I (f21, if that matters) made out with a guy about a week and a half ago. The guy himself was a pretty shitty romantic interest, but we made out, and I can’t stop thinking about it. Not because I miss him, although I will admit that he was physically very smooth. He was confident, and I liked that.

My issue is that when he first kissed me, I couldn’t help but pull my head away because I was so shy. I had no confidence. He mostly had to coax it out of me, not verbally, but physically. Obviously, that probably made for better flirtation between us, but after we were done, I felt really embarrassed. Even though he knew I wasn’t exactly experienced (at least not as much as him) I felt like he had the upper hand, and I think that stroked his ego. I don’t think anything else could have stroked it quite as much.

have ADHD and doing work feels physically impossible, my mom gets mad and yells at me when I don’t do my work even though she knows I have it.

EDIT: I can do the fucking work, I’m just tired of being yelled at and rushed

I just moved to a new town because i transferred colleges and i cannot stand a majority of the people that i meet.

So many guys are just trying to cope with whatever insecurities they have by being either an asshole or shallow; a lot of girls i meet are either just as shallow as the men here or just impossible to actually stay in contact with. I've had so many interactions with people in my classes that make me so confused with how some people there have actually made it this far in life. I don't know if this is a common thing to experience living in a college town but it is making it really hard to want to get to know really anybody.

Edit: i fixed the spelling of college ;-;

Seriously, Why must I always feel alone? I have zero friends, nor do I have a girl to love. I'm EIGHTEEN years old, and I'm a virgin. Love has been on my mind every day for this entire year, yet I never had a speck of it, while other men my age are soaking it up. I can't go outside without seeing a couple, and feeling envious. Even my eighteenth birthday was spent alone, aside from going out to dinner with my family. There are so many men I see who are having sex... And I'm still a virgin; I've never kissed a girl. I feel unhappy everyday.

And the men... My envy towards them has only worsened. I can't step outside my house, read, or watch anything without seeing what I've always wanted, but am incapable of getting. Let's say we go in the 1900s-2000s, and men have had lots of love and sex. This has expanded into the 2010s up until now. And I'm a virgin. It has been very torturous.

I'm eighteen and I'm young, yes, but I'm reaching the end of hope. I'm feeling utterly inferior compared to other men my age I see...the hyper-masculine, animalistic men who magnetize girls. I can only imagine how good their sex lives must feel. They must be such a stallion in bed, complete with a stallion's penis and all.

I have good qualities for myself: I'm intelligent, sophisticated, learning German, have a passion for writing, and most importantly, I only desire to treat a girl with love, care, and companionship. Just thinking of all those men simply makes me want to cry.

I'm dizzy with anguish. Something must be done about those men, but how? And what? It seems this is how I've always been viewed-inferior. I've always seemed to be inferior to boys my age, and so girls seemed to care about me not, for other boys my age were better than me. Why am I always alone? Why must I always be unhappy? Someone make sense of something so ludicrous. I've tried what must be a dozen dating apps, and I've received no results, and social anxiety makes it hard in real life.

Not all romani were gypsies, not al gypsies were romani. They sprawled across many countries Including Ireland where they weren't romani..

so I have No idea what to call the nomadic people that dressed like witch hippies since its sprawled across different nationalities, and ancestry .. and there is technically Not a name for that specific demographic ..outside, Nomads , that some find offensive. It Don't exist . You say Nomads, you don't think that Specific. Bc there were so many types, including jews at the time.. So WTF Do I call That Clothing Style? It Ain't Romani!! Romani s Many Things .. not Just gypsy, which is many nationalities, ancestry across Multiple places that Are Not that ..

There ain't a name for that ..it don't exist. So How Tf do I talk about that, when it's not ONE people.

Romani =/= gypsy, gypsy =/=romani. There were Irish gypsies As Well .. How do I talk about it. What do I call ancient traveling witch hippies that everyone gets what it is when I say one name .

I already know I'm a lazy person. But wouldn't I be motivated by food, at least? It's not like I have to do anything else, the food is already done. But I'll still sit there. Like come on lol

I would pay any amount of money for my own personal waymo like car.

I’m not talking about Teslas “FSD” supervised driving bullshit, I mean a real autonomous car.

Imagine waking up and your car is pulled out of the drive way, ready to take you to work. Then you can watch videos, read a book, fucking whatever until your destination where it drops you off and finds a parking spot.

Need to go to the airport? Your car can drop you off and then return home.

Drunk at bar? Have your car pick you up.

Roadtrip? Take a nap in the back seat!

No more circling the block for parking, just drop me off and find a free parking garage a mile away.

It’s the one piece of tech that really makes me look forward to the future.

What actually makes someone a bad person? I often wonder this about myself, because I easily get frustrated and can often be an angry loser. I often feel alone and often berate myself for such mistakes as my goal in life is to be a good person.

So I know what is to be done to be good, but I am lazy and fail to correct my mistakes despite knowing what must be corrected. Impulse and general unhappiness and loneliness stops it every time. Sometimes it isn’t even that, it’s just adrenaline. So, using myself as an example, does that make me bad as a person? Or just lame and shitty?

On the other hand, i have met people who have committed horrible crimes, who have lied to extreme extents and who have cheated on their partners.

I have also met people who are so kind and loving, but who also have intense gossipy streaks and extremely judgemental personalities. I have met people who constantly put others down for their own enjoyment (I’ve been on the end of that a good few times), but also hugely kind and encouraging people who have had incredible bursts of anger and have ruined relationships with it.

I guess I’m having a nit of a crisis of personality myself, as my anger and impulsive behaviour is being worsened by loneliness and is pulling people away from me. But what actually DOES make someone a bad person? Because it’s so grey for me, and some people who I love have been deemed bad despite me thinking that they are alright. It’s just something that is very complicated for me, and I would like to understand further. Morality is a strange concept.

So I am stuck in the middle of nowhere Indiana. The only real jobs here are blue collar jobs and with 3 open heart surgeries, those jobs are not an option for me. No real white collar jobs or those that are there, barely pay $20 an hour. The closest city with white collar jobs is an hour commute and thats in good weather. While the hour commute each way doesn't actually bother me, the price of fuel would destroy me. The healthcare in this state is so disastrous that when I went to the states level 1 trauma center for cardiac issue due to inability to get my heart meds, they could not even be bothered to consult with a cardiologist. I had to figure out what was going on and figure out the treatment myself and the ER doc just went "ok" gave me the meds and sent me on my way.

The local hospital is only a Critical Access Hospital, a Franciscan network hospital, and I have to get my INR testing done there but they are so poorly run they are not able to do the simple finger print test that diabetics and people on blood thinners like me use. They have to do a full blood draw. I asked them if they could do my blood pressure (the cause of the ER visit) and they told me theyd have to admit me to the ER for me to get my blood pressure. ER... because they couldnt do the blood pressure otherwise because the automated machine was only found there.

I can't move because I have no resources to do so. I have worked as a business analyst, logistics analyst, and a quality control engineer but the QC job messed up my knees and hips. But remote positions are in free fall in terms of availability. The closest doctors that are familiar with my condition (Loeys-Dietz) are in chicago, about 3 hours away.

To make matters worse above all else, I tried using the states vocational rehab service but as soon as I was admitted into VR, I found out federally mandated services were not offered anywhere in the state. The only services that are offered are ones the state contractors can milk for money without needing to put in much actual work. They made federal compliance optional and have been exploiting the disabled since 2015, I even got them under oath in OALP court to testify to fabricating the data they submit to the federal government for funding which is passed along to the contractors. Every state official I took this too kicked it right back to the exact individual I have under oath testifying to defrauding the federal government. They have done this to 80K-120K (rough estimate based on # of clients per year x 10) hoosiers over the last 10 years.

I am at my absolute limits with this and this all likely to cost me my life...

TLDR: BCE and CE are often redundant, it may be virtue signaling, but it definitely makes things more complicated, without real change.

Being on Reddit a bit more frequently again, old peeves start to appear once more. I'm into art history, I studied that and while this discipline ends at around the end of the first millennium. You still need to know your Greek and Roman architecture, mythology and sometimes law. Just so you know, I'm not an archeologist but in a semi-adjacent field. In any case. I try not to look but sometimes something from history subs will pop up on my feed and it'll be like "Look at this thing from the tomb of pharaoh bla bla bla from 1500 BCE". Are you fucking kidding me?

Here's the first point: It's often redundant. BCE and CE stand for "before common era" and "common era" so, before and after the year zero. Typically nobody will think of an ancient Egyptian pharaoh who lived in the middle of the FUCKING RENNAISANCE! You don't need to add a BCE to that, but it happens a lot and I can't help but wonder if that's just a disguised "oh look how mindful I am of other cultures", which would be nice, if it wouldn't be so fucking patronizing. I also never seen anyone being offended by BC (before Christ) and AD (anno domini (in the year of our lord)). It's just a now largely arbitrary point of reference in time.

Second point: It's just renaming something that pretty much explains itself, which means someone now has to explain it. Imagine you are an educator, you are well meaning, but you have a valid use for BCE or CE and now you are askes "what does BCE mean?". Could be a kid or something who never heard it that often before. Before Christ basically explained itself, now you need to explain that it's before "common era", how it's an arbitrarily set date in time and then still explain that it originally comes from religious believe, because it's still using that assumed year of the birth of Christ. I myself am an apateist. I don't particularly care, but that's where it historically came from and renaming can't change it, it can only help to obscure it and that's just adding a problem, instead of fixing it.

Third point: It doesn't change a thing and the way things work is still broken. It has often been suggested to reset the year 0 to something else. This is nothing new. Why not actually do that? Why fumble around with terminology instead? I've seen someone suggestions anywhere between 5,000 and 25,000 years ago. Just pick one, preferably the older the better, so we won't have to deal with stupid "before and after point X in time" anymore. It's gonna be hard on a few Catholics, but future humans will thank us for decluttering.

Also, while we are at it: 28 day months and 13 month years as well as getting rid of time zones. Thank you.

just to be clear, i never drink the mouthwash nor am i an alcoholic - i've only ever consumed alcohol twice in my life and didn't enjoy it either time. for some reason though, i love the burning feeling of mouthwash in my mouth and the taste and feeling of cleanliness it leaves after. i assume this is an unpopular opinion since most people i know always mention the burning of mouthwash as a major downside and the reason why they opt for alcohol-free, not to mention the general consensus amongst dentists that alcohol-based mouthwash can actually be bad for you since it kills good bacteria in addition to the bad stuff. even so, i always use mouthwash twice a day and opt for the alcohol-based ones because that part of my routine is, for me, one of those little things you look forward to each day, like seeing your pet when you get home. am i crazy for this?

That is all.

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Like

Abundance of food no starvation

Robots doing most of the work

An Ethics increase because of abundance/the AI and robotics revolution , more help for animals, children, victims, old people, and the very poor

Universal income no work

More of what people want (most people have excess) less fighting for scraps or identity

Progress in health care (disease prevention) and the related life extension

Progress in exotic areas

I'm at a point with weed where i smoke it to feel good BUT i do it so often that I'm starting to get concerned. While that hasn't really affected how much i enjoy getting high, I'm starting to want to just be consistently happy and not rely on weed as a pick me up all the time.

it concerned me the most when i tried to go without it for a day or two and it felt impossible to see my life without weed. i Realize this is a problem in itself but my biggest concern is...

WILL i be able to be happy regularly after becoming so reliant on marijuana?

Like i do it right after i get off work, right after im done getting ready in the morning on my days off AND im smoking all day on the days im off.

I'm confused because i want to believe that I'm "just one of those people that weed works for" but at the same time i think people that tell themselves that are lying to themselves because they're deep in addiction.

i still enjoy smoking it but i think my potential is being snubbed becuase im smoking it.

but at the same time im worried that ill still be the same person after i stop smoking.

so im finding it hard to tell if i should quit or not.

A: the second you turn up the music when it was just quiet, someone has to take an important call for 20+ min so you need to turn down the music.

Or B: someone has to pee so bad their bladder is about to pop every 30 minutes.

Cause it was both for me this road trip.

I just applied to this factory CNC operator position that has hours I really like. I love manufacturing work, and I've been super excited for this job. Today was my interview, and I thought I was totally ready. Usually I crush interviews. I think I've only ever had one job interview that I didn't get. I've gotten to where I don't feel nervous or bother to prepare at all. I just walk in confident and make it work. I've even had three different interviews where I went off on random tangents about world politics and I still got the job. (It helps that I've only ever applied for entry level meathead jobs.)

So I didn't think this was going to be any different. I walked into the interview room, shook their hands, and then they said "So tell us about yourself."

Nobody told me that that was going to be the whole interview. In all my entry level meathead interview experience, they always ask you questions like "What would you say are your strengths?" or "What would you do if the building caught on fire?" or "Why did you decide to apply for this job in particular?"

So I ask them "Uh. . . What do you want to know?" and they're just like "Whatever you think is important." So I just sort of explain that I enjoy working in factories before vaguely trailing off and mentioning that I recently took a trip to Japan. I THOUGHT THEY WERE JUST ASKING ME TO INTRODUCE MYSELF BUT ACTING REALLY WEIRD ABOUT IT. After I trailed off they just asked me why I left my last job and then what salary I expect, AND I DECIDED TO HIGHBALL THEM BY A DOLLAR.

I walked out feeling vaguely confused about the whole thing, and like 20 minutes later I thought of something I should've said and I was like "Oh man, I should've mentioned that when they asked about, uh. . . about. . . Did they ask me any questions? Wait, was I supposed to bring this up when they asked me to talk about myself!?"

Fortunately I managed to slip in a few positives about myself when they asked why I left my last job. Like I mentioned that I had a former manager seek me out and headhunt me into a different company to be his assistant manager. I can't imagine if they're going to read that as "Some idiot with a single unlikely story," or "Some competent guy who's profoundly terrible at selling himself."

I wish I could just walk back into the office and be like "No wait, I get it now. You wanted me to talk about myself. Yeah, it's a tough question. Took me a bit to wrap my head around it, but let me tell you about myself." At this point I'm just hoping that anybody else who applied is an even bigger meathead.

I think I had a cocktail I really don’t remember, but it tasted like lemonade that was trying WAY too hard. The weird burn is a constant reminder that this is literally poison; however, I do understand how someone could get addicted to this.

I'm guessing taste wise adult drinks go
Wine> alcohol>beer

i've noticed people get weirdly defensive when you try something and then decide it's just not for you. like someone will suggest a game or show and if you don't vibe with it after giving it a fair shot, they act like you committed a crime. when did casual interest become an all-or-nothing thing? is it just me or does everyone around you assume that trying something means you're committed to loving it forever?

37 year old male from US. Removed from what the yoots are listening to. So what are you listening to? Not just asking zoomers but that’s what I’m most clueless on.

I’m surprised when young people I work with put on the music I grew up with, but at their age I was also jamming to 1970s music my dad grew up with.

I “listen to everything” but mostly bass music now. The Mountain Goats are my favorite band and I will bump anything Talib Kweli or Kendrick.

Edit: you all have better taste than me.

In short, this person had a profoundly negative impact on my life. Our friendship blossomed within a few years and she was my first queer friend during my coming-out journey. She was there for me during some significant life changes. However, her drinking problem caused deep-seated anxiety and depression. Recently, I was invited to a party hosted by someone she knows. She won’t be there but they mentioned she’s made positive changes like quitting drinking, adopting a healthier lifestyle and moving away. I’m glad she’s decided to improve her life. Despite this, I have memories of her making me feel utterly worthless. While I don’t want to share those memories, they truly affected me and have impacted my relationships. I’ve distanced myself from her mentally and I’ve become more intentional about letting people go. This chapter of my life is spiritually closed and while I can respect her reaching out, I simply don’t have the space to welcome her back in any way. I don’t know what to do.

I was born in 2001 and I remember being seven years old, going to the computer lab at my school and learning how to type.

We had educational programs that taught us stuff like resting our fingers on the home row, using the little nubs on the F and J keys for our index fingers, etc.

Was it boring? Extremely. But in hindsight, I’m very glad I wasn’t raised on a touch screen.

As it was time to fix our clocks a few nights ago, it felt like I was given a new start. I get why many people prefer summer saving time and the change is mostly in my head in my case, but there's just something about it. I'm ready to welcome fall while I brace myself for the winter.

That's really all I wanted to say. Have a peaceful fall season, everyone <3