body and brain just crippling under the though of a fictional character or piece of media simply existing :(

(if anyone was curious, I’m currently fixating on Jojo’s Bizzare Adventure, and more specifically on the character Kakyoin)


r/neurodiversity • • 1h ago

Having a hard time expressing myself properly and understanding cues

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Tbh I thought I was getting way better at it and even stopped using tone indicators because I thought others would be able to understand me.

But I realized that I'm clearly never going to get better. When I make a mistake and try to fix it without trying to sound like an asshole and make everyone upset, I'm still an asshole.

When I try to explain what is normal to me, I'm told it's not normal and that me and my family need help.

It didn't matter how much I try to explain why something is normal to me and why it matters, the mistake I did before is 100% on me and now defines me.

I'm childish and who likes to argue when all I'm doing is explaining/adding context. I don't like to learn from my mistakes and everyone is wrong but me, so that's why I'm an asshole.

This whole time I was SO confused why I was still being called a childish asshole even after I tried explaining why I did what I did. I'm still so confused now, like I genuinely don't understand what I did wrong.

And when someone wouldn't stop harassing me and saying "you don't want to learn from your mistakes, you don't listen" I quite literally asked, "what should I need to hear?"

They don't answer the question and continue, "everyone is telling you, you just keep arguing."

But I'm not arguing, I'm adding the new information that I missed before because I thought that what I did was normal. Instead of anyone explaining why my added context doesn't matter, they just keep repeating the same thing, that I'm a terrible person who doesn't learn anything. When they learn the new information, they still call me childish and rude because how I replied to them BEFORE the new information, which I'm still SO confused on how.

I literally have no idea what's so weird about what I do and why everyone is saying that just because they don't do it, it means my family is weird.

..

Context, me and my family like to sell each other stuff, but we do it in partial payments. The moment we do the first payment, we can keep the item we're paying for immediately. That's very normal for us to do and we do it all the time.

I forgot to mention that, so when I talked about if I was wrong for the way I responded to my sister because my she suddenly said the item she was selling to me was going to be mine AFTER it was fully paid even though I was already half way through the payment. But I told her it was mine now...

And I tried to explain to everyone that my sis doesn't work and she spent all her money already. So my logic was already with the assumption that she can't pay me back if she suddenly didn't want to sell it to me anymore. I thought that was very logical, but now I was called the asshole for making fun of her for not having a job. She willingly doesn't work because she doesn't want to.

The reason I'm being called an asshole in the first place is because I never should've assumed the item was mine to begin with. Even with the added context that me and my family get the item before the payment is finished, I'm still called an asshole and now my family is called weird for operating this way even though my sis was the one who did something different this time.

I don't even want to explain I'm neurodivergent, because I feel like I'm going to be called a liar again and that I'm making excuses, like my explanation about how me and my family sell things to each other.

Even now I feel like I'm going to be called an asshole here with the way I explained the situation.

I just don't understand why everyone is so angry. I was never mad at any point, but I started to get upset when no one was explaining why I'm still a dumb childish idiot even after I gave them more information. Just that the way I replied to everyone (it was me replying with explanations and confusion, and then later added the new context because I realized no one knew that) was what makes me a terrible person.

Like genuinely I just don't understand what I did wrong to be insulted so many times, not the asshole insult, the insult of being called weird and being told my family is terrible at communicating and that my family is weird. That we're all stupid and childish.

I was called an terrible after I removed my sis' stuff off the item even though she ASKED me to do it.

What am I doing wrong? They couldn't explain it to me, can someone explain it here?


r/neurodiversity • • 8h ago

DAE not like holidays?

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idk if this is a neurodivergent thing or a me thing but I really don't like being out of routine and this weekend it was a holiday today so it meant everyone was at home today when usually they're not.

ive always felt like this where usually people are like omg im so excited for a holiday!! and im like hmmmm nope


r/neurodiversity • • 8h ago

Trigger Warning: Ableist Rant Please I need help

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I’m a deeply deeply fucked up person

I’m a 21 y.o girl I was SA’D by multiple men when I was a kid bcs I was abandoned by my parents so I had to live with my Abusive narcissistic grandma . My dad is a mommy’s boy he is 46 y.o but he is sooo obsessed w his mom he got married three times beacuse of her . My mom works as a dishwasher at a restaurant she lives alone w her cats . Not havin a proper father figure and absent mother , getting bullied and Sa’d fucked me up it really traumatized me I never even had a bf I can’t even get on well with women either but I can’t socialize w people normally everyone assumes that I’m autistic but I’m smart and talkative I’m in my final year of uni.

I chose a random language major cause it was easy to get in and it was free it ruined my life , people are overly religious and extremely judgemental I can’t even be honest about my own opinion (I live in Central Asia) I live in a city where If a woman goes out after 7pm she gets sa’d or harassed that happened to me multiple times I had open heart surgery few years ago I can’t handle arguments or loud noises I share an apartment with other 6 girl ITS HELL. I won student money which is 70$ a month I pay my rents with it for my monthly expenses I have to beg my parents I spent 3 months here looking for a job even with money I couldn’t find a proper job except working as a waitress. Don get me wrong I would gladly work any job but not IN THIS CITY WHERE I GET HUMILIATED BY CREEPY UNEDUCATED UNCIVILIZED MEN. I cry everyday, slightly arguments or overthinking gives me chest pain

I don’t interact w people that much I only leave the apartment for uni , to get groceries I don’t even interact w people online.

I have a huge empathy for animals especially cats . My heart aches if I see an injured cat I do my best to help them. I have no friends sometimes when I go outside I sit w stray cats talk w them and feed them I wish I could rescue all of them I cry to them but some people are really cruel to them even kids I’m sorry but I hate those kind of people so much .

All I want is leaving this country and working somewhere
In 2024, I won a scholarship to study in Italy but I couldn’t get a visa beacuse my parents don’t have proper jobs and we are poor. Idk what to do atp. I’m gonna apply for Germany , China scholarships for my masters but I’m think I should better work beacuse with my degree where else could I even work? I would have a hard time finding a job but jobs like waitressing , dishwashing , babysitting etc I would gladly do that beacuse I just want to live a simple peaceful life in another country.

I spent 3 years of my life in a place where I don’t belong everyone is rude to me beacuse I don’t share the same views as them.

It was my first day of uni today I came back and honestly I don’t wanna exist I can’t imagine spending another 7 months here . but I’m just wondering how long can I live like this I’m missing out on so many things. It’s like I’m surrounded by the worst type of humans . I really am !! This is eating me alive I tried to look for migrant jobs online but unfortunately they don’t give sponsorship visas for jobs like that. I’m so lost I can’t even think properly

I want to get advice from neurodivergent people like me how do u guys cope? How do u guys function pls I need help


r/neurodiversity • • 8h ago

I look high even when I just slightly unmask

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It is a genuine problem…


r/neurodiversity • • 5h ago

Trigger Warning: Self Harm Im ftm and have ocd and audhd

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Should I just end my sh chat


r/neurodiversity • • 22h ago

Grieving time that could’ve been

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Oh how fast time passes. Suddenly I’m well into my adulthood and i don’t know where my life went. Childhood, early adulthood i look back on from afar. Mental health issues, fear and pain took so much of my life from me. Time I could’ve spent finding myself, building myself. Instead I look back on photos of myself and don’t connect with them, don’t remember the occasions. I lie here now with tears rolling down my eyes, hurt and angry at this incredible injustice. Precious time at the peak of one’s physical health and happiness, taken from me. Time for becoming my true self, building confidence and making it far. I wish I could go back, but instead I’ll just have to grieve. Years and years lost to so much sadness and misunderstanding. Maybe in the next life.


r/neurodiversity • • 8h ago

I cant tell if i love them or not

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About 5 months ago my best friend who ill call john posted a pic of me on his story from our hangout and one of his friends responded to it saying "who's this cutie", she didnt know that i saw her message but after that i decided to add her, i didnt really have a plan but i knew from my friend that she was really kind and funny so over the next months me and her became friends, fast forward to 4 ish weeks ago when Josh was having his birthday party, and i found out the girl was coming to it too, i wasnt to stressed about it since at the time only saw her as a friend that i could have more with if,she liked me that is. The party went well and we had tons of fun, sadly tho she couldnt stay the night and had to leave early, but as she left she started asking my friends where i was since she apparently wanted a hug before leaving, not that weird since were friends but she ONLY hugged me before leaving and none of her other friends, but sure it could just have been nothing right? The day after on my way home i saw i had an dm from her where she said that she loved my hair and that it was really fun hanging out with me, and now today she texted me again saying that she loved how i smelt when we hugged?? And now im just so confused since even i dont know if i actually like her like that, or if she even likes me like that. I have no idea what to do or how to even know if i like her or not since often times when I think i like someone i end up realising that i just wanted to be friends and nothing more. And what if the things she did were just acts of friendlness? Im so confused and honestly kinda scared and i have no idea what to do about this

Also sorry if my English is bad its my 3rd language and i also have problems with words sometimes, specialy in longer texts


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Being emotionally mature and then regressing as you get older?

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Ever since I was a child I've been extremely aware of people's emotions and hyper empathic. Whenever I would get upset I would immediately see it from the other person's view and realize how much of in the wrong I actually was. I hated it so much because I quickly picked up on the fact nobody else I knew did this and I wanted to be able to be mad without feeling so childish (even though I was literally 10). I was also praised all the time for being "mature for my age" and getting along so well with everyone.

Suddenly in high school senior year I stopped receiving these praises and started being told to "grow up" everything that felt like it was working out suddenly toppled over and destroyed itself. I lost the ability to manage my emotions as well and would tunnel vision whenever I got upset. People who had no issue with me before were suddenly put off by my "immaturity" and stopped hanging out. I was so confused (and still am) over what happened, my only theory really is that as people's emotions stopped being as straight forward and were getting more complex I ended up not being able to read people as well.


r/neurodiversity • • 21h ago

hi i kinda just want to be understood and it feels like no one is all my friends are either soo autistic it’s mental and some are soo adhd its mental and im just also mental but on both sides( ik thats not the best term for me i just find it funny tho sorry if it offends)

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soo basically i have all the big 3 adhd autism and ocd and really struggling with the autism and adhd bcs it’s like both sides of my brain hate each other soo much and i dont understand it one side wants order and to be calm and watch cbbc at 21 and the other side wants to go mess up my tidy room and go scream in someone’s face just bcs i need to make noise and then im sat there being like why is this happening to me also my issues are bigger than that but that’s just one thing that grinds my gears


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

understanding social cues but not knowing how to act with them?

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Okey so i have always thought that autism meant not getting social cues, but someone has told me that It can be getting them but just not knowing what to do with them.

Do you experience this? could you give an example of that happening to you?


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Why's my bed starting to get uncomfortable?

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First of all, yes, i know that beds get old and stuff and i guess that's part of the problem. But the problem exists on other people's beds too.

What i mean is, that i can't get comfortable in any sleeping position, doesn't matter how many different pillows i have. The only pillow i'm semi-comfortable with is my biggest and softest one which is almost half the size of a body pillow. I also don't really like weighted blankets.

Did anyone else have this problem and knows how to fix this? I can't get much sleep even with melatonin.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Can trauma reveal neurodivergence?

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I always had some "unusual" behaviors as a child. That calmed down on its own, but these last three years I've experienced a lot of accumulated trauma, and it's like everything is coming back to me.

Like, right now. I broke my bedside lamp yesterday. It had a bulb that gave off a yellow light and specifics shadows, and it was always placed in the same spot. I had to take the lamp from the living room, it's white, it's bigger, I can't place it where I put the other one so the light the shadows aren't the same. I fucking hate it, everything in my room just feels off, I can't focus and want to throw it out of the window. I would never have noticed that before.

I'm not going to give you a list, but in recent months, since my situation has calmed down, I've suddenly been exhibiting behaviors related to neurodivergence.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Hey you guys!!

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Hello, is anyone else interested in forming a small pod of neurodivergent people to meet weekly and be our own personal cheering squad and mentors and advocates!?!? I am a late diagnosed disability squared female in the greater Portland, Or area who is desperate to create a better life for herself. B aut I KNOW that the abilities of a single person can be amplified by a crazy scale by the input and caring of other people. And just knowing other people care and are rooting for you is the whole root idea of a family, in a sense, but my family is a tricky one, and I have never felt truly seen or supported by a majority of the people in my 'family... Anyhoo, I have an opportunity to make my life better if I applied to a particular job but I am so freaking scared of failure and I just feel beat up by life; but I know that there are better, more fulfilling things that I could be doing... I want to support other LGBTPQ (sorry, I know the P doesn't 'belong' in that acronym but I'm Pan sexual and my people belong in this group so...) people, other people experiencing disability, support caring for the environment and support a more globally inclusive environment. And eat delicious, organic, sustainably harvested food as well, of course. Have a blessed day and I really hope that someone responds to this post, it's freaking lonely out here!


r/neurodiversity • • 2d ago

I went to a psychiatrist and she told me she doesn't think i have adhd

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I highly suspect i have ADHD. I went to a government psychiatrist. We talked for 5 maybe 10 minutes. She told me word per word "I don't think you have adhd because you look good and I understand you." And when i said "huh like what do you mean? Can you explain?" She got mad at me for asking and said "If someone with real adhd comes they cut me off and I can't understand them."

I met people that were diagnosed with ADHD before, they were very nice to talk to, I wonder how i managed to understand their 'gibberish'.

Also whether I am neorodivergent or not I think it is incredibly disrespectful and insane to tell someone you look presentable / good hence you dont have it.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Tips for how to navigate routines?

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I’ve realised, as an ADHD person, that I need some form of small, daily routines to follow, to ensure that I’m keeping up with the important things (bedtime is a big one). The problem is, my brain just despises anything repetitive and uninteresting, to the point that it quickly becomes depressing to have to keep up with. I think it’s due to the fact that I hate feeling boxed-in. If I’m doing a task, just give me a start and end point but let me handle the “how”.

I don’t really know how to navigate that framework in this context, though. How do I create necessary, daily routines that are rigid enough that I can’t easily just avoid starting them, but also not too rigid, monotonous and repetitive that I start feeling depressed by having to force myself to keep up with them.

Hopefully this makes sense. Any tips/advice would be helpful.


r/neurodiversity • • 19h ago

OCD

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Maybe yall could help me out. I’m just confused as to why OCD isn’t considered neurodivergent. I also have ADHD, which is considered neurodivergent. I’m just confused as to why OCD isn’t labeled as neurodivergent considering there are actual structural differences, chemical differences, etc. as compared to someone who is neurotypical. Also, I guess I’m confused as to why it isn’t because of the overlapping symptoms OCD has along with ADHD/autism.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

dsm-5 review haha

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So i am going to review the DSM-5 and tell what i check and what i dont so i can organice what i experience, mostly doing it for my self, but it would be cool if sommeone feels reflected on it and wanna talk. So i think it might be autism if something, but some people sugested adhd, but as we can see i dont fit that at all. About ASD i think i cant met the criteria because the A part that i dont think i fit enough. So whatever haha

A. Persistent deficits in social communication and social interaction across multiple contexts, as manifested by the following, currently or by history (examples are illustrative, not exhaustive, see text):

  1. Deficits in social-emotional reciprocity, ranging, for example, from abnormal social approach and failure of normal back-and-forth conversation; to reduced sharing of interests, emotions, or affect; to failure to initiate or respond to social interactions. my experience with this is just that i am more of a lisener and i struggle to talk about me, i am really bad at it and everytime i do i feel like i am already talking to much, but probably this i explained by other thing idk.
  2. Deficits in nonverbal communicative behaviors used for social interaction, ranging, for example, from poorly integrated verbal and nonverbal communication; to abnormalities in eye contact and body language or deficits in understanding and use of gestures; to a total lack of facial expressions and nonverbal communication. I only have quite noticed a small difficulty in eye contact when i first met someone, it feels to intimte. I sometimes pay attention to if i have a weird facial expression, but only if i am upseted, i usually have a common resting face and expressions. I catch body language really good, and about verbal communications is just that sometimes i "cant" talk and hate being forced to do it, i just dont feel like it sometimes, but usually is good.
  3. Deficits in developing, maintaining, and understanding relationships, ranging, for example, from difficulties adjusting behavior to suit various social contexts; to difficulties in sharing imaginative play or in making friends; to absence of interest in peers. I played normal as a kid. The only noticeable thing was that i my mom was the one who needed to go tell kids if they wanted to play with me, because i didnt liked asking that, probably it was anxiety or smth. And i only have problems expressing my self and talkin about me

Specify current severity: Severity is based on social communication impairments and restricted repetitive patterns of behavior.

B. Restricted, repetitive patterns of behavior, interests, or activities, as manifested by at least two of the following, currently or by history (examples are illustrative, not exhaustive; see text):

  1. Stereotyped or repetitive motor movements, use of objects, or speech (e.g., simple motor stereotypies, lining up toys or flipping objects, echolalia, idiosyncratic phrases). I totally do this, flapping hands, repeting sound or words, spining, rocking. Since i started investigating more about neurodiversity i am letting my self do that more, and supress it less.
  2. Insistence on sameness, inflexible adherence to routines, or ritualized patterns or verbal nonverbal behavior (e.g., extreme distress at small changes, difficulties with transitions, rigid thinking patterns, greeting rituals, need to take same route or eat food every day). Sometimes, i need to follow my cleaning order. And i can get really frustated from big changes, for example my bead got changed without previous saying, and i got really really bad about it. But i dont think i have rigid thinking neither food problems
  3. Highly restricted, fixated interests that are abnormal in intensity or focus (e.g, strong attachment to or preoccupation with unusual objects, excessively circumscribed or perseverative interest). Not really, as a kid i had this plusshie (that i still had) that i was really attached to and wouldnt let go but i have never have any special interest. I had a big attachment to one person that i admired, but i think its not related
  4. Hyper- or hyporeactivity to sensory input or unusual interests in sensory aspects of the environment (e.g., apparent indifference to pain/temperature, adverse response to specific sounds or textures, excessive smelling or touching of objects, visual fascination with lights or movement). Not really, i love soft things, i have like a soft matress and i am always touching it .And things like textures can feel unmanagable, but nos as much .
A. Either (1) or (2): A. A persistent pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that interferes with functioning or development, as characterized by (1) and/or (2):
1. Six (or more) of the following symptoms of inattention have persisted for at least 6 months to a degree that is maladaptive and inconsistent with developmental level: 1. Inattention: Six (or more) of the following symptoms have persisted for at least 6 months to a degree that is inconsistent with developmental level and that negatively impacts directly on social and academic/occupational activities:
Note: The symptoms are not solely a manifestation of oppositional behavior, defiance, hostility, or failure to understand tasks or instructions. For older adolescents and adults (age 17 or older), at least five symptoms are required.
Inattention
a. often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities a. Often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, at work, or during other activities (e.g., overlooks or misses details, work is inaccurate). I skip questions in homework or examns if i am not really carefull
b. often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activity b. Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities (e.g., has difficulty remaining focused during lectures, conversations, or lengthy reading). I think i can pay a big amount of atentions
c. often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly c. Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly (e.g., mind seems elsewhere, even in the absence of any obvious distraction). People do not notice, but if being talked to directly i can start thinking to other things, or just focus on seem like i am paying attention so thats why i end up not doing it.
d. often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores or duties in the workplace (not due to oppositional behavior or failure to understand instructions) d. Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace (e.g., starts tasks but quickly loses focus and is easily sidetracked). I am quite good with this, i finish always at time
e. often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities e. Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities (e.g., difficulty managing sequential tasks; difficulty keeping materials and belongings in order; messy, disorganized work; has poor time management; fails to meet deadlines). My workplace can be messy but i still organize mi self, i loose things but not that much. I met deadlines and manage time quite good
f. often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to engage in tasks that require sustained mental effort (such as schoolwork or homework) f. Often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to engage in tasks that require sustained mental effort (e.g., schoolwork or homework; for older adolescents and adults, preparing reports, completing forms, reviewing lengthy papers). Nop
g. often loses things necessary for tasks or activities (e.g., toys, school assignments, pencils, books or tools) g. Often loses things necessary for tasks or activities (e.g., school materials, pencils, books, tools, wallets, keys, paperwork, eyeglasses, mobile telephones). Yeah sometimes, but not that much. I usually put something in specific places to not lose it and then that when i lose it haha
h. is often easily distracted by extraneous stimuli h. Is often easily distracted by extraneous stimuli (for older adolescents and adults, may include unrelated thoughts). Idk, maybe with thouhts
i. is often forgetful in daily activities i. Is often forgetful in daily activities (e.g., doing chores, running errands; for older adolescents and adults, returning calls, paying bills, keeping appointments). Nop
2. Six (or more) of the following symptoms of hyperactivity-impulsivity have persisted for at least 6 months to a degree that is maladaptive and inconsistent with developmental level: 2. Hyperactivity and impulsivity: Six (or more) of the following symptoms have persisted for at least 6 months to a degree that is inconsistent with developmental level and that negatively impacts directly on social and academic/occupational activities:
Note: The symptoms are not solely a manifestation of oppositional behavior, defiance, hostility, or a failure to understand tasks or instructions. For older adolescents and adults (age 17 or older), at least five symptoms are required.
Hyperactivity
a. Often fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in seat a. Often fidgets with or taps hands or feet or squirms in seat. Yeah, always
b. Often leaves seat in classroom or in other situations in which remaining seated is expected b. Often leaves seat in situations when remaining seated is expected (e.g., leaves his or her place in the classroom, in the office or other workplace, or in other situations that require remaining in place). No
c. Often runs about or climbs excessively in situations in which it is inappropriate (in adolescents or adults, may be limited to subjective feelings of restlessness) c. Often runs about or climbs in situations where it is inappropriate. (Note: In adolescents or adults, may be limited to feeling restless). nop, only in specific situations i feel restless, but its not related i think
d. Often has difficulty playing or engaging in leisure activities quietly d. Often unable to play or take part in leisure activities quietly. Nop
e. Is often “on the go” or often acts as if “driven by a motor” e. Is often “on the go” acting as if “driven by a motor” (e.g., is unable to be or uncomfortable being still for extended time, as in restaurants, meetings; may be experienced by others as being restless or difficult to keep up with). Idk sometimes, sometimes no
f. Often talks excessively f. Often talks excessively. No, the other way around
Impulsivity
g. Often blurts out answers before questions have been completed g. Often blurts out an answer before a question has been completed (e.g., completes people’s sentences; cannot wait for turn in conversation). No
h. Often has difficulty awaiting turn h. Often has trouble waiting his/her turn (e.g., while waiting in line). No
i. Often interrupts or intrudes on others (e.g., butts into conversations or games) i. Often interrupts or intrudes on others (e.g., butts into conversations, games, or activities; may start using other people’s things without asking or receiving permission; for adolescents and adults, may intrude into or take over what others are doing). no
B. Some hyperactive-impulsive or inattentive symptoms must have been present before age 7 years. B. Several inattentive or hyperactive-impulsive symptoms were present before age 12 years.
C. Some impairment from the symptoms is present in at least two settings (e.g., at school [or work] and at home). C. Several inattentive or hyperactive-impulsive symptoms are present in two or more settings, (e.g., at home, school or work; with friends or relatives; in other activities).
D. There must be clear evidence of clinically significant impairment in social, academic or occupational functioning. D. There is clear evidence that the symptoms interfere with, or reduce the quality of, social, school, or work functioning.
E. The symptoms do not occur exclusively during the course of a pervasive developmental disorder, schizophrenia, or other psychotic disorders and is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (e.g., mood disorder, anxiety disorder, dissociative disorder, or a personality disorder). E. The symptoms do not occur exclusively during the course of schizophrenia or another psychotic disorder and are not better explained by another mental disorder (e.g., mood disorder, anxiety disorder, dissociative disorder, personality disorder, substance intoxication or withdrawal).

r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

I Want Close Relationships, but Irritability and Anxiety Keep Pushing Me Away

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I'm a 22M, and I struggle more and more with social interaction each day. I get irritated insanely fast, mostly with my family, and I hate myself for that, so I get even more irritated. More and more often, I also struggle to explain my thoughts or get my point across. I don't know what's happening.

Socially, I've never had a girlfriend. At first, I wasn't really into that, and I wasn't attractive. Then, around 19–20, things got a lot better. I found a girl I would have felt comfortable inviting into my life because I'm not the same at home as I am outside, and I'm not like most people. I don't like doing everything or socializing every week.

Also, around 19–20, I peaked in social interaction and connection. I was invited to a lot of parties and everything, and I met a lot of people. I think I was appreciated, but most of that was drunk partying, so it was really easier. Also, most of these people couldn't become close friends because, again, I'm not that kind of guy, and I can't be social like that in private.

I lived for three years in a shared flat with friends (four people in the flat). Even with friends, I often preferred going to my room, and I got irritated by a lot of things, like everyday noise. That was hard because I knew it was me, but I didn't know how to make it better.

Now I don't live with them anymore, and I'm in a new environment. I've had to make new friends, but they're not that social, so I mostly see them in class and don't really go out. I return to my family, whom I really love, because I realize how much they do for me and that they're the only people who are truly there for me. But I'm a pain in the ass socially at home because I always turn a discussion into an argument when I get irritated. I feel really bad about that, and sometimes I just want to stay in my room and study because I guess I'm escaping reality. I also tend to go down rabbit holes of information or just do anything other than study for uni.

I still go to some parties, but afterward I realize I didn't really talk with anyone properly. I talked with people, but I didn't really say anything important, or I just switch between groups when the conversation gets uninteresting, or I don't know what to say.

So, yeah, I fear I'll isolate myself more and more each year. Holidays are a struggle each year because I first fear being alone and not having a plan. I also feel bad when my family asks what I'm doing and I have to say I don't have anything planned, because it makes me feel like I have no friends. If I do have a plan, I'll be super anxious because I often don't manage it well. People make decisions and do things I don't like or want, and since we're young, dumb things may happen. I know that if I didn't initiate it, I'll feel bad because either it's dangerous or not what I expected.

I don't know what's wrong with me. I know I probably have some neurodivergent shit, but I just want to find my social skills again and find a girl who will like me, someone I can let into my life and build something with. I also want to reconnect with my friends, but each time I feel we're not as close and that they'll only agree to see me to make me feel good and be kind, not because they really want to. They also know a lot of people and have a lot of friends and connections. Lastly, I want to stop being like this around my family, even though I don't know how.

(I've already seen a therapist for emotion management, but that didn't help. They didn't get me, and I know the tricks; I just can't apply them because by the time it happens, it's too late.)


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Funnyish story

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In elementary school I was masking ANY neroudivergency signs because my friend had a autistic brother and I thought i had to be normal because I wasn't like her brother at all! Turns out I show many signs of various disorders, including autism :/